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Before I get going, I want to say two things. 1)No one can possibly understand what a person is going through no matter how hard he/she tries, so 2)Please don’t write me flippant messages saying things like “stop feeling sorry for yourself”, “get a grip”, or similar things. I know the right way to behave, I know how I should feel. But if we all acted as we should, we wouldn’t be human and we wouldn’t need prayer.

My life is out of control. I will be 37 in August, and if I died now there would be no trace of anything positive from me left behind. I am not married. I have no children. I am a virgin. I am unemployed (have bin for over a year). My “friends” have left me, as they are now successful and married. I’m not kidding. Lawyers, Doctors, Business execs, they are counted as people who used to like me. I walk around like I’m a stranger in a strange land- everyone is younger than me, and if they are my age they are on a different existential plane. I am no different than I was when I was 19. I’m just older.

My OCD has colored every aspect of my life. When I’m not in the throes of a relapse, I am depressed from it, becoming very negative to the point of suicide. I tried it twice in 2000, and I’ve been seriously thinking about it again, because I don’t know where else to go or what to do.

My prayers to God have gone unanswered. Every day for a while I’d pray the rosary, the divine mercy, an emergency novena to Mary, the memorae, and the Sacred Heart of Jesus prayer. Along with these prayers I’d pray to God and St. Raphael that I’d find the one person who could love an ugly guy like me, or that I could find a good job or come into money somehow. I have major responsibilities to my family, financially speaking.

But I’ve grown angry with God. And it upsets me that God is either silent or uncaring, or whatever. The reassurances of “in God’s time” doesn’t help with a man who, on a daily basis, feels like he is coming undone.

A man defines himself by his relationships and his success. I have neither. I am ashamed that I am 37 and there are teenagers who have more relationship experience than I have. I am ashamed that I couldn’t do anything with my life. I pray these days for God to take me out of this world, to give me the illnesses that my family members would have. So I could do something good and, at the same time, take myself out of this misery…but it is all is met with silence.

I want to know why I’m here. I want to know why I was created an ugly, unattractive man with no job and with OCD. I don’t understand where I went wrong…somewhere it all went wrong, when all I’ve ever tried to do is love and be loved and enjoy life.

I just want to die. It is like a cancer in my body. I just can’t do this anymore. I don’t want to do this anymore.

All I ask, all I want from you, is to pray that I have one night of peace. I have to take sleeping pills or drink just to go to bed. I don’t know where to go, what to do, I’m lost, I’m empty.

Thanks.
 
I think that you should seriously consider getting psychiatric help. Have you ever recieved treatment for your OCD? I think perhaps medical care would help you with a lot of the problems you may be having. I suppose the thing to do right now is to go to Mass often, and ask for help, whether from a priest, or perhaps anyone there you are close with. You should reach out to absolutely everyone you have around you, and tell them how you’re feeling, and ask for help.

Your situation with a lack of relationships is nothing to stress about as you did. I understand that loneliness could be a huge factor in your life, and that it may seem to be a horrendous thing at times. However, you do not need to be defined by your relationships! You are a very important person, whether or not you have one. If loneliness is a huge factor in your life, I was wondering if you ever considered adopting children? Also, are you sure that you’re in a healthy place to have children, or even be in a relationship?

I’m not sure what other kind of help you may need, but if you need it, ask for it! Please, do not give up on God (He has not, by any means, given up on you). Pray to Him for day to day solace, and for comfort. Be strong in the faith, and remember that you are important, no matter what you think you look like, or whether or not you’re dating anyone. I’m sure everyone here cares about you, and I know I do, and I’ve yet to meet you Be brave, and God bless you!
 
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to thy protection, implored thy help, or sought thine intercession was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto thee, O Virgin of virgins, my mother; to thee do I come, before thee I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in thy mercy hear and answer me.

Amen.

You are in my prayers! I pray that you will have a peaceful nights rest and wake with a new found sense of your Christian dignity.
 
Praying for you. I pray that God will grant you peace, and that he will show you the path and plans he has for you in this life.

I have come across this passage several times tonight while reading various Catholic sites. It seems fitting to share it with you, though I feel the need to point out that quoting the Bible in threads is not my normal habit. I don’t want you to think I’m being anything other than sincere in feeling that I should share this particular verse.

"He said to his disciples, “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life and what you will eat, or about your body and what you will wear. For life is more than food and the body more than clothing. Notice the ravens: they do not sow or reap; they have neither storehouse nor barn, yet God feeds them. How much more important are you than birds! Can any of you by worrying add a moment to your lifespan?”
  • Luke 12:22-25
 
You are a beautiful child of God and He has plans for you to give you a great life, not one of sadness!

Whether you know it or not, you are so important, and so loved by Him!

Do not give up.

You are in my prayers!

CotL
 
Father God, please touch Norm’s heart so that he knows that he is precious, treasured and loved because he is Your son. Please surround him with family, loved ones, friends, and colleagues who can be a source of comfort and support for him at this pain. Touch him with Your mighty healing power so that he may be healed of his OCD… Lead him to the necessary medical help and attention he needs. Please ease his suffering and provide for his temporal and spiritual needs.

