Timidity.
Singing is an intimate expression of the self. It is not the same as speaking. We are afraid for others to hear us express ourselves in such an intimate way. We are self conscious of the quality of the sound we produce. Rather than spontaneously praise, we judge the quality of the sound we make, and of those around us. We are afraid to be heard.
I have to think this reflects our modern culture, that tries to discourage public expressions of faith.
This is one of the results of a lack of music education in the schools AND in the HOME!
With rare exceptions, anyone can LEARN to sing correctly. Not everyone will have a solo voice, but almost all of us can learn to blend our voice with others.
It’s a question of training.
Sadly, many children are not raised at home anymore with a mom or dad who sings to them regularly. Daycare centers generally do not teaching singing to the very young infant/toddler (they SHOULD teach singing at these ages!). And many schools have awful music education programs; instead of singing, they teach “bouncing” to pop music. It makes me sick to watch even the CHRISTIAN schools do this–put on a CD of really bad contemporary Christian children’s music and encourage the kids to “dance” and “praise the Lord.” No attempt is made to teach children how to read music (even very young children can and should learn this valuable skill), or how to sing properly.
Aaagh.
clem456, singing is “intimate,” but in the past, it was done by EVERYONE in many life settings. Men and women sang while they worked, and many children sang together during games and play. Soldiers sang together! Many companies had corporate songs or hymns that everyone sang together. Many homes had a piano in the “parlor” or dining room, and “entertaining” included a time of gathering around the piano and singing favorite songs! SLAVES sang together and created a treasury of beautiful spirituals. People sang together while marching in political rallies and protest marches.
All throughout American history, people have sung together! Where do you suppose all those folk songs came from? They weren’t sung by “pop stars!” They were sung by families and friends in social settings.
Our family sang together, and still does. One of the highlights of our family Christmas is a sing-along of carols, led by one of our cousins who has a country band.
Somehow, we have managed to turn singing together into something almost sexual, and we seem to have the attitude that doesn’t allow us to dare share our inmost being with others in this intimate act of singing.
I say baloney. Singing is one of the cheapest and easiest forms of socializing, and it’s a darned SHAME that we have allowed it to be taken away from us!!!