Niece Cheek Kiss Husband

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Hi, we come from a family of cheek kissers from our culture and my niece is in her twenties and pretty and when we have family gatherings she greets my husband with a kiss on the cheek recently. My husband is a decent man and I trust him but I feel uncomfortable and I feel the enemy is trying to put things in my head that aren’t there. None have given any indication that this normal custom should be cause for concern.
With that said I wondered what other married Catholics would say regarding this, innocent enough to ignore or if it’s inappropriate how to end this custom? Thank you to everyone. Sincerely.
 
Kissing in greeting is a lovely custom. Don’t make something that is so basic into something ugly. Reject those thoughts.
 
If cheek kissing is normal and customary in your family and culture, then by definition it is innocent and isn’t inappropriate.

On the other hand, it bothers you.

You say you trust your husband - do you trust your niece? Do you think she is likely to try and seduce him?

If not, then - yeah - ignore it.

But if you can’t ignore it, don’t make this your husband’s issue - you go to your niece and tell her that you don’t want her kissing your husband because it makes you feel uncomfortable.

Don’t make it about her, don’t make it about your husband - make it about you, because you’re the one with the issue.
 
There is nothing at all wrong with this. Just put it out of your mind and think no more of it. 🙂

My dad’s side of the family are also of an ethnicity where it is common to greet loved ones with a kiss on the cheek. My uncles on this side of the family have always kissed me on the cheek, and I have always thought it a sweet, somewhat European sort of greeting. Never have I or anyone else in the family thought it was inappropriate.

Let it go; don’t make something innocent into something wrong, in your head or otherwise. (And don’t say anything to your niece about it. That will just make things super awkward forevermore.)
 
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I also said this on the other thread:

A niece kisses her uncle on the cheek.

How is that even remotely an issue?

It doesn’t even have to be European thing. It’s hardly uncommon among North Americans to have this kind of family dynamic.
 
You feel insecure and therefore have some jealousy issues.
This can cause you a lot of grief and worry,
and damage your relationship with your husband.
He needs to feel that you trust him, just as you need his trust.
You could look up sites like: https://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2014/03/04/8-healthy-ways-to-deal-with-jealousy/
but you certainly need to work on trust issues.
Jealousy isn’t always a logical issue, but certainly an emotional one, a potentially destructive of personal peace and happiness, as well as relationships.

May God guide you, and lead you to determine the best way to deal with your trust issues.
Kind wishes and prayers
 
My wife kisses my dad on the cheek when she greets him. I don’t think it’s a big deal in a family. Especially if it’s what everyone in the family does.

I don’t reccomend saying anything anything to your niece. I mean…what would you say…I think you might seduce my husband so please stop kissing him when you meet? Yeah…that’s one way to cause a family row and to make yoursef look creepy and possesive.

I don’t think you should make this anyone else’s issue. It sounds like you need to work on insecurity issues.
 
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