All these I humbly ask in the name of Jesus, our Lord and Savior, and through the intercession of the Blessed Virgin Mary.

St. Dymphna, pray for him
St. Michael, pray for him
Blessed John Paul II, pray for him.
 
You are in my prayers tonight, Norm. May God grant you peace and understanding of his will for your life.
 
Hi Norm (((hugs))) for you.
I am sorry you are feeling so bad.I have been in a very bad place recently and I completely empathise with you.You are in my prayers my friend. You are not alone.It may help you to know many people are in a similar situation but please try to trust in God to hear yours and our prayers to help you.God bless my friend

Lord please hear our prayers for Norm.Please surround him in Your love for him.I understand how he is feeling and I know You do Lord.Please comfort him and guide him.Please guide those he may come into contact with to be able to help him move forward in his life.I know Norm is very important to You Lord but at the moment he cannot see or feel this.I ask You would help him in every way Lord to see and feel Your infinite unconditional love for him.Thankyou for hearing our prayers and for your many blessings Amen

Our Blessed Lady please intercede for Norm Amen
Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen
 
“God has created me to do Him some definite service. He has committed some work to me which He has not committed to another. I have my mission. I may never know it in this life, but I shall be told it in the next. I am a link in a chain, a bond of connection between persons.
He has not created me for naught. I shall do good; I shall do His work.
I shall be an angel of peace, a preacher of truth in my own place,
while not intending it if I do but keep His commandments.
Therefore, I will trust Him, whatever I am, I can never be thrown away. If I am in sickness, my sickness may serve Him, in perplexity, my perplexity may serve Him. If I am in sorrow, my sorrow may serve Him. He does nothing in vain. He knows what He is about. He may take away my friends. He may throw me among strangers. He may make me feel desolate, make my spirits sink, hide my future from me. Still, He knows what He is about.”
― John Henry Newman

Lord please hear our prayers for Norm.Please surround him in Your love for him.I understand how he is feeling and I know You do Lord.Please comfort him and guide him.Please guide those he may come into contact with to be able to help him move forward in his life.I know Norm is very important to You Lord but at the moment he cannot see or feel this.I ask You would help him in every way Lord to see and feel Your infinite unconditional love for him.Thankyou for hearing our prayers and for your many blessings Amen

Our Blessed Lady please intercede for Norm Amen
Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen
 
Remembering you in my daily prayers, Norm, and I will bring your suffering to the Blessed Sacrament on Fridays as well. Take care and God bless. :console:
 
“God has created me to do Him some definite service. He has committed some work to me which He has not committed to another. I have my mission. I may never know it in this life, but I shall be told it in the next. I am a link in a chain, a bond of connection between persons.
He has not created me for naught. I shall do good; I shall do His work.
I shall be an angel of peace, a preacher of truth in my own place,
while not intending it if I do but keep His commandments.
Therefore, I will trust Him, whatever I am, I can never be thrown away. If I am in sickness, my sickness may serve Him, in perplexity, my perplexity may serve Him. If I am in sorrow, my sorrow may serve Him. He does nothing in vain. He knows what He is about. He may take away my friends. He may throw me among strangers. He may make me feel desolate, make my spirits sink, hide my future from me. Still, He knows what He is about.”
― John Henry Newman

Lord please hear our prayers for Norm.Please surround him in Your love for him.I understand how he is feeling and I know You do Lord.Please comfort him and guide him.Please guide those he may come into contact with to be able to help him move forward in his life.I know Norm is very important to You Lord but at the moment he cannot see or feel this.I ask You would help him in every way Lord to see and feel Your infinite unconditional love for him.Thankyou for hearing our prayers and for your many blessings Amen

Our Blessed Lady please intercede for Norm Amen
Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen
 
“God has created me to do Him some definite service. He has committed some work to me which He has not committed to another. I have my mission. I may never know it in this life, but I shall be told it in the next. I am a link in a chain, a bond of connection between persons.
He has not created me for naught. I shall do good; I shall do His work.
I shall be an angel of peace, a preacher of truth in my own place,
while not intending it if I do but keep His commandments.
Therefore, I will trust Him, whatever I am, I can never be thrown away. If I am in sickness, my sickness may serve Him, in perplexity, my perplexity may serve Him. If I am in sorrow, my sorrow may serve Him. He does nothing in vain. He knows what He is about. He may take away my friends. He may throw me among strangers. He may make me feel desolate, make my spirits sink, hide my future from me. Still, He knows what He is about.”
― John Henry Newman

Lord please hear our prayers for Norm.Please surround him in Your love for him.I understand how he is feeling and I know You do Lord.Please comfort him and guide him.Please guide those he may come into contact with to be able to help him move forward in his life.I know Norm is very important to You Lord but at the moment he cannot see or feel this.I ask You would help him in every way Lord to see and feel Your infinite unconditional love for him.Thankyou for hearing our prayers and for your many blessings Amen

Our Blessed Lady please intercede for Norm Amen
Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen
 
I will include you in all of my daily prayers. I pray that the Lord can bring peace and joy to your heart.

Our Father, Who art in Heaven, hallowed be
Thy Name. Thy Kingdom come. Thy Will be done,
on earth, as it is in Heaven. Give us this day our
daily bread and forgive us our trespasses as we
forgive those who trespass against us; and lead us
not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. Amen.

Our Father, Who art in Heaven, hallowed be
Thy Name. Thy Kingdom come. Thy Will be done,
on earth, as it is in Heaven. Give us this day our
daily bread and forgive us our trespasses as we
forgive those who trespass against us; and lead us
not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is
the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners,
now, and at the hour of our death. Amen.
 
“God has created me to do Him some definite service. He has committed some work to me which He has not committed to another. I have my mission. I may never know it in this life, but I shall be told it in the next. I am a link in a chain, a bond of connection between persons.
He has not created me for naught. I shall do good; I shall do His work.
I shall be an angel of peace, a preacher of truth in my own place,
while not intending it if I do but keep His commandments.
Therefore, I will trust Him, whatever I am, I can never be thrown away. If I am in sickness, my sickness may serve Him, in perplexity, my perplexity may serve Him. If I am in sorrow, my sorrow may serve Him. He does nothing in vain. He knows what He is about. He may take away my friends. He may throw me among strangers. He may make me feel desolate, make my spirits sink, hide my future from me. Still, He knows what He is about.”
― John Henry Newman

Lord please hear our prayers for Norm.Please surround him in Your love for him.I understand how he is feeling and I know You do Lord.Please comfort him and guide him.Please guide those he may come into contact with to be able to help him move forward in his life.I know Norm is very important to You Lord but at the moment he cannot see or feel this.I ask You would help him in every way Lord to see and feel Your infinite unconditional love for him.Thankyou for hearing our prayers and for your many blessings Amen

Our Blessed Lady please intercede for Norm Amen
Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen
 
Please, Norm, please, get some help! Since you have been out of work, do you have the resources to get medical help? If you are totally without means, you might qualify for something like Medicaid. Maybe you need to try a new doctor or a new medication. Do not give up!

Now you have mentioned quite a few things that you say are wrong with your life. I am going to give you the same advice that my doctor gave to me. Don’t try and fix all of your problems at one time. It’ll only make you crazy. Take one thing–say job hunting–and address yourself to that only. I know how hard this could be when you are depressed and don’t feel well. That’s why I think you should get medical help first.

Norm, do not measure yourself by man’s standards. Go by God’s. Pray to the Holy Spirit for the wisdom to discern God’s plan for you. Always stay close to the Lord through prayer. Although it may not seem like it, He is listening. Keep on praying!

Here is something from the Book of Luke that I always connect with when I feel poorly:

“As he drew near to Jericho, a blind man was sitting by the roadside begging; and hearing a multitude going by, he inquired what this meant. They told him, ‘Jesus of Nazareth is passing by.’ And he cried, ‘Jesus, Son of David, have mercy on me!’ And those who were in front rebuked him, telling him to be silent; but he cried out all the more, ‘Son of David, have mercy on me!’ And Jesus stopped, and commanded him to be brought to him; and when he came near, he asked him, ‘What do you want me to do for you?’ He said, ‘Lord, let me receive my sight.’ And Jesus said to him, **‘Receive your sight; your faith has made you well.’ ** And immediately he received his sight and followed him, glorifying God; and all the people, when they saw it, gave praise to God.”

Most holy apostle St. Jude Thaddeus, faithful servant and friend of Jesus, the name of the traitor who delivered your beloved Master into the hands of the enemies has caused you to be forgotten by many, but the Church honors and invokes you universally as the patron of hopeless cases and of things despaired of. Pray for **Norm ** who is so needy; make use, I implore you, of that particular privilege accorded to you to bring visible and speedy help where help is almost despaired. Come to his assistance in this great need that he may receive the consolations and succor of heaven in all his necessities, tribulations and sufferings and that he may bless God with you and all the elect throughout eternity. He promises you, O blessed Jude, to be ever mindful of this great favor, and he will never cease to honor you as his special and powerful patron and to do all in his power to encourage devotion to you. Amen.
 
hopeful01 said:
Father God, please touch Norm’s heart so that he knows that he is precious, treasured and loved because he is Your son. Please surround him with family, loved ones, friends, and colleagues who can be a source of comfort and support for him at this pain. Touch him with Your mighty healing power so that he may be healed of his OCD… Lead him to the necessary medical help and attention he needs. Please ease his suffering and provide for his temporal and spiritual needs.

All these I humbly ask in the name of Jesus, our Lord and Savior, and through the intercession of the Blessed Virgin Mary.

St. Dymphna, pray for him
St. Michael, pray for him
Blessed John Paul II, pray for him.
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:signofcross: Amen
 
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