Non-Catholic Mom is dying. What can I do?

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My Mother of 49 years, three months, twelve days, and five hours, is probably going to die soon. She has advanced liver disease, which is odd since she never drank alcohol.

So, what can I do? Do you think a priest would agree to visit her and give her some kind of blessing or something? The way I see it, it would be more efficacious than the ex youth pastor at her church, (who is now the pastor at her church), praying for her. I believe deep down she always had serious respect for the Catholic Church. In fact, the only two girlfriends who my parents absolutely loved were both Catholic. Coincidence? I think not!

Is there a certain prayer I could pray? Could I place chrism on her while praying for some kind of special blessing?

Please help, and, yes, I will ask my parish priest as well.
 
That’s so tough. Love her, pray for her. The Chaplet of the Divine Mercy is what comes to my mind right now. Prayers for you, for her and for all your family.
 
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She was baptized as an infant when her parents were Lutheran. Unless you mean something else?
 
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The way I see it, it would be more efficacious than the ex youth pastor at her church, (who is now the pastor at her church), praying for her.
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God hears every prayer no matter who you are.

Pray for her and be at peace. Her salvation is in God’s hands. His mercy far exceeds our comprehension.
 
If your mother is secure in her faith, it would be loving and respectful to ask her minister to visit and pray with her. For your own peace of mind you might have a Mass celebrated for her intentions. Prayers for you and your mother at this difficult time.
 
Lutheran baptizm are valid .

ETA only suggested that on the chance she wasn’t validly baptized at all.
 
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Yes, my sister plans on asking her pastor to visit her and pray. She has always been very faithful to her denomination. Thanks for your prayers.
 
Forgive my lack of knowledge, but can I have a mass said for a non-Catholic before they pass?
 
I grew up in a family that was ethnically and religiously vehemently anti-Catholic. When I became the first Catholic in our family, it caused a ruckus. When Mom was dying, her protestant friends disappeared and her baptist pastor was a no-show. It was my Parish Priest who visited her.
 
This is beautiful, thanks for sharing. How did she react to having a priest visit her?
 
Would this be a simple blessing like when a non-Catholic crosses their arms in the communion line, or something more? I guess I want more. I know she cannot receive Anointing of the Sick.
 
Can she communicate? If she asks for a priest, a priest will surely come.

FWIW: my Methodist mom had a deathbed conversion while in a hospital bed in our dining room. My dad was non-practicing Catholic but my mom was one of the regulars at her Methodist church. I am a convert of 20+ years, and my bride had been ‘encouraging’ me to talk to her about faith for years (I had been leaving it up to organic processes, like my kids asking Grammy to read the book about our Lady of Guadalupe or other saints books to pique her interest).
Anyway, I finally asked her if she wanted to speak to a priest, as he could get her ready for the journey she was about to take. She agreed, and we sent up the proverbial bat signal for any available priest (long story - - our pastor would not have done it). Younger priest, the pastor of a nearby parish, came over, and while he couldn’t reveal specifically what she said, he said she had said enough, such that he heard her confession and I think administered last rites. Next day another pastor, from a bit farther away, confirmed her and gave her the apostolic blessing. Praise God! She passed about ten days later.
 
That is an amazing story! I would love if that would happen for my Mom. Yes, she can communicate still and can understand what people are saying. How do you send a bat signal, especially if your Mom doesn’t live in Gotham City, and your priest does?
 
Call whoever is willing to listen - - priests are people too, with their own temperaments and personalities. Is your mom not with you? I suppose if you are away from your home parish, you could see if a priest you are familiar with knows any priests in the area where your mom is?
 
This is a good point, I do need to be respectful of how she feels, and not just what my hopes are.
 
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