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I can definitely relate. I prayed so much and for so long for true friends. It’s funny how the people I thought I really wanted to be friends with (other stay at home moms with large families) I ended up not having as close friends and I have been able to enjoy friendships with others who are seemingly so different: a protestant friend, a Catholic friend who isn’t very educated in the faith who is attending school, a mom with 2 kids who works part-time and is 9 years older, etc.

I thought I was looking for a friend that I could share personal stuff with and talk to everyday like a sister, but I ended up finding out that no matter how much I trusted a friend I don’t like sharing intimate details of my life. Then only person I truly want to talk to everyday and share private things with is my husband.

I also found out that it was really hard to find a true friend when I was looking for one.

I found that I can be inspired to reach out to someone, which really surprised me.

I found that when I am myself things go much better. Sincerity cannot be faked.

I found that I cannot sit around and wait for people to show up and want to be friends with me and I got active in organizations and hobbies.

I found that it’s not my job to be constantly assessing another’s state of grace.

I found that nobody is perfect, even me!

I’m still not a social butterfly by any means but I’ve come a long way. Best wishes to you. Michelle
 
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I can definitely relate. I prayed so much and for so long for true friends. It’s funny how the people I thought I really wanted to be friends with (other stay at home moms with large families) I ended up not having as close friends and I have been able to enjoy friendships with others who are seemingly so different: a protestant friend, a Catholic friend who isn’t very educated in the faith who is attending school, a mom with 2 kids who works part-time and is 9 years older, etc.

I thought I was looking for a friend that I could share personal stuff with and talk to everyday like a sister, but I ended up finding out that no matter how much I trusted a friend I don’t like sharing intimate details of my life. Then only person I truly want to talk to everyday and share private things with is my husband.

I also found out that it was really hard to find a true friend when I was looking for one.

I found that I can be inspired to reach out to someone, which really surprised me.

I found that when I am myself things go much better. Sincerity cannot be faked.

I found that I cannot sit around and wait for people to show up and want to be friends with me and I got active in organizations and hobbies.

I found that it’s not my job to be constantly assessing another’s state of grace.

I found that nobody is perfect, even me!

I’m still not a social butterfly by any means but I’ve come a long way. Best wishes to you. Michelle
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well, CAF needs a friends club! iam in! if anyone wants to be a friend to a funny humorous 41 year old who loves God dearly and her hubby and family, well, let me know:) i love meeting people and enjoy their friendships:) i give my best! 🙂 as a matter of fact, iam gonna pop over to the back fence and start a thread for friends! so if you wanna come look in the back fence for the friendship club and come on in!
 
Aww…:console: Well you have at least one friend now…ME! :hug1:

I have been just like yourself all of my life (that’s 25 years now…but who’s counting!) 😉 I would constantly go to young adult meetings at church to try to make friends, and usually just ended up sitting alone, while everyone else had so much fun without me. 😦 I know the pain and hurt, sadness and confusion.

I know how hard it is to make friends. The only friends I really have are on CAF. Maybe you can make some on here too! Just starting this thread you’ve made several I see.

I used to pray for friends. I would have them for a couple of months, then, for some reason we’d drift apart. Then, one blessed day I met a friend. He wanted to spend even just 15 minutes a day with me every single day. We had so much fun together. He was the nicest thing that has ever happened to me. We became close friends, best of friends even. We even got married, and have been married for 16 months now. He is still my best friend forever. He has been and always will be. I thank God for him every single day.

During this time become best friends with Jesus. I know I did. I was so lonely I cried, almost every night. But, I would give my tears and pain to Jesus. And He listened. My best friend/husband showed up about three years after I started praying for him.

You can Private Message me anytime. I love to talk. I would love to have you as a friend. I am certain you will make lots more here on CAF. :hug1: :grouphug:

God bless you. Prayers for you to find a good friend! 👍
 
Like Faithful2005’s good friend, “Shalome-y my homie” is protestant. And no, she was never Jewish…LOL

Her husband and herself are SO WELL educated in their faith (and so pro-Catholic without being so!) I not only have learned a lot about P-Faith, but learned a lot all-around from them. Their values and ideals, as well as knowledge of theology is commendable. We have VERY different political views but we don’t go there. We respect that. Above all else – agree to disagree, but more so- agree to respect each other’s differences. It makes us closer and more understanding, not just of each other, but of humans in general.

Again, I am so blessed to have her.
 
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