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daniden
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I haven’t been back, recently, to read some of the replies to my “daughter converted to lds” post down below. But I just now did. Thank you all for the insightful responses. There’s been a new development, so I thought I’d post this to a new thread so it wouldn’t get lost in the original one.
Our daughter(Kaitlyn), came to us a couple weeks ago asking to come back to the Catholic Church because she was beginning to question the stuff at the LDS and was upset over a few friends there who were being not- so- nice to her. She wanted to come camping with us and on the trip, asked to go to confession and received the Eucharist again for the first time in months. But, the next Sunday (last week), although she went to Mass with us and said it made her feel peaceful and sane, she came home and right away wanted to “work things out” with the bishop of her ward and was brought home later that night by one of her missionary friends (who is also one of her LDS “teachers”). I’ll admit it…I lost it. I ran to my room and started crying. I couldn’t help it. She flip flops like this so much, I guess I should be used to it, but we were kinda hopeful this time. We had a few, very deep talks over the past couple weeks (she also wanted to come with me to a Catholic talk that some of her friends were at and was happy to see them) and we thought she was finally seeing the light. She said that she just can’t “take sides.” We really feel like she wants to have all the friends and fun of the LDS church (when there isn’t all the craziness, that is) and still wants to go to Mass. She has the opportunity to go to Catholic young adult activities and such, but she just doesn’t want to and quite honestly with all the lds activities that they have, there is no way that we can “compete” with that. Their activities are CONSTANT.
She also admitted to me that the main reason she converted was because she thought it would be new and exciting and that there was a boy there that she liked and she could see him at church every week and at all the activities. He used her though…saying all the “right things” to try and get what he wanted. Nothing happened, thank God, but that seems to be a very common “theme” with these young men, at least at her particular ward. They seem to get engaged right away and when it doesn’t work out, they move on to the next girl. She’s met at least 3 young men like this so far.
I really think it has to do with what these boys are taught from a young age, But, I won’t get into that here.
She also accused us of being more controlling that the lds church and that we hate Mormons (she said this in front of our 11 yo daughter). Ummm…seriously? I do NOT hate Mormons. I’ve told her that I think they believe they have the best intentions at heart, but that they are misguided. For that, I feel pity towards them, but I absolutely do not hate them. We had lds neighbors that were very sweet with very nice families. As far as control, she came to US for help. We’re NOT controlling, we were just simply trying to help her discern what was going on over there and trying to help comfort her too. I don’t think she really recognizes what true control is, even when it’s staring her in the face because she’s so blinded by all the “love bombing” that goes on there.
Anyway, her dad and I are at the point where we just don’t know what to do anymore…maybe there is nothing TO do anymore. The other day, I just threw my hands up in the air and told God, “She’s all yours.” I am just so DONE.
We will always be here for her and she knows that, but I’m so emotionally and mentally spent…not just over her faith, but over all her life issues (she still lives at home, so there’s no way to get away from it either). I have nothing left but to just try and focus on our other five children(besides her, we have 2 other young adults and 3 children-11,9, and 4) and just let her be. I’m so tired. :bighanky: Please pray for me…for us.
Our daughter(Kaitlyn), came to us a couple weeks ago asking to come back to the Catholic Church because she was beginning to question the stuff at the LDS and was upset over a few friends there who were being not- so- nice to her. She wanted to come camping with us and on the trip, asked to go to confession and received the Eucharist again for the first time in months. But, the next Sunday (last week), although she went to Mass with us and said it made her feel peaceful and sane, she came home and right away wanted to “work things out” with the bishop of her ward and was brought home later that night by one of her missionary friends (who is also one of her LDS “teachers”). I’ll admit it…I lost it. I ran to my room and started crying. I couldn’t help it. She flip flops like this so much, I guess I should be used to it, but we were kinda hopeful this time. We had a few, very deep talks over the past couple weeks (she also wanted to come with me to a Catholic talk that some of her friends were at and was happy to see them) and we thought she was finally seeing the light. She said that she just can’t “take sides.” We really feel like she wants to have all the friends and fun of the LDS church (when there isn’t all the craziness, that is) and still wants to go to Mass. She has the opportunity to go to Catholic young adult activities and such, but she just doesn’t want to and quite honestly with all the lds activities that they have, there is no way that we can “compete” with that. Their activities are CONSTANT.
She also admitted to me that the main reason she converted was because she thought it would be new and exciting and that there was a boy there that she liked and she could see him at church every week and at all the activities. He used her though…saying all the “right things” to try and get what he wanted. Nothing happened, thank God, but that seems to be a very common “theme” with these young men, at least at her particular ward. They seem to get engaged right away and when it doesn’t work out, they move on to the next girl. She’s met at least 3 young men like this so far.
I really think it has to do with what these boys are taught from a young age, But, I won’t get into that here.She also accused us of being more controlling that the lds church and that we hate Mormons (she said this in front of our 11 yo daughter). Ummm…seriously? I do NOT hate Mormons. I’ve told her that I think they believe they have the best intentions at heart, but that they are misguided. For that, I feel pity towards them, but I absolutely do not hate them. We had lds neighbors that were very sweet with very nice families. As far as control, she came to US for help. We’re NOT controlling, we were just simply trying to help her discern what was going on over there and trying to help comfort her too. I don’t think she really recognizes what true control is, even when it’s staring her in the face because she’s so blinded by all the “love bombing” that goes on there.
Anyway, her dad and I are at the point where we just don’t know what to do anymore…maybe there is nothing TO do anymore. The other day, I just threw my hands up in the air and told God, “She’s all yours.” I am just so DONE.
We will always be here for her and she knows that, but I’m so emotionally and mentally spent…not just over her faith, but over all her life issues (she still lives at home, so there’s no way to get away from it either). I have nothing left but to just try and focus on our other five children(besides her, we have 2 other young adults and 3 children-11,9, and 4) and just let her be. I’m so tired. :bighanky: Please pray for me…for us.