After skimming the thread, I thought it would be helpful to use an analogy to help clarify the difference between rejecting (or rather, suspending) belief in a god versus rejecting the god.
I got the idea of this analogy from
this interesting video, so the credit of this analogy should go to him.
If Theresa asks Anthony on a date and he declines, Anthony has rejected Theresa.
However, lets say Theresa tries to set Anthony up with a blind date with Gloria, but Anthony doesn’t believe that Theresa knows Gloria, is an agent on Gloria’s behalf, or that Gloria even exists (perhaps Theresa described Gloria as too ideal). Is Anthony rejecting Gloria by not believing that Gloria exists (even if Gloria actually does exist)? No.
If, on the other hand, Gloria later contacts Anthony directly and he decides not to go out with her, then he
has rejected her.
It is not clear that he is rejecting
her because he has not taken the time to get to know her. What he has rejected is the possibility of knowing, and only then, rejecting her.
Certainly, he might know some things “about” Gloria, but in reality Gloria is not those things. She is a person that can only be known after many days, years, perhaps a lifetime, and even then only incompletely.
Now, if Anthony thinks that his brief encounter with Gloria is sufficient to “know her” and this is grounds for rejecting her, then that speaks to the shallow understanding that Anthony has of “others.” This, in fact, would be grounds for Gloria to reject him as a shallow person who would base judgements of others on brief encounters.
Apply this thinking to God. Perhaps we do not reject God so much as take a “shallow” approach to getting to know him. This could be true of believers as well as atheists.
A shallow believer would be one who “believes” because of the things s/he perceives God provides to them. Comfort, wealth, good fortune, eternal life, etc. This is a kind of “gold-digger” mentality where the principle motive for having God around is, not for “who” he is, but for what could be had. God could be dropped as soon as the good things weren’t “being got.”
A shallow atheist, on the other hand, is one who hears some things “about” God that they do not find appealing and, like Anthony,
reject the possibility of knowing God because they don’t like what they hear about him. Again, they haven’t taken the time to “get to know” God on a personal level in order to find out for themselves
who God is.
Similarly, when someone cannot, in spite of their best efforts to seek evidence for the existence of a deity, believe that a god exists, they are not rejecting the god, they are only rejecting (or rather, suspending) belief of that god.
If, as Theresa’s idealized Gloria, God is “that which none greater can exist,” then it seems to me that settling for anyone less, i.e., doing anything less than pursuing God to the ends of the earth and leaving no stone unturned, to find him, in person, as the object of one’s “meaningful interaction,” would be the same as “rejecting” him.
If Anthony based his “rejection” of Gloria on whatever reasons he decides, he still bears responsibility for his rejection. It was his choice, based upon his terms. If Gloria turns out to be the most amazing creature on God’s earth, Anthony cannot “blame” anyone else for his “rejection” of her. He cannot, with regret, appeal to the fact that he didn’t really get the opportunity to know her well enough, as an excuse. He made the decision to reject the possibility of getting to know her better.
Anthony might retreat to the “Gloria didn’t show her real self,” as an excuse, but as in all relationships, trust must be earned. Gloria may not have revealed herself precisely because she could read Anthony as not completely trustworthy because he appeared to her good judgement to be making shallow assessments of her on their first meeting. He wasn’t operating at a completely sincere level and so didn’t merit a “complete” revelation.
Personal relationships are not the kind of “knowing” that can be built upon knowledge “about” the other, but on a personal encounter with the person him or her self. If Anthony kept insisting that a relationship with Gloria can only be founded upon his knowledge of her that he garners from others or from Googling her name, then he has shown an unreadiness to pursue any kind of relationship with her, except of the most shallow sort. He has rejected the possibility of “knowing” her because he is incapable of it.