Not allowed to confession

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I was at Church today, and while on the line waiting for my turn for confession; one of the ladies who helps with work around the church, walked up to us and advised that those us not legally married in Church are not allowed to the confession. She said it is a waste of time since we are still going to do things not allowed in the sight of Christ. At this point I realized she was talking to two mothers who were also seated waiting for confession. She singled them out because they had come along with their young children.
I realized that I was learning something new, and so I ask, What categories (if I may use that word)of people are not allowed to confession. Also, I thought confession is for sinners.
 
The woman you mention was seriously out of order. She had no right to interfere with people in the line for confession. What she did was totally wrong and extremely unchristian. It is none of her business. Bringing up someone’s personal circumstances, possibly in the hearing of others is unacceptable.

This woman should be reported to the Parish priest and I would hope that she would be severely reprimanded for her outrageous behaviour. She has behaved appallingly.

It is up to the confessor to speak privately with people in the confessional.
 
If I were you I would phone the Parish priest and tell him what you witnessed. This woman sounds like a self righteous busybody. Few things really annoy me but this has. I take exception to people like this woman standing in judgement over others and sticking her nose in where it is not wanted.
 
Amen to @stpiosson.

If the PRIEST hearing the confession has a problem with offering absolution, he will tell the person PRIVATELY. It is no one else’s business.

I can’t help but think how often I hear people talking about the end times and the appearance of the antichrist. I think you just witnessed it in person: someone who turns people away from Christ and the sacraments.
 
I’m sorry you had to experience that, even as a spectator.

That woman was in the wrong. Everyone is welcome at confession and in the church. Jesus doesn’t want the perfect in the confessional, he wants the broken, the wounded, the hurting. He is there to heal.

I’d encourage you to talk to your priest and let him know what happened, both so he is aware and so he can offer you any extra consolation and guidance you might need.
 
If some old bag came up and said that in front of me in a confession line, I’d give her a super-size piece of my mind.
Everyone is welcome in the confessional. Confessionals are for sinners. It’s disgusting that someone would discourage others from going.
 
Hampering people from receiving the forgiveness of God is like betraying Jesus himself. And Jesus has certain words for such person, like it is good for such person if he had not been born.
 
Tis_Bearself said:
If some old bag came up and said that in front of me in a confession line, I’d give her a super-size piece of my mind.
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As in, “Oh, congratulations! I missed your episcopal consecration. I’m so glad you can find the time in your schedule to visit the parishes like this!”

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While done badly she may have a point.

In order to confess validly you need to have a serious purpose of amendment. A baptized Catholic is required to marry in the Church or receive a dispensation to marry outside it (which Ms. busybody may not have known if they had). The couple would need to abstain until their marriage could be con-validated in order to receive absolution.

Once again it was none of her business to tell them.
 
That’s terrible. What if one of those single mums (how do they even know that they are single mums?!) was going to confession for the first time in 30 years? That could easily scare someone away from the process of coming back to the church.
 
You should honestly make the priest aware of your marital situation when you go into the Confessional box. But it is for him to advise you, it is not the job of a lay-person to tell someone in the queue for Confession that they cannot go in.
 
I once had a priest tell me that I was not allowed to go to confession there because I didn’t live in that within the particular boundries of that parish.
 
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I once had a priest tell me that I was not allowed to go to confession there because I didn’t live in that within the particular boundries of that parish.
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As far as I am aware, a Catholic is free to go to Confession at any Catholic church anywhere in the world. We are the Universal Church, not a collection of individual parochial Churches.
 
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I would say to her “GET OUT OF THIS CHURCH!”.

She was totally absolutely out of order … and she needs to confess herself … for violating the First Commandment.
 
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