Not going to confession with specific priests

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cecelia:
I used to feel that way too, but let me ask, “Isn’t that prideful?”
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:hmmm: I don’t think it is, but maybe I’m wrong. I think that no matter how much the priest is Christ in the confessional, the priest is human too. I look at it as being helpful to the priest in a way. I assume that sometimes a priest must consciously forget what he heard in confession when speaking with a person outside confession.

:whacky: One of my priest friends was always being asked by his friends to hear their confessions, even it seems at social gatherings. I felt bad for him, as I have a sense of what it means to be always “ON” in ministry. Sometimes people, even priests, need a break and some rest, not always being “ON” in terms of ministry.

😦 On the other hand, I’m sure that there is some part of me that has some pride. That I don’t want my ministry “boss” to know too many of my faults. I want him to see the good side of me. But then I try to show the best of me to all those I minister to, and leave my problems for times when I am the one being ministered to.
 
Our priest, an FSSP priest, is the best priest I’ve ever had to hear my confession. He is wonderful.

Semper Fidelis,
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CD4 said:
**Oh My…Now THERE’S a priest! **
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Fr. William Casey and Fr. Trigilio also would be wonderful. And how could I forget Fr. Pacwa? Although, he would probably have me cracking up.

Have you noticed anything? Fr. Groeschel, Fr. Corapi, Fr. Casey, et. al are all no-nonsense, orthodox men who demand the same of us.
 
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Mary1973:
Fr. William Casey and Fr. Trigilio also would be wonderful. And how could I forget Fr. Pacwa? Although, he would probably have me cracking up.

Have you noticed anything? Fr. Groeschel, Fr. Corapi, Fr. Casey, et. al are all no-nonsense, orthodox men who demand the same of us.
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Good men all…I love listening to all of them and it would be a privilege to go to confession with any one of them.
 
There was a whole church I avoided after too many weird confesssions. One priest thought marrying a pagan was acceptable and another gave me the “penance” of drinking more water. :ehh: I guess dehydration leads to sin. Or something. :rolleyes:
 
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JimG:
Most of these anecdotes sound like more good reasons to use confessionals and avoid face to face confessions.

JimG
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I agree with you Jim! Who started the face to face confessionals anyway?
 
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JimG:
Most of these anecdotes sound like more good reasons to use confessionals and avoid face to face confessions.
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Except that in my case (and probably others’ as well) that would not help–my priests know my voice far too well! It may be that way for me only, since I have a very distinctive (and loud ;)) voice… Granted, I suppose it might help the priest “forget” more easily with only the voice and not the face too (the individual sins anyway)…

The other side of this is that for me, personally, I really feel the need to confess face-to-face. In fact, I have found that the screen is more of a “near-occassion” for me to be tempted to not confess everything (or to not say everything I know I should say). Therefore, as I have said, I will go face-to-face whenever that is an option, and when needed, I do not have a problem doing so with my parish priests.

I would just prefer to generally avoid the situation… and hey, it makes for a bigger incentive to keep my nose clean!! 😉

+veritas+
 
Umm here’s my list

Fr. Q-made small jokes in the confessial (even with a screen-mind you) and gave two Hail Marys and two Our Fathers no matter what the sin
Fr. W-great guy but practically deaf, you have to yell your sins so he can hear, or else he preteds and dosn’t really hear you old ladies like to take advantage of this:mad:
Fr. H-dosn’t agree that a sin is a sin even if it was done with the intent of disobeying God
I avoid all of these guys for confession.
 
Weezir said:
:o There are three priests who I won’t see for confessions. The first is one of our best friends. The second is from Uganda and I’m afraid I won’t be able to understand him as I get lost in his homilies sometimes. The third is a soon to be retired priest who has been known to scold and put people down in confessions. Confession is very difficult for me, coming from the Lutheran religion so I am picky. How wrong is that? Is it something I need to confess? 😉
Weezir
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There is absolutely nothing wrong in being selective about your confessor. You should go to the priest with whom you feel most comfortable.
 
Somewhere between 1980 and 2004 The confessional disappeared! :eek: That first time back was very difficult, but our priest sits quietly, looking more at his hands than anything else, until your finished. Then he asks questions if need be.
He makes confession very easy. When I came back he told me that God had brought me back and He would forgive me, thats why I was there. How great that was!
maggiec
 
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Meggie:
Umm here’s my list
Fr. H-dosn’t agree that a sin is a sin even if it was done with the intent of disobeying God
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Yeah, I had one fill-in priest in the Boston Archdiocese advise me to begin engaging in a particular sin because it would be good for my psyche or something. The sin was something that is very clearly contrary to Catholic teaching.
 
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larryo:
There is absolutely nothing wrong in being selective about your confessor. You should go to the priest with whom you feel most comfortable.
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However, it probably is good advice to have a regular confessor.
 
Well, I don’t want to make dear John too jealous - but thought I would share a conversation I had with Fr. Corapi a couple years back (he was the commencement speaker for a small Catholic School I am involved with).

I asked him WHY more confessors do not preach the reality of Hell to penitents. His rather quick response was that “Hell is not working… It seems that people respond more to Mercy” I thought that was quite interesting. Folks really do not accept the reality of Hell! What a victory for satan…

My Pastor is fairly generic in his advice but I am wondering if it is him or it is me? Maybe I am too generic with my sins? Our associate is a very fine fellow, but he does not have us say the act of contrition in the confessional…I hope the grace of the sacrament is still there.
 
Kate Sciacca:
Well, I don’t want to make dear John too jealous - but thought I would share a conversation I had with Fr. Corapi a couple years back (he was the commencement speaker for a small Catholic School I am involved with).

I asked him WHY more confessors do not preach the reality of Hell to penitents. His rather quick response was that “Hell is not working… It seems that people respond more to Mercy” I thought that was quite interesting. Folks really do not accept the reality of Hell! What a victory for satan…
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I’m not jealous, Kate :rolleyes: . Really.

I really think that Father Corapi is right about this. Those of us who go to the confessional already know that Hell is real. Where they need to preach it is in the homily. That way, maybe more people would make use of it. (Wait a minute, more people means longer lines. Longer lines means longer waits :hmmm:. Oh, well, I guess I can get used to waiting longer 😃 .)

John
 
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DrCat:
I’m just wondering if anybody has a priest they tend to avoid for confession for reasons not having to do with their theology?

As an example, there is a priest I have stopped going to confession with because after he has given me my penance and absolution, we spend anywhere from 30 - 45 minutes sharing web sites.

John
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I only go to priests who are very faithful to the Magisterium. Here in New York City I go to The Dominicans of the EASTERN(emphasized: EASTERN!!) province who are very Thomistic, intellectual and faithful to the Magisterium(especially the RECENTLY ordained!!!). I have also gone to OPUS DEI Priests, which are even BETTER!!! Others, I personally avoid, some others have even forgotten the correct words of absolution, give no penance, or nothing is ever a serious sin for them. OR the use the confessional as their own private psychological practice.
 
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