Non practicing husband

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I have recently come back to the church and my husband had said that he wanted to get confirmed, so we got our marriage validated as soon as possible. We have been married for almost 4 years we are both catholic. I was confirmed and he wasn’t. Now we were talking about it the other day and my husband believes he doesn’t need to get confirmed because he is a good person and does not need the sacraments to get into heaven. I am worried and have suggested that he try the classes and then decide but he has not interest. He told me to stop pushing him to do it so I have stopped talking about so we don’t fight. We are raising our children catholic and they have both been baptized. I am worried and don’t know what to do and explain things to my children when they get older about thief father. Please help
 
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I have recently come back to the church and my husband had said that he wanted to get confirmed, so we got our marriage validated as soon as possible. We have been married for almost 4 years we are both catholic. I was confirmed and he wasn’t. Now we were talking about it the other day and my husband believes he doesn’t need to get confirmed because he is a good person and does not need the sacraments to get into heaven. I am worried and have suggested that he try the classes and then decide but he has not interest. He told me to stop pushing him to do it so I have stopped talking about so we don’t fight. We are raising our children catholic and they have both been baptized. I am worried and don’t know what to do and explain things to my children when they get older about thief father. Please help
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That is a tuff one. I understand. I’m sorry. I think that you are wise to stop pushing him even though I understand why it is difficult not to do so. Remember, faith is a gift. Keep praying for him.

Annie
 
Welcome back to the church! 👍 That is always so nice to hear.

You are right to not push it. Just leave it. Practice your faith, surround yourself with other Catholics, be joyful, know your faith and always be ready to explain things, and pray a lot. Hopefully he will learn something from you and open his heart to God.

As for the children, pray for guidance in regards to this. I’m in the same boat and I do understand how difficult this is. I think it is important to take it one step at the time. While they are still young we teach them the faith by living it: prayers before meals and bedtime (or more frequently if possible), talking about God, having catholic stuff around the house, etc. When they get older and start asking questions then we have to answer them in a way they can understand. Pray for courage, patience, spirit of discernment and how to guide each of your children in the way that they need, as well as how to tackle very specific questions about their non-practicing father.

I hope this has been of some help. God bless.
 
JMo4,

Welcome back to the church and to your husband as well! If you feel you shouldn’t push it any further then don’t. Maybe you can do it indirectly by YOUR actions…be a good example to him. You can perhaps join groups at your parish and have a more active prayer life. When he sees the peace and happiness it gives you and the enjoyment you get from growing in your faith, he might be interested.

I say don’t give up!! Keep showing him instead of telling him how important it is to have the sacraments to get into heaven. As for your children, do the same and be a great Catholic role model. There are many family functions at church, especially now that it is summertime. Bring your family to them. But whatever you do, don’t let your husband tell you NO in raising your children Catholic- be strong for Jesus!!

God bless!
 
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God’s Spirit is in my heart,
He has called me and set me apart.
This is what I have to do,
what I have to do.

He sent me to give the Good News to the poor,
Tell prisoners that they are prisoners no more,
Tell blind people that they can see,
And set the downtrodden free
And go tell everyone the news that the Kingdom of God has come,
And go tell everyone the news that the Kingdom of God has come.

Just as the Father sent me,
So I’m sending you out to be
My witnesses throughout the world,
The whole of the world.

Don’t worry what you have to say,
Don’t worry because on that day
God’s Spirit will speak in your heart,
Will speak in your heart.
 
Why are you spamming the entire forum with this poem or song, HolyRosaryChild? Please stop!
 
JMo4 said:
I have recently come back to the church and my husband had said that he wanted to get confirmed, so we got our marriage validated as soon as possible. We have been married for almost 4 years we are both catholic. I was confirmed and he wasn’t. Now we were talking about it the other day and my husband believes he doesn’t need to get confirmed because he is a good person and does not need the sacraments to get into heaven. I am worried and have suggested that he try the classes and then decide but he has not interest. He told me to stop pushing him to do it so I have stopped talking about so we don’t fight. We are raising our children catholic and they have both been baptized. I am worried and don’t know what to do and explain things to my children when they get older about thief father. Please help
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I am so sorry for your situation. You realize that if you are both Catholic and married outside of the Church, you are not considered to even BE married? So you should not be receiving communion at this point. Have you talked to your priest about this? Your husband needs some holy intervention, he is misunderstanding the sacraments, he does need confirmation because it will help him stand up against just this sort of straying. Is he close to any Protestants who could put these thoughts into his mind? This is a very un-Catholic way of thinking.
 
I’m not certain that Confirmation is a requirement for salvation. My understanding is it is very beneficial to you and significantly helps you grow your relationship with God. If he’s baptized, goes to confession, goes to Mass, has agreed to raise the kids Catholic, and you have received the Sacrament of Matrimony, I would certainly not force the issue. Maybe just leave a book in the bathroom for him to read when he get’s bored? (The Sanctifier would be an awesome one)
 
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