No Sex Drive?

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How does one suppress their sex drive?

What are some actual methods that are used to suppress it?
 
Why would you want to do this? Are you married or single?

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Single and want to have a completely celibate lifestyle. But I still look at porn once in a while and masturbate. So the only way I can think to stop this is to suppress my sex drive.
 
Starwynd said:
Single and want to have a completely celibate lifestyle. But I still look at porn once in a while and masturbate. So the only way I can think to stop this is to suppress my sex drive.
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For starters, I would scrap the porn. Humans have enough to deal with concerning our sex drives without feeding pornography into it. Your sex drive will take care of itself if you make a conscience effort to guard your thoughts and actions. Now, I am not giving you a flippant answer because this is not an easy task. But you do have control on whether or not you look at porn. And if it means getting rid of your computer , then so be it. It all depends on how serious you are. And never, ever forget to pray. God Bless you…teachccd
 
For me personally, the rosary works wonders. if i ever start getting those inappropriate thoughts or urges i just start saying a “Hail Mary” and they usually go away- its very hard to let dirty thoughts in your mind when you are talking to the Mother of God 😉 and if it gets really bad i’ll say the whole thing! Hope this helps 🙂
 
Starwynd said:
How does one suppress their sex drive?

What are some actual methods that are used to suppress it?
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While impractical for everyday use I’ve noticed that fasting, especially longer fasts (eg 3+ days), lowers my libido.
 
While I certainly wouldn’t want to live a celibate lifestyle, if you truly do, not because anyone says you should but because it’s what you want, I agree that you should get rid of your porn. That will help a lot. Also, try taking up a hobby that requires the use of your hands, like whittling, sewing, or painting. Whenever you feel the urge just work on your hobby instead. Keeping your hands busy helps a lot.

Good luck!
 
I’m gonna be blunt. 🙂

I have the masturbation problem as well. First, I agree with everyone! Get RID of the porn! That won’t help at all!

Also, if you want to repress your sex drive, don’t lay in bed thinking about having sex, or anything like that. That is putting yourself in the position to fall. You want to stay away from that. Keeping your hands busy DOES work!

Also, fasting, or working out really really helps! When you want to masturbate, go running. 🙂 Hope this helps, and good luck!! 👍
 
Starwynd said:
How does one suppress their sex drive?

What are some actual methods that are used to suppress it?
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There are a few different methods:

Turn you thermostat in your house down to 40 to 45 degrees and keep it there.

Munch on and chew very well a couple cloves of very pungent garlic.

For a long lasting cure mix a heaping tablespoon of cayenne powder in a glass of warm water and drink whole glass quickly. Hours of relief.

Hop in a cold shower until uncontrollably shivering.

Hope this helps! 👍
 
Starwynd said:
Single and want to have a completely celibate lifestyle. But I still look at porn once in a while and masturbate. So the only way I can think to stop this is to suppress my sex drive.
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Respectfully, I believe you are looking at this incorrectly and I wanted to kindly challenge you on it.

The “sex drive” is hard wired into us at birth. If you have masturbated, as most of us have, that’s a sign it is turned on and working. There is no sin in feeling “excited”, the sin comes from the behaviors we do becasue of those feelings. If your goal is to stop your feelings, you will fail as feelings are spontaneous inner reactions over which we have little to no control.

So, rather than seeking ways to kill your sex drive I would suggest you look for ways to alter your behavior when you are feeling that way. Instead of saying “Starwynd, you can’t ever get that feeling because you will give in to it”, may I suggest “Starwynd, you know you are going to get those feelings again and here is how we are going to deal with them in a positive manner”. There has been some excellent advice on this given above.

You have chosen the toughest lifestyle (single celibate) to live in our society. I will pray that God gives you strength to maintain your vocation.
 
Physically & Mentally, you need to do some exercies; keep yourself busy; hang out with friends.

Spiritually, very important one - go to confession, look into the serious effect of the sins (masterbation), pray hard. - Ask St. Joseph and Mother Mary, Her Immaculate Heart, to keep your heart pure from thoughts, actions, and deeds.
 
Well there is one physical way if you are seriously thinking of total celibacy. 😃 It is pretty drastic.

I wont go into the details.
 
NTOT said:
There are a few different methods:

Turn you thermostat in your house down to 40 to 45 degrees and keep it there.

Munch on and chew very well a couple cloves of very pungent garlic.

For a long lasting cure mix a heaping tablespoon of cayenne powder in a glass of warm water and drink whole glass quickly. Hours of relief.

Hop in a cold shower until uncontrollably shivering.

Hope this helps! 👍
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You could also walk on glass or tie a string to your privates and then to a door and slam it (if you are a male)…😃
 
outfctrl said:
Well there is one physical way if you are seriously thinking of total celibacy. 😃 It is pretty drastic.

I wont go into the details.
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I’ve given some serious consideration to sterilising myself.

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teachccd said:
You could also walk on glass or tie a string to your privates and then to a door and slam it (if you are a male)…😃
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Either way should work well!
Especially the pepper trick. It is enough to put you in complete misery until it passes through your system. Certainly no room for lust 😃 .

Being a woman, I don’t know about the string trick though. 😛
And the thing mentioned by ouftctlr probably wouldn’t work either!
 
Starwynd said:
I’ve given some serious consideration to sterilising myself.

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and thus you would be in mortal sin…by sterilising yourself…no priest or such has done this so you can’t either…a good sit down chat with your priest will help,give you some ideas on how to CONTROL your natural urges…do not think sterilising will get rid of those urges,its just you can’t do anything about them,in such state…meaning you can’t act on the urges…when one has issues with “urges” dwelling on them only makes it harder to ingore them…porn just adds fuel to the fire,don’t need that…
yeah life would be too easy without these urges i think sometimes…so in the words of our Lord and Savior “pick up your cross and follow Me”
 
NTOT said:
Especially the pepper trick. It is enough to put you in complete misery until it passes through your system. Certainly no room for lust 😃 .

r!
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i could be laying there dying and still be wanting,:eek:
 
TheDoctor said:
Respectfully, I believe you are looking at this incorrectly and I wanted to kindly challenge you on it.

The “sex drive” is hard wired into us at birth. If you have masturbated, as most of us have, that’s a sign it is turned on and working. There is no sin in feeling “excited”, the sin comes from the behaviors we do becasue of those feelings. If your goal is to stop your feelings, you will fail as feelings are spontaneous inner reactions over which we have little to no control.

So, rather than seeking ways to kill your sex drive I would suggest you look for ways to alter your behavior when you are feeling that way. Instead of saying “Starwynd, you can’t ever get that feeling because you will give in to it”, may I suggest “Starwynd, you know you are going to get those feelings again and here is how we are going to deal with them in a positive manner”. There has been some excellent advice on this given above.

You have chosen the toughest lifestyle (single celibate) to live in our society. I will pray that God gives you strength to maintain your vocation.
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Listen to The Doctor! You don’t want to suppress it, you want to do something different with it.

Here’s an analogy: If you eat a pound of meat a day, as you become more “spiritual” through your commitment to Jesus Christ you will crave meat less and less every day, and you just won’t feel like eating it. What doesn’t work is believing that if you “suppress” your craving for meat, that will make you automatically more spiritual and bring you closer to God. You are trying to hitch the wagon in front of the mule, and that won’t take you anywhere.

Trust in God, and meet him half way by getting rid of the porn and doing whatever you do in a dignified manner.

From what I read about eunuchs, those guys could be very depraved, so don’t try it.
 
If you just repress your sex drive, you’re not healed and you’re not free. You need to become sexually balanced and healthy or you can never be chastely celibate. Let Jesus Christ transform you from within. It’s all about trusting the Lord. I used to be just like you, but I’m chaste now [celibate]. If you just repress it, you will fail again soon. Get rid of the porn…forever. Get the masturbation under control as far as you’re able; your body will adjust eventually. Pray constantly, go to confession frequently, receive the Eucharist frequently, make a daily holy hour in front of the Blessed Sacrament, ask God to make you chaste (and mean it), pray with St. Joseph for help, pray the Rosary. These things work–people aren’t lying to you. Get to know yourself well…very well. Know why your inclincations are what they are. Learn to see sex clearly as it really is: an act of love between spouses for procreation. Don’t legitimize lust or any disordered action derived from it. You must acknowledge your sex drive and the resulting temptations, but do not legitimize sin. Get as far as you can on your own. Read up on Theology of the Body. Grace is an amazing thing. If you really turn to God and really want to accomplish this, He will finish the job for you if you start on the path. He will take care of the aspects you really are powerless over, but don’t tell yourself that you’re powerless over things that you can control (i.e. wisdom to know the difference). Once your mind and body are adjusted and in harmony, chastity won’t be as big of a struggle for you. Today people think this is impossible. The porn/masturbation lifestyle is considered normal–but it’s not really. It’s a disordered passion that became legitimized. All men are sinners and can get wrapped up in these things at any time. Men may fall to temptation from time to time, but real men know looking at pornography is WRONG. If most men looked at the things that are out there now, they would want to masturbate too. Real men control themselves and stay away from things that arouse lust. Grown men shouldn’t be masturbating as frequently as they do, they really don’t need to. It’s this pornographic society’s fault. It’s totally possible to get this all under control in your life and it’s actually pretty easy. Don’t sterilize yourself–the problem’s in your mind, not your genitalia. Let yourself be transformed. So…do you trust God? God bless you.
 
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