Office Christmas Party

[EasterJoy]

The emotionally intelligent sometimes don’t progress beyond getting a good read on people or knowing what buttons to push to get what they want. Now one could argue that’s not what EQ is about, but then at the end of the any anything Q is about the tests and not much more. I’m pretty sure a random sample from a strip joint audience would return a bunch of high IQs and EQs both, sadly.

That’s interesting…I don’t know that psychologists consider sociopaths who are adept at manipulation “emotionally intelligent.” When they use the term, real empathy is implied. They call it an intelligence, but they don’t mean the kind of things usually measured on an IQ test. It is capacity not in the realm of things, as a sociopath would think it means, but in the realm of I-thou, of relationships between persons.

*Emotional intelligence is the ability to sense, understand, and effectively apply the power and acumen of emotions as a source of human energy, information, connection, and influence. -Robert K. Cooper, PhD

It is very important to understand that emotional intelligence is not the opposite of intelligence, it is not the triumph of heart over head–it is the unique intersection of both. -David Caruso

No one cares how much you know, until they know how much you care.
-Theodore Roosevelt

Anyone can be angry–that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way–that is not easy. -Aristotle*

 

[JoyIsLikeRain]

I’ve seen worse in university Catholic ministry “meetings.”

Everyone’s got horror stories, including my own, about corporate people acting awful.

Keep in mind these same types would do the same behaviors on cruise ships and in Vegas, so try to keep it in perspective.

 

[chevalier]

That’s interesting…I don’t know that psychologists consider sociopaths who are adept at manipulation “emotionally intelligent.” When they use the term, real empathy is implied. They call it an intelligence, but they don’t mean the kind of things usually measured on an IQ test. It is capacity not in the realm of things, as a sociopath would think it means, but in the realm of I-thou, of relationships between persons.

Lesseee…

Emotional intelligence is the ability to sense, understand, and effectively apply the power and acumen of emotions as a source of human energy, information, connection, and influence. -Robert K. Cooper, PhD

*'Paths very much have that well covered. Especially the ‘effectively apply the power of’ and the ‘influence’ part.

It is very important to understand that emotional intelligence is not the opposite of intelligence, it is not the triumph of heart over head–it is the unique intersection of both. -David Caruso

And that’s precisely why understanding human emotions is different from either having a good heart or being emotionally healthy (much less having a conscience or compassion).

No one cares how much you know, until they know how much you care.
-Theodore Roosevelt

Beg to disagree. As does every account or lawyer and marketing consultant and… you get the point.*

Anyone can be angry–that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way–that is not easy. -Aristotle

The fine art of anger discernment developed by Aristotle and Aquinas is a separate subject altogether.