OK to be gay ... and Catholic??

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The Scriptures actually say nothing concerning a homosexual orientation, since the concept of orientation, as we understand it today, was foreign to the sacred authors. What the Scriptures do present are admonitions against certain same-sex activities.

I would have to disagree with you about being content with ones sexuality. I struggled for many years not being content with it and it only hindered my relationship with the Lord and made living as a good Catholic much more difficult. Today, I am at peace with this part of who I am and feel no shame whatsoever in being gay. This does not mean that I act out my inclinations, but niether do I seek to change myself or find freedom from some sort of “bondage”. Prayer, and grace from the sacraments give me the strength to live the Christian life and grow in sanctity. As far as I am concerned, my sexual orientation is of little importance. God bless!
Ryan,

My comment about what scriptures say about homosexuality was a quote from the Catechism - they were not my thoughts or opinions.

It is not my place or my intent to analyze or criticize you or what you have accomplished in grace and in spiritual growth and communion with Christ. Keep up the good work and God Bless.
 
Disagree all you want. That’s what Canon Law says.
That’s not what the Church says.
Apparently you don’t. Canon Law is not good enough for you?
Careful who you paint with that brush. I guess “you are some sort of protestant” (your words) too.
John
John,

Canon Law is just fine for me (it primarily talks about Christ’s faithful - not Catholics). But that does explain why so many Catholics (your definition) don’t go to Mass.
 
That doesn’t make sense. You can not be “not a Catholic” due to sin, go to Confession, and walk out a Catholic again.

You are a Catholic by virtue of your baptism.
As opposed to sinner (which we all are) who intends to seek absolution for his sins, what if you don’t believe you need to go to Confession - as many do many Catholics. What if you believe that you can be a good person and not go to Mass? You basically don;t believe what the church teaches. I guess, from a baptismal perspective, you can call them a Catholic, but I wouldn’t … whether they publicly renounced their affiliation as required by Canon Law or not.
 
Both the catechism and Holy Scripture label homosexuality as grave depravity and homosexual acts are intrinsically disordered. So, aside from chastity, which we are all called to do according to our ministries and states of life, one should work toward being freed from its bondage through prayer, sacramental grace, and penance, as opposed to being content with the orientation.

The same sort of “gravely disordered” language is used in the catechism for masturbation and we should employ the same methods if bonded by that vice.
If the orientation remains, is a chaste person suffering from same-sex attraction guilty of sin?
 
Indeed, if the co-habitating is an occasion of sin. It’s not so in every case. I am friends with a gay couple who have been together for 14 years, live together in the same house, but sleep in separate beds. One of them is Catholic and the other is not. The non-Catholic partner was charitable enough to tell my friend that if his faith required him to be celibate, that would be fine and he would have no problem with it. There’s a lot more to loving another person than sex.
The devil is a supernatural being who has a knack for finding the weaknesses in all of us and who loves a challenge. So, I think that it would be imprudent for two people who love eachother to be living together be they homosexual or heterosexual.

But that said, I would not pass judgment on any particular situation or speculate on what, if any, sin was being commited by the simple fact they live together.
 
If the orientation remains, is a chaste person suffering from same-sex attraction guilty of sin?
No, no more than a chaste heterosexual person sins who is suffering from opposite-sex attraction.
 
The devil is a supernatural being who has a knack for finding the weaknesses in all of us and who loves a challenge. So, I think that it would be imprudent for two people who love eachother to be living together be they homosexual or heterosexual.
Very wise advice in most cases, i’m sure. 🙂
 
I would not pass judgment on any particular situation or speculate on what, if any, sin was being commited by the simple fact they live together.
If I can take that sentiment a step further, a priest, then, would not have grounds to refuse communion to “suspected” homosexual cohabitants, nor should the parish shun such people. It is not prudent to ask what goes on behind closed doors. We are not the True Judge; we must assume that people behave in accordance with God’s Law, no?
 
If I can take that sentiment a step further, a priest, then, would not have grounds to refuse communion to “suspected” homosexual cohabitants, nor should the parish shun such people. It is not prudent to ask what goes on behind closed doors. We are not the True Judge; we must assume that people behave in accordance with God’s Law, no?
This appears to be the common practice. The confession lines are quite short while the communion lines are very long. It seems that priests are giving their faithful the benefit of a doubt concerning the state of their souls as they come up to receive, which I’m sure is the correct way to go about it. But that’s just my two cents.
 
It is not prudent to ask what goes on behind closed doors. We are not the True Judge; we must assume that people behave in accordance with God’s Law, no?
Now what’s your definition of prudent? Seriously, what do you mean by that. I’m not sure it fits with the traditional definition, but I’m interested in hearing how you understand it so I can know where you’re coming from.

Assume people behave in accordance with God’s law? Sorry, that sounds very very naive to me.
 
Now what’s your definition of prudent? Seriously, what do you mean by that. I’m not sure it fits with the traditional definition, but I’m interested in hearing how you understand it so I can know where you’re coming from.

Assume people behave in accordance with God’s law? Sorry, that sounds very very naive to me.
And I’m sure most people do not live in accordance with God’s law. But unless someone is a public sinner (politicians who publically support abortion, for example), then how can a priest just pick and choose who he thinks might be in mortal sin and refuse Holy Communion?
 
And I’m sure most people do not live in accordance with God’s law. But unless someone is a public sinner (politicians who publically support abortion, for example), then how can a priest just pick and choose who he thinks might be in mortal sin and refuse Holy Communion?
Some situations lend themselves to the belief that a person in that situation is sinning as more rational than that they are not.

He who lives these commandments and teaches others to live them will be great in the Kingdom of Christ.
 
Some situations lend themselves to the belief that a person in that situation is sinning as more rational than that they are not.

He who lives these commandments and teaches others to live them will be great in the Kingdom of Christ.
True. But if a priest is concerned, I would think the appropriate steps would be to talk to the individual privately to clarify the situation rather than just assume.
 
If I can take that sentiment a step further, a priest, then, would not have grounds to refuse communion to “suspected” homosexual cohabitants, nor should the parish shun such people. It is not prudent to ask what goes on behind closed doors. We are not the True Judge; we must assume that people behave in accordance with God’s Law, no?
IMHO, you are correct. A priest should not refuse Communion on the suspicion that they have sinned. However, it would not be improper for a priest to inquire in the confessional as to any person’s situation. I have found that Traditional priests have more of a tendancy to drill down into a person’s life. For instance, if you confess a sin of impurity, you could expect a further clarification of “alone or with someone else” … and from there a discussion about your situation.

People, being the way they are (i.e., humans and stained with original sin), will think the worst of, if not shun, adults who co-habitate outside of marriage with those of the sex they are attracted to. We will always live with that and it is not Christ-like. That is not to be confused with our duty, as Catholics, to provide guidance and correction, in private and in charity, to those who are open about actively living in an adulterous situation.
 
I am kind of tired of people who when they find Catholic sinners (like we ALL are) ask if the offenders are even Catholic any more. Or even better, they say they are “Catholic” in quotes. (Read that not Catholic the way I think they should be.)

Matthew 7:1

Further, unless they formally defected from the Catholic Church they are still, and always Catholic.
You’re right, they are still ontologically Catholic, but there are other levels on which someone can be called “Catholic”, for example, if one believes the theology of the Catholic Church, they can be considered “theologically Catholic”. Unfortunately some people (on occasion, myself also :S) tend to conflate these categories.
 
It’s okay to be gay and Catholic. We are supposed to show all love and compassion towards people of homosexual tendencies. The homosexual tendency is most likely not your fault and it is not an active decision you made, usually.

However, sex outside of marriage is considered sinful by the Church. The Church does not marry homosexuals, because they cannot produce children, which is one of the primary ends of marriage. So gays are called to chastity. If you are in a homosexual relationship, I would abstain from Communion. I can’t even imagine how hard it would be to be homosexual. God bless you.
 
True. But if a priest is concerned, I would think the appropriate steps would be to talk to the individual privately to clarify the situation rather than just assume.
We are all called to exercise the utmost charity. But either way we are making an assumption. Do you assume they are not sinning or do you assume they are? In making moral judgments, we must work to avoid evil and do good. So, if something may be wrong, I am under an obligation to avoid it. If there is a blanket on the ground, and I think there may possibly be an innocent person under the blanket, but it might also be a dangerous animal under the blanket, then I really shouldn’t shoot first and look later. In a similar way, if it appears that two persons are living in sin, and since it would be a grave sin for them to receive communion if they are in grave sin, then I shouldn’t give them communion first and look into the matter later. I am under a certain obligation to look into the matter first and not assume that everything if fine and dandy.
 
We are all called to exercise the utmost charity. But either way we are making an assumption. Do you assume they are not sinning or do you assume they are? In making moral judgments, we must work to avoid evil and do good. So, if something may be wrong, I am under an obligation to avoid it. If there is a blanket on the ground, and I think there may possibly be an innocent person under the blanket, but it might also be a dangerous animal under the blanket, then I really shouldn’t shoot first and look later. In a similar way, if it appears that two persons are living in sin, and since it would be a grave sin for them to receive communion if they are in grave sin, then I shouldn’t give them communion first and look into the matter later. I am under a certain obligation to look into the matter first and not assume that everything if fine and dandy.
I suppose we’ll agree to disagree. Unless it is clear that a person is willfully and obstinately committing a grave sin, I do not believe it is appropriate for a priest to deny them Communion without first clarifying the situation. In the context of our discussion, if a priest has a gay couple in his parish, he should ask them if they are living according to the precepts of the Church before telling them not to present themselves for Communion. The fact of the matter is that there are many gay couples who choose to have intimate yet celibate relationships.
 
True. But if a priest is concerned, I would think the appropriate steps would be to talk to the individual privately to clarify the situation rather than just assume.
I suppose we’ll agree to disagree. Unless it is clear that a person is willfully and obstinately committing a grave sin, I do not believe it is appropriate for a priest to deny them Communion without first clarifying the situation. In the context of our discussion, if a priest has a gay couple in his parish, he should ask them if they are living according to the precepts of the Church before telling them not to present themselves for Communion. The fact of the matter is that there are many gay couples who choose to have intimate yet celibate relationships.
I cannot agree to disagree because I mostly agree with you. A priest should clarify before telling them not to present themselves. That doesn’t mean that he should give them communion before clarifying though. This last point I find that your above paragraph does not treat, so I will not assume you stand one way or the other on it.
 
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