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I have no motivation to go to church. Every week I think I should but once the weekend gets here, I have no desire anymore. Thoughts?
 
Do your husband and kids go to mass? How well do you know your faith? Do you really understand what the mass is all about and what is happening at each part? Do you study the bible regularly? We need a bit more info to know where you are coming from.

God bless you.

Paul
 
Perhaps a different parish? See a Dr. about depression? Go to Mass with friends or relatives, with maybe a stop at a restaurant after?
 
If you’re a Sunday Catholic, there’s where the problem lies. IMO. There are daily Masses, try going for one. Learn about how Jesus had suffered and died for you. “The day before he Suffered”…

MJ
 
I agree with the suggestion about daily Mass – it’s guaranteed to be quieter, with fewer people, a shorter homily and not as hectic. While you’re there, you might pray for the grace to want to become more active.

I think the very act of posting on this board is a sign that you’re at least thinking about it – which is the first step in responding to the invitation that Jesus is extending to you.

If you’re not up for Mass yet, just go sit for 30 minutes in church and ask to know and do God’s will.

God bless you.
 
mrs_abbott said:
I have no motivation to go to church. Every week I think I should but once the weekend gets here, I have no desire anymore. Thoughts?
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Is this something new or have you always felt this way?
 
mrs_abbott said:
I have no motivation to go to church. Every week I think I should but once the weekend gets here, I have no desire anymore. Thoughts?
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I urge you to start praying, morning and night (guessing that you don’t?).
If you invite the Holy Spirit to give you help, you will receive it.

The habit of prayer is my current challenge, but I’m improving.
 
I’m sure you do all sorts of things without necessarily ‘desiring’ them - I’m sure you’re not crazily enthused about brushing your teeth, washing the dishes, cleaning the bathroom or whatnot. I’m sure you somehow muster up the willpower to get these necessary tasks done anyway.

Think about the fact that it greatly pleases God for you to go - so much so that He enshrined it as part of the commandment to honour the Sabbath day, so obviously it’s something that’s really important to Him, as important as any of the other nine commandments. Something to ponder on.
 
mrs_abbott said:
I have no motivation to go to church. Every week I think I should but once the weekend gets here, I have no desire anymore. Thoughts?
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Friend Mrs Abbott: I suppose I’ve heard a lot of reasons why a person should go to mass or church. Whatever the particulars, I see the point of that as being close to God. Is there something that makes you feel close to God? Some activity? How about doing whatever it is that makes you feel close to Him? That solution won’t be acceptable to everyone, but perhaps it will be acceptable to you and God? I can’t say, but perhaps you can. 🙂

Respectfully,
Sufjon
 
PaulDupre said:
Do your husband and kids go to mass? How well do you know your faith? Do you really understand what the mass is all about and what is happening at each part? Do you study the bible regularly? We need a bit more info to know where you are coming from.

God bless you.

Paul
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My oldest son is 5 years old and LOVES going to church so I try and go just for him, if nothing else. My husband doesn’t go to church but he is Catholic. I know my faith pretty well (born and raised Catholic) and my parents took us kids to church EVERY Sunday and Holy Day my entire life. I even went to church on my own in college for awhile. Then I got into some “bad stuff” and fell away.
No, I don’t study my bible as often as I should. I probably look at it maybe twice a month on my own.
If there’s anything else you want to know, just ask. I know I was kinda vague with the opening post.
 
what else do you do regularly for which you have no inner drive, but recognize the necessity? Do you have an inner drive to change diapers, iron, scrub the corners of the bathroom floor, find out what is lurking in the old pizza boxes in your teenager’s room? Fight rush hour traffic 2 hrs a day, put up with those jerks at work, No? Well then why do you do these things? Because you recognize the need and that is the motivation you need. That gets you dragging through your day, but you ramp it up when you do these things for love. Same with Mass. Try making it an intentional act of love.
 
Sufjon said:
Friend Mrs Abbott: I suppose I’ve heard a lot of reasons why a person should go to mass or church. Whatever the particulars, I see the point of that as being close to God. Is there something that makes you feel close to God? Some activity? How about doing whatever it is that makes you feel close to Him? That solution won’t be acceptable to everyone, but perhaps it will be acceptable to you and God? I can’t say, but perhaps you can. 🙂

Respectfully,
Sufjon
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We do just try and talk more (me and God) and sometimes it’s easier than others. Reading my bible with some Michael W. Smith playing softly in the background is usually a peaceful time. Time has been my enemy lately, since my husband works out of town during the week and I also work during the day. I am still looking for the balance, order and control of it all. By the end of the end, I am wiped out and ready to go to bed, which is usually my only time to talk to God.
 
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For about 8 years now. Ever since I fell into some “rough times”, I haven’t fully recovered when it comes to my relationship with God.
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Do you do other forms of prayer? Is it all prayer that’s hard, or just going to Mass?

Have you sat down with God…taken some extended time…and really told him what’s in your heart? I’m just guessing, but perhaps you feel that God wasn’t there during your rough times. Have you told him how that felt? Have you given him a chance to tell you how he feels…and how he feels about you? Honesty in any relationship is important, and that’s true for our relationship with God as well.
 
mrs_abbott said:
We do just try and talk more (me and God) and sometimes it’s easier than others. Reading my bible with some Michael W. Smith playing softly in the background is usually a peaceful time. Time has been my enemy lately, since my husband works out of town during the week and I also work during the day. I am still looking for the balance, order and control of it all. By the end of the end, I am wiped out and ready to go to bed, which is usually my only time to talk to God.
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You say you have young children. so you probably don’t have a lot of time. When my kids were little I would take them for a walk. I’d push one in the stroller, and hold hands with the other one. Once they both could walk, I’d hold both of their hands. I felt very close to God. I could feel Him through them. I miss that. I’d say take Him in whatever place you can find Him. Your place might be different. It doesn’t matter, because He s in every place and I bet He’ll meet you in whichever one that works.
 
Sometimes God feels distants, but that’s not true. You just don’t feel His presence. He wants us to eventually start living a good Christian life no matter if He gives us the feeling of His presence or not. Basically he wants us to love him no matter what.
 
SuscipeMeDomine said:
Do you do other forms of prayer? Is it all prayer that’s hard, or just going to Mass?

Have you sat down with God…taken some extended time…and really told him what’s in your heart? I’m just guessing, but perhaps you feel that God wasn’t there during your rough times. Have you told him how that felt? Have you given him a chance to tell you how he feels…and how he feels about you? Honesty in any relationship is important, and that’s true for our relationship with God as well.
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I have a hard time with that, only because I feel awkward talking to him. I don’t know why though.
 
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