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purplesunshine
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again NOT A REQUIREMENT…it’s ideal and even typical but not listed in the requirements. You have your grandmother and I’m sure she’d be honored. And if my parish priest asked me to help out a young family I’d be honored and I’d do what I could to help them. You’re making alot of assumptions here…perhaps becuase you’re tired. It may be time to “put your life mask” on first and take care of some physical needs of YOURS before worrying about the spiritual needs of your young children.
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LaSainte
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It says in the requirements that the person must have the intention of fulfilling their role as godparent. Obviously this means more than simply showing up at the baptism. No way some random parishioner is going to honestly be willing to do that for the life of my child.
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kmuestwin
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A Godparent isn’t as important of a spiritual mentor as a Confirmation Sponsor. Let Grandma do it. She will feel like its a blessing to have an active role in your baby’s first steps as a Christian.
P.S. You have 15-17 years to help your child find a Confirmation sponsor. Start looking early!
Mary_Gail_36
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May I suggest something?
Ask Father who will be doing the Baptism for his advice. Do you have a list of potential Godparents that you feel that could possibly be the ones? Bring your concerns to Father and he’ll let you know if your concerns are valid. Some might not be good godparents for obvious reasons. On the other hand, but you might be too scrupulous in your search.
Ask Father who will be doing the Baptism for his advice. Do you have a list of potential Godparents that you feel that could possibly be the ones? Bring your concerns to Father and he’ll let you know if your concerns are valid. Some might not be good godparents for obvious reasons. On the other hand, but you might be too scrupulous in your search.
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Bookcat
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“be a Catholic who has been confirmed and has received the blessed Eucharist, and who lives a life of faith which befits the role to be undertaken”
“So too is the role of the godfather and godmother, who must be firm believers, able and ready to help the newly baptized - child or adult on the road of Christian life.55 Their task is a truly ecclesial function (officium).”
If you cannot find anyone younger…it may be that Grandma will be the one to choose.
It may be that the memory of her in years to come…and her prayers will be still sustain even after she has gone to God.
One only needs one Godparent.
Then when confirmation comes…one can find someone younger.
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Castello
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What about asking your priest or one of your deacons to be the godparent?
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LaSainte
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Ok we decided on my husbands father as the godfather. He is an awesome man and a great catholic. And we decided on a friend as a Christian witness. I am honestly not sure how active in her faith she is but she is a good friend and a Christian.
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purplesunshine
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That’s great news. Having a Christian witness is a cool idea.
Again, if something happens remember that God will provide. My cousin picked my brother as Godfather becuase he was the most likely to live locally. (I lived in New England, my other brother loved the West and my third brother was gunning for NYC) He got married now lives in flordia a thousand miles away. But my cousin’s second husband (the first one abondoned her) has a great Catholic family and they have stepped in.
Now! Have someone take the toddler and the baby for a few hours and get some rest.
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LaSainte
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Thank you so much!!! The baby actually slept a little bit last night, so I’m feeling loads better todayThat’s great news. Having a Christian witness is a cool idea.
Again, if something happens remember that God will provide. My cousin picked my brother as Godfather becuase he was the most likely to live locally. (I lived in New England, my other brother loved the West and my third brother was gunning for NYC) He got married now lives in flordia a thousand miles away. But my cousin’s second husband (the first one abondoned her) has a great Catholic family and they have stepped in.
Now! Have someone take the toddler and the baby for a few hours and get some rest.
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anruari
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I know what you mean
I want the Godparents of my children to be people who we hope and expect to remain active in our childrens lives - not be people who just send cards & gifts at birthdays or Christmas - or worse - are rarely heard from again.
I asked my eldest brother to be the Godfather to our first boy. and a friend of my wife’s to be a second witness (she’s not Christian, but that’s not her fault she never had the chance)
We dont know who to ask this time 'round. (my wife is pregnant, and due when our son will be 25 months old)
We are active in the local church but as yet have not formed any strong friendships with other Catholics.
I want the Godparents of my children to be people who we hope and expect to remain active in our childrens lives - not be people who just send cards & gifts at birthdays or Christmas - or worse - are rarely heard from again.
I asked my eldest brother to be the Godfather to our first boy. and a friend of my wife’s to be a second witness (she’s not Christian, but that’s not her fault she never had the chance)
We dont know who to ask this time 'round. (my wife is pregnant, and due when our son will be 25 months old)
We are active in the local church but as yet have not formed any strong friendships with other Catholics.
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maryjk
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Please don’t assume that simply because someone is a “random parishioner” they wouldn’t be honored to be a Godparent.
If I were at the church and a baptism was about to happen but they found out that there wasn’t a “Godparent” only Christian witnesses. I would welcome the question, “will you stand in and be this child’s godparent.” My only issue would be that I wouldn’t have a baptism gift for the child.
Of course you would then end up having to deal with me as a forever friend to your child.
Since I would take my roll as Godparent to heart. I am sure there are many such parishioners around the world.
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LaSainte
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Mary, I think you’re one in a million! Any kid would be blessed to have you as a godmother.Please don’t assume that simply because someone is a “random parishioner” they wouldn’t be honored to be a Godparent.
If I were at the church and a baptism was about to happen but they found out that there wasn’t a “Godparent” only Christian witnesses. I would welcome the question, “will you stand in and be this child’s godparent.” My only issue would be that I wouldn’t have a baptism gift for the child.
Of course you would then end up having to deal with me as a forever friend to your child.
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thistle
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As far as I know it is allowed for the priest to be a godparent. Why don’t you ask him.
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Dymphna82
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This whole Godparent thing bugs me. I’m not even sure why it’s necessary. I never met my godfather because he disappeared.
I know another person who became the godmother of her boyfriend’s niece. The niece only converted because she wants to marry her boyfriend, that she knew for a month before getting engaged. The uncle(who also converted last year) lives in the niece’s family’s home, and chose to sleep with the godmother, in the niece’s bed. The godmother doesn’t go to church often, and considers Canon Law and he Bible just things to consider, equal to the philosophies of any other belief system.
It makes me upset that such new Catholics are stunting their growth so early.
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