No Marriage in the future for young Catholics?

[confusedgirl]

OP, I am not going to quote all your posts, but I will go from memory

I am a 46 year old single woman who has never married. Being Catholic this means never had kids. When I was 21, I would have probably written a similar post (probably with more of a tone of desperation to it) and here is what I have to say

1-) If your mom is pushing you, that in itself is probably turning a lot of men away. When you meet a guy, try not to let it out too soon

2-) You seem to think men are no longer interested in marriage. Well…at 21, often that has not entered a man’s mind. But something really weird happens in their late 20s and that is all they want. Trust me, you will get to an age where you will meet men desperate to marry (which can be annoying) and you will miss the days where it wasn’t their top priority

3-) Lastly, and this is the piece of advice I DESPERATELY wish I would have taken at your age. DON’T worry. I spent so many hours worrying I would not get married and guess what, I didn’t. What I NEVER would have believed at your age is being single for 46 years can actually be a lot of fun. My only regret is the time spent wasted worrying when I could have been doing something else

Angie

Thanks Angie your advice is really good. I think you and a lot of other people are right. I should just enjoy being 21 right now and not think about marriage. I mean I haven’t finished school and I haven’t ever started my career. Those are things I should be focusing on right now. I really think I needed to hear this

 

[confusedgirl]

This part jumped out at me. When you say “campus church guys”, are you referring to Catholics or Christians of any denomination? If you are referring to Catholic guys, then the Catholic chaplain (if you have one) or priests at the parishes they attend need to confront them on this issue.

We have two groups we have the Campus Church which is run by some students who attend the Baptist church close by the campus and we have the Catholic Student Association. I haven’t really been too active with them because most of their events take place either during class time or RCIA so I haven’t really gotten to know anyone from that group. I never really fit in with the Campus Church group, I always felt like they were trying to convert me (they have some fundamentalist views) and I always felt that my Catholic views were not welcome there.

 

[Xantippe]

Thanks Angie your advice is really good. I think you and a lot of other people are right. I should just enjoy being 21 right now and not think about marriage. I mean I haven’t finished school and I haven’t ever started my career. Those are things I should be focusing on right now. I really think I needed to hear this

Right.

It’s really hard to worry about more than one thing at a time.