Non-Catholics calling Priets and Deacons by titles?

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I am having some people over. Some are Catholic, some are not.

Among these people there may be a priest and a deacon.

Is it appropriate to expect my non-Catholic guests to address the priest as “Father Whoever?”

I call my deacon “Deacon Whoever.” Would my guests also be expected to address him as Deacon Whoever, or just by his first name?

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I’d say just introduce them to your guests as Father _____ and Deacon ________. Your non-Catholic guests can either follow your cue or, if they have an issue with calling the priest “Father,” can just call him Reverend _______. They likely won’t have any issue with calling someone “Deacon.”
 
Yes, it is , as long as YOU would address a Rabbi or Minister in the way they would want to be addressed!
 
I’d say they’ll call him Father so-and-so. I can’t imagine being introduced to someone then calling them something else.
 
I’d hope that they’d call him Father So-and-So, but I don’t think it would be unreasonable if they called him Reverend So-and-So. Using Mr. or calling him by a first name would be a mark of disrespect, at least in my mind.
 
Reverend would be an acceptable title

remember we call them Father because of their role in our lives. they don’t have this role for non-Catholics, so Reverend is a good way for others to address them
 
This thread reminds me of a story I read about Fr. Tim Healy, S.J., who went from being president of Georgetown University from 1976-1989 to being president of the New York Public Library until his death on New Year’s Eve, 1992.

Needless to say, it was somewhat of an adjustment for many (if not most) of the NYPL’s directors to have a Catholic priest as the president. Shortly after being named president, at his first meeting with the board of directors, one non-Catholic even asked him something along the lines of “what am I supposed to call you, since I am not going to call you ‘Father’, and ‘Mister’ seems disrespectful?” Since Fr. Healy also had a Ph.D. (in English literature) from Oxford, he responded with “you can call me ‘Doctor’”
 
“Reverend” is an appropriate title. It is a respect for the Priestly office and you don’t have to be Catholic to understand that.

In the same way, it is polite for me to refer to a CoE Archbishop as “Your Grace” or a Canon as “Canon [Surname]”.

For all the Americans here: if you had the opportunity to meet the Queen, would you address her by her surname or “Your Majesty”? Most would probably choose the latter option even if they aren’t UK citizens.

Likewise, I would address the President as “Mr. President.”

Formal offices, be they religious or political are respected in polite society. 👍
 
I have seen this question someplace else. As I recall the consensus was that we address anyone by the title he prefers as long as it is within reasonable bounds.
 
We would introduce my ex-brother in law as Doctor Jones (he was an M.D.) but he would quickly say, “Call me Jim”. It made everyone feel comfortable.
 
The proper introduction is “Reverend Father n.” and either “Reverend Mister n.” or “Deacon n.” depending upon your local bishop.

And yes, good guests will use their titles unless told not to by the individual.

Reverend is appropriate, as is Father, for a priest.
Direct mode for a deacon is Deacon n..
 
The only problem with substituting Reverend for Father is that in this neck of the woods the word Reverend is thought of as a Protestant title.
 
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