Ok to get rid of brother's "adult" films?

[Sideline]

Let’s try it this way: Say the parents get in on this. I think you can see very clearly that the don’t-destroy-another’s-property fizzles rather quickly.

Absolutely! There is no difference between a police officer taking someone into custody, bringing them before a judge to determine if it was a lawful arrest, then trying that case before one’s peers, before sentencing a person to jail, and me locking up evil doers in my basement. Oh, except for all that hogwash about due process and proper authorities.

There is a huge difference between a parent enforcing rules in their home, and ditching your brother’s porn because you can’t keep your hands off of it and don’t want to admit it that fact your family.

 

[Pat_the_Cat]

No, this would be wrong.

According to Catholicism, for an act to be moral, both the ends and the means must be moral. In this case, the ends are moral, but the means are not. Therefore,*** the act of throwing away your brother’s property would be immoral***.

Not necesserily true. If I took an ax murderer’s ax from him without his knowing to prevent him from killing people, I would be doing something virtuous. it would not be “stealing”. My intention would be to prevent murder.

Now to “take” your brother’s films for yourself would be stealing. To take them because you care about his soul, and cannot find another way to help him would be loving. but your situation is different. You are trying to make desicions for someