The actions you describe are only required of Catholics. As a guest you are only accompanying him. You may sit throughout the Mass, or kneel or stand, as you choose.
The sign of the cross is a form of prayer. If you are uncomfortable with it, don’t sweat it. I am glad that you want to spend time with your boyfriend doing something that is important to him, even if it is a little uncomfortable for you.
There’s absolutely no harm in doing these things, and what a lovely act of solidarity with your boyfriend! When in Rome (quite literally) do as the Romans!
It’s nice that you go with your wife to Mass. I know it’s comforting for her to have you there, but aren’t you wondering if there’s some reason she goes to Mass other than the Sunday obligation? Maybe you’re missing something by just being there in body and not in spirit. Aren’t you just curious enough to go to RCIA classes there, at least long enough to find out what your wife’s beliefs are all about? If you really want to make her happy, and I get the impression that that’s why you go to Mass with her, why not do a little studying? You could drop out, of course, but you would be a little wiser about what she believes. Can’t hurt.
Been there…done that. I attended RCIA for about three months. Interesting, but I didn’t really learn anything that I didn’t already know.
This is good advice. If I am visiting another house of worship, out of respect for others I will do whatever is requested of those in attendance (short of making any kind of proclamation of faith that I do not agree with).
Could all those people be wrong? Well, keep going to Mass. It does help keep your spouse happy, and, who knows, maybe the Lord will just decide to give you a personal invitation.
Thanks for coming to mass. I’d say, do what you feel comfortable doing. However I might ask that you do not receive communion because only Catholics are supposed to. No hard feelings about that. But its a great thing you’re doing for your boyfriend. I dunno if you believe in God but he appreciates what you’re doing
You’re a great person.you are always welcome at Mass, all Masses are open to the public. Do what feels comfortable to you, but nothing that violates your conscience. If using holy water or kneeling does not seem right, don’t do it yet. Catholics do not have open communion so of course you will not receive but can join in prayers for unity of all believers at that time, if your beliefs tend that way.
Yes, they could absolutely be wrong…as could I. I guess we’ll all find out someday.
Great advice!!!
I go to mass with catholic friends often enough. I kneel when they kneel, and do all of those things when they do. I have never perceived that they would stop the mass and toss me out if I didn’t. I just do it out of deference for my friends. I show respect for the things that matter to them, and they in turn show respect for what matters to me.