I am SO sorry…I should have qualified that by saying, not until the morning sickness was over!
Do you really have to know exactly what she’s referring to, to understand the situation she’s presenting? She was writing a G-rated OP.Originally Posted by GeorgeLopez
No. I don’t know.
Never mind George - everyone else seems to get it.
She’s trying to be discreet - just let it go.
“you know…” whatI’m with George, what the heck is she talking about:shrug:
Yes, but your hormones will be changing…Hoo boy will they change…You have to live it up as much as possible until you are too big and ungainly to… you know. Some women enjoy themselves right up almost until delivery…We kinda did…Had to find different positions, and it sorta felt like the baby was watching…toward the end of the pregnancy…:blushing: If the baby was quiet it was easier…which they usually are during the day, when you are up and moving around.
Yeah, as much as I’m good with adapting with what comes my way, I don’t think I could really ever go into anything without some sort of plan. It might not go according to plan (and probably won’t) and it doesn’t have to be super detailed, but it helps me stay focused on how to adapt when situations arise. It does have to be slightly more detailed than “Have baby. Don’t kill baby. Make baby become adult.” though.Yup, right there with you, includingthe having kids but not babies fantasies. I dealt with it by simply refusing to think about it.
I was getting sick and having nightmares reading “what to expect when you’re expecting” . I wasyoung and fairly uncalculated. I still take that approach every time we have to make a tough decision: do it, go head first, worry about the problems only when they arise".
Im sure there’s a better way of going about it however
Honestly, I’m kinda depending on that, especially the first few years. Several of our friends have said we probably shouldn’t have kids because we’d want them to be full fledged adults by the time they enter school. That’s not entirely true, but I’m certainly hoping the “completely helpless” phase is over pretty fast. Although, that is generally followed by the “put everything in my mouth” phase and the “how many ways can I try to kill myself today” phase…
You can’t make the baby become an adult. He or she will do that naturally, one day at a time. In fact, from the moment your baby is out of your body, the trajectory is away from you and toward a life of his/her own. Hard to realize it at first, because they seem so helpless, but there’s a little engine inside them that powers them to start lifting their heads, turning over, crawling, scooting, walking, running, thinking on their own, all on their own path and not necessarily the one we choose for them.
Well, it would be pretty painful, and you’d miss all the wonderful phases up to that point. You can’t have a 7 year old without having gone through 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, and newborn.
Yes! Avoid the “war stories”, not every mother has one by the way. I thoroughly enjoyed being pregnant, you won’t hear any complaints from my direction!
No one has actually stated how they are interpretting it or what they are giving advise on, so how would anyone know if anything is being misinterpretted?
And the reason for that is, according to my wife, because she can’t get pregnant again while she is pregnant so all of that worry is gone. Sure seems to enjoy it more. ha ha.OP, one more fun thing…
Once you get pregnant and all those hormones start surging…“it” is really fun. I mean, really, REALLY fun. It’s not just me, a lot of women find pregnant sex to be the best we ever had.
Try to stop thinking so much. Hum a song, imagine a visual image, say a prayer, whatever. You are way down the line into the future. Live in this moment.
My friends say the same thing about me! Or that I’m too smart, sarcastic, cynical, too sensitive about bodily functions, etc. to have kids.
I can’t speak about it from a woman’s perspective. However, as someone with a three-year-old daughter, I can speak about the finality of being a parent. The adjustment was a big one. Your life will never be the same–the balance, though, is all positive. Over the long run, it will bring blessings that you won’t, or can’t even imagine.
Well, if you could magically give birth to a seven year old, I assume the stork would be involved. Although, I do have a couple friends who’ve had several kids and have never really enjoyed the baby phase. It’s worthwhile to get through it to when they’re walking and talking and such, however.Well, it would be pretty painful, and you’d miss all the wonderful phases up to that point. You can’t have a 7 year old without having gone through 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, and newborn.
I know I am having this conversation with a person who has never had children. Once you have them, you never think this way again.
Kids can smell fear. I swear. It’s like cats who like to seek out the most allergic person in the room.
You know I never married myself and probably won’t now or have kids but I used to go back and forth on wanting kids myself. Not the actual kids themselves just going through the whole pregnancy thing too. I never looked forward to that due to issues my mom had and I anticipated having. I’m kind of glad it’s something I don’t have to worry about anymore as I’m passed that age. So I’d say your concerns are normal. It’s a big change and a tough process on the body.
I never imagined that I would have kids. I always knew I wanted to get married, but kids were never in the picture (my mom taught me about contraception from a young age, so I didn’t ever think that sex=babies, and abortion was always an option in my mom eyes). I taught for several years, but I never wanted kids of my own. I knew how much work they were.
Plus I’m too cynical and sarcastic to have children.This sort of highlights a lot of the general responses I get – the idea that we have “a lot of time to get ready”. Yes, there is nine months between the positive pregnancy test and birth, but the big panic is that you can’t opt out of it. You have nine months to accept the inevitable. When we got engaged, we had almost a year to plan our wedding and talk about things and prepare. However, we could have called it off at any moment. We made a decision, then thought and reevaluated and decided to continue on. With a baby, that process has to take place before we have sex, not before I give birth, and I don’t know about anybody else, but the decision to have sex on any given day is not necessarily thought through with the planning and contemplation that we gave to deciding to walk down the aisle. We could be snuggling on the couch one day, one thing leads to another and bam pregnant. You wouldn’t get married with that sort of laissez-faire attitude, but couples will often have kids that way because the decision and agreement to have kids was already made beforehand.
Agree with you on this. It’s a little presumptuous to assume that a woman getting married needs to be told how to care for her health. Leave that to her and her doctor. You shouldn’t take vitamins without consulting your doctor first, anyway. You never know what another woman’s health circumstances are.
