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I think a movie,like was suggested is a great idea.
Sometimes it might take something that comes in the form of popular media to give your mother a different mindset.As its not “strictly religious” she wont perceive it as obsessional or more “religious stuff” from you.

Try to have some compassion for your mother because I think she is possibly coming from her own experience with money stressors & she can only see your situation as relating to her own life experiences.

Its hard to tell from your post whether your mother is saying that she wants you to have a high pay job to not have to deal with financial worry (as she had to), or whether rather she is saying she wants you to have a high pay job because she puts excessive importance on wordly values such as being rich and so on.

If your mum has grounded you from the phone,im guessing you are living with your mother?
If that’s the case,and shes paying the bills,perhaps you can offer to pay the bills instead of her as then should might take your beliefs of being ok with poverty/simple life more seriously because she will then see that you have had the experience of having to deal with the responsibility/stress of paying bills etc?

Hopefully,when she feels confident that you have some maturity,are able to make clear decisions,and can meet the responsibilities of bills/rent independently she might “meet you halfway” and be less opposed/more open to you attending Mass more often (and/or a religious vocation if that’s where you are heading).
 
It seems part of parenting that all wan their child to be well off and successful.
 
Dear AmericanRose, your mother is VERY controlling and
disciplinary, MY mother(and father for that matter) was
overly permissive, we got away w/ everything(except murder)!!
NOW, I’m paying the price and have to force myself to be
self-disciplined and self-indulgent.
I pray that you can FORGIVE your mother’s controlling
behavior and can find FREEDOM in Christ!!
Also Mary, the Perfect Mother, is OUR spiritual mother, too!!

Hail holy Queen, Mother of Mercy.
Our life, our sweetness and our hope,
to you do we cry, poor banished children of Eve,
to you do we lift up our sighs, mourning and weeping
in this Valley of Tears. Turn, then, most gracious Advocate,
your eyes of mercy towards us and after this our exile,
show to us the blessed fruit of your womb, Jesus,
O clement, O loving, O kind Virgin Mary.
(Pray for us, O holy Mother of God, that
we may be made worthy of the promises
of Christ.).
Amen.
 
I have forgiven her, and I still love her very, very much. I figured out now that all this is behind me, if I don’t stir up too much trouble and keep quiet about my beliefs, like some believers had(have) to in the past, things go much more smoothly. I only have a year and some months before I turn 18, so I’m just going to let God handle all this now, which is what I should have done in the first place. Then I can worship Him the way I wish without constant criticism, and from a distance it might be easier to bring mom back to the faith, by example instead of words. Thank you all for your prayers and well wishes. I do believe God heard you, because many good things have happened to me since my last post here. The only other thing I ask is for prayers that my mother will find the faith she was baptized as a child, as a catholic.
 
Glad to hear things are going better for you.

Prayers for your mother. Please also pray for my husband’s conversion. :gopray2:
 
I sometimes get told I am "too intense"re "religion… ie I live it not just mention it.

Thankfully I can walk away and am very old.

And your past post shows maturity and wisdom. Well done… “When you do good deeds in private your Father will reward you privately.”
 
AmericanRose said:
I’ve given up my daily rosary and St. Bridget prayers. Just a Hail Mary, St Michael prayer, and the guardian angel prayer every night is all I can bring myself to do. I still love Mass, but the fire that was in me is gone. Any advice?
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It is when prayers become most difficult that they have their greatest effect. The daily Rosary is an incredibly powerful prayer and will bring you many graces even though you may not realize it at this present moment.

It might also help to have a look at some of the messages from St. John Paul II to young people.

“You are the salt of the earth…”
w2.vatican.va/content/john-paul-ii/en/messages/youth/documents/hf_jp-ii_mes_20010731_xvii-world-youth-day.html
 
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