LaughingBoy1503
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I think you also see it is not as black and white, with what you added to your own post.
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TK421
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God’s graces require the cooperation of the person, so no, obviously not everybody is going to be happy with whatever vocation they have, married or otherwise. But this isn’t because the vocation itself does not offer joy.
A person called to matrimony can and will have a painful pang of yearning and longing within them, for being able to someday fulfill that call, and be joined to another person, and to selflessly give themselves to them in love and fidelity, and likely to participate in the creation of another immortal soul and to start a family. But, this doesn’t mean the person will be miserable until that day happens. If they are taking that call seriously, they will be making proactive, calculated actions in their life to move them closer to that goal. If they aren’t… and they’re waiting for a breathtaking man or woman to drop out of the sky through their roof, well… they might end up remaining single forever, even if God didn’t desire that, and they will suffer as a result.
A person called to matrimony can and will have a painful pang of yearning and longing within them, for being able to someday fulfill that call, and be joined to another person, and to selflessly give themselves to them in love and fidelity, and likely to participate in the creation of another immortal soul and to start a family. But, this doesn’t mean the person will be miserable until that day happens. If they are taking that call seriously, they will be making proactive, calculated actions in their life to move them closer to that goal. If they aren’t… and they’re waiting for a breathtaking man or woman to drop out of the sky through their roof, well… they might end up remaining single forever, even if God didn’t desire that, and they will suffer as a result.
LaughingBoy1503
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That sounds more like real life. However, I think some will try but still ultimately fail. This happens.
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TK421
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I think this is extraordinarily unlikely, if you’re stubborn enough. It’s a matter of where your priorities are and what you’re willing to do.
Will they find somebody that fits their initial prefect image? No. Nobody ever does. God doesn’t want that kind of marriage. He wants to see people be forced to conform & sacrifice in order to fulfill that vocation and to find joy in it, because that’s the kind of marriage that yields fruit and spiritual growth.
Will they find somebody that fits their initial prefect image? No. Nobody ever does. God doesn’t want that kind of marriage. He wants to see people be forced to conform & sacrifice in order to fulfill that vocation and to find joy in it, because that’s the kind of marriage that yields fruit and spiritual growth.
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TK421
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Some examples of what actions you could take that can tremendously help you find a spouse:
- If you live in a small town where 90%+ percent of people are either married or are children, pursuing a job and moving to a far more populated area with a much wider pool of people
- Signing up at a dating site and contacting people
- Volunteering and doing other activities that put you into the spotlight, instead of being semi-invisible.
- most importantly Changing whatever mannerisms and habits you have that will impede you from married life. If you’re a 26-year-old man and still playing video games for hours on end, like I was, it’s time to put the controller down and get serious. If you’re a woman that has 3 cats and goes outside once every two weeks, but you feel called to marriage, it’s time to stop being more elusive than an Irish leprechaun and get serious. It goes without saying that sinful habits need to be jettisoned.
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pwlj_christ87
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i was more mad about him asking questions on my personal life and its situations because it implied that i was someone not doing what God wanted , I would not be confessing sins of impurity if I didnt care about that aspect and if I am knowledgable about myself and God than anyone would acknowledge having a wife is supposed ot happen with God’s will … so to me it was a slap in the face to me for going to confession and being remorseful , its not my fault i havent been blessed with a wife yet, and if i was high and mighty i wouldnt need the cross or the confessional
ive read half of the replies so far in this post and want to thank you all for them, i will continue to read them throughout the day
as for my lust, i am gradually getting rid of it, as one poster said and thank you, that it is a matter of not using confession as a crutch and going and going days longer or changing yourself which is the best, and it is a work in progress,
sometimes i dont even want a wife, i just want the Lord to impell his will on me to make me pure, happy, etc, and if a wife comes then I would be more than glad, its about getting out of this vice at the moment.
ive read half of the replies so far in this post and want to thank you all for them, i will continue to read them throughout the day
as for my lust, i am gradually getting rid of it, as one poster said and thank you, that it is a matter of not using confession as a crutch and going and going days longer or changing yourself which is the best, and it is a work in progress,
sometimes i dont even want a wife, i just want the Lord to impell his will on me to make me pure, happy, etc, and if a wife comes then I would be more than glad, its about getting out of this vice at the moment.
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Rosebud77
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Sitting here with jaw on the floor! why do you make it all so complicated? marriage is only one way o f lving. I never did it and never missed it or wasted precious life on the idea. Sure if you really are fixated. but is not that in itself the real problem?
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