Obeying parents

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If an adult is living with his or her parents are they bound to obey everything their parents tell them or because they’re an adult, could they just show respect but be able to disagree? I’m not talking about breaking house rules or anything like that… But let’s say you are doing something in your faith that your SD let you, but your parents are forbidding you. If you’re an adult and living separately as I understand you need to be respectful but you are not bound to obedience. What if you live with your parents?

This is hypothetical as I am in my own place for most of the year but just wondering.

Also what if parents forbid someone from a vocation?
 
Monica4316 said:
If an adult is living with his or her parents are they bound to obey everything their parents tell them or because they’re an adult, could they just show respect but be able to disagree? I’m not talking about breaking house rules or anything like that… But let’s say you are doing something in your faith that your SD let you, but your parents are forbidding you. If you’re an adult and living separately as I understand you need to be respectful but you are not bound to obedience. What if you live with your parents?

This is hypothetical as I am in my own place for most of the year but just wondering.

Also what if parents forbid someone from a vocation?
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No, of course not. Parents cannot forbid these things from adult children. Landlords, Can however choose thier lease conditions and tenants.

Meaning, you are free to do as you wish and they are free to have you live there or not…
Hypothetically…
 
Monica4316 said:
If an adult is living with his or her parents are they bound to obey everything their parents tell them or because they’re an adult, could they just show respect but be able to disagree? I’m not talking about breaking house rules or anything like that… But let’s say you are doing something in your faith that your SD let you, but your parents are forbidding you. If you’re an adult and living separately as I understand you need to be respectful but you are not bound to obedience. What if you live with your parents?

This is hypothetical as I am in my own place for most of the year but just wondering.

Also what if parents forbid someone from a vocation?
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From another thread you posted on, you are in your 30’s. For a parent to “forbid” an adult child from a vocation shows a serious lack of boundaries and an unhealthy relationship within the family. Your mother cannot forbid you to do anything- she may want to set restrictions on comings and goings as to not disturb other members of the household and may set times on when the laundry facilities and such may be free for others to use (as would most landlords that are occupying the same premises), but for her to rule and control your life is ridiculous. I will say this explains much about the content of some of your past posts with adhering to the letter of the law in certain things and I would strongly recommend you consider moving out, as this living arrangement is most unhealthy for you.
 
Monica4316 said:
If an adult is living with his or her parents are they bound to obey everything their parents tell them or because they’re an adult, could they just show respect but be able to disagree? I’m not talking about breaking house rules or anything like that… But let’s say you are doing something in your faith that your SD let you, but your parents are forbidding you. If you’re an adult and living separately as I understand you need to be respectful but you are not bound to obedience. What if you live with your parents?

This is hypothetical as I am in my own place for most of the year but just wondering.

Also what if parents forbid someone from a vocation?
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The Church specifically forbids parents from obstructing a child pursuing a vocation…or from forcing their child into a specific vocation. You are not under any obligation to obey parents in that regard.
 
LightBound said:
From another thread you posted on, you are in your 30’s. For a parent to “forbid” an adult child from a vocation shows a serious lack of boundaries and an unhealthy relationship within the family. Your mother cannot forbid you to do anything- she may want to set restrictions on comings and goings as to not disturb other members of the household and may set times on when the laundry facilities and such may be free for others to use (as would most landlords that are occupying the same premises), but for her to rule and control your life is ridiculous. I will say this explains much about the content of some of your past posts with adhering to the letter of the law in certain things and I would strongly recommend you consider moving out, as this living arrangement is most unhealthy for you.
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Well said.
 
AdamPeter said:
The Church specifically forbids parents from obstructing a child pursuing a vocation…or from forcing their child into a specific vocation. You are not under any obligation to obey parents in that regard.
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Right
 
Catechism of the Catholic Church
Article 2230
When they become adults, children have the right and duty to choose their profession and state of life. They should assume their new responsibilities within a trusting relationship with their parents, willingly asking and receiving their advice and counsel. Parents should be careful not to exert pressure on their children either in the choice of a profession or in that of a spouse. This necessary restraint does not prevent them - quite the contrary from giving their children judicious advice, particularly when they are planning to start a family.
 
Hoosier_Daddy said:
No, of course not. Parents cannot forbid these things from adult children. Landlords, Can however choose thier lease conditions and tenants.

Meaning, you are free to do as you wish and they are free to have you live there or not…
Hypothetically…
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Of course, the reality of life is that what people ought to do and what people can do aren’t always the same. Legally, a parent with a child living in their house has a lot more rights than a standard landlord-tenant relationship, at least in the U.S.
 
LightBound said:
From another thread you posted on, you are in your 30’s. For a parent to “forbid” an adult child from a vocation shows a serious lack of boundaries and an unhealthy relationship within the family. Your mother cannot forbid you to do anything- she may want to set restrictions on comings and goings as to not disturb other members of the household and may set times on when the laundry facilities and such may be free for others to use (as would most landlords that are occupying the same premises), but for her to rule and control your life is ridiculous. I will say this explains much about the content of some of your past posts with adhering to the letter of the law in certain things and I would strongly recommend you consider moving out, as this living arrangement is most unhealthy for you.
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I should clarify, I actually don’t live with my parents. I have my own apartment in another city. But I call often and I visit my parents during summer break. I was asking in case I ever move back in but also just hypothetically about certain things. \

I’m not sure what other threads you refer to with the letter of the law… do you mean the modesty thread? (I don’t know). I think there’s just different views on this.
 
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