Hi,
I’m against the pill, but I see no difference in intent between NFP and contraception.
The intent, also known as the “end” is indeed the same. The end is to space or avoid pregnancy for a time or indefinitely. The Church does not teach this is immoral, intrinsically. One can have just reasons for spacing.
Contraception and abstaining from sexual intercourse are two different means of achieving the end of spacing. One is immoral, the other is moral.
Just as when one has the “end” of obtaining food for one’s family, one may use an immoral means of obtaining the food (stealing) or a moral means (buying).
I argue that NFP is contraception because you intentionally have sex when you can’t get pregnant.
That is not what contraception is. Else, a pregnant woman and her husband would be contracepting-- and sinning-- when they engage in intercourse as would a postmenopausal couple or any couple afflicted with the burden of infertility through disease or defect.
Such is not the case.
Contraception is the act of engaging in intercourse while taking a deliberate action to render it sterile.
A couple using the infertile period of a woman’s cycle, a pregnant couple, a post menopausal couple, and a couple infertile by disease or defect, take no such action. They engage in a fully unitive and fully procreative act. The act is objectively procreative because it is completed in the way God designed it, and it is unaltered.
Contraception is immoral because it actively attempts to separate the unitive and procreative elements by an overt act of the will. Masterbation, homosexual sexual relations, heterosexual anal or oral “intercourse,” also are immoral for the same reason.
If NFP is 99.9% (or so) effective at preventing pregnancy just like the pill, isn’t a couple with the knowledge of this sinning because they are having sex when they KNOW that the procreative aspect of the act is missing.
No. See above. The couple knows they are naturally infertile. They can have sex or not. It’s their choice. But if they have sexual relations they do not alter it in any way.
A sex act that is complete and unaltered is *objectively *procreative, even if *subjectively *it doesn’t result in conception due to time of the cycle, pregnancy, age, or disease/defect. The couple engages in the act 100% the way God designed it.
A sex act that is sterilized via contraception is not objectively procreative *even if *it subjectively results in conception via method failure.
They are intentionally having sex when they know they cannot get pregnant, just like someone who is using any other form of contraception.
It is not “just like” someone who uses contraception.
Someone who uses contraception says “I want to engage in sex, on my time and my way, but I don’t want a baby, so I will sterilize the act and throw you and the way you designed intercourse out, God.”
Someone who uses the infertile period of the cycle says, “I want to engage in sex, but I don’t want a baby, so I will wait-- God-- and respect the way you made sex and refrain from sexual relations until such time as you have given us in the rhythm of the cycle.”
Also, if anyone has any links to scripture or writings on why each sex act has to be both unifying and procreative (and why it can’t be one or the other) I’d appreciate it.
Thanks!
Read Casti Connubii and Humanae Vitae for starters.
You can get a free copy of Janet Smith’s “Contraception, Why Not?” at
www.omsoul.com
They also have a number of other resourses (books and pamphlets) dealing with the immorality of contraception. I highly recommend the book The Bible And Birth Control by Charles Provan (not a Catholic) if you come from a protestant “bible only” background and are finding it hard to kick that way of thinking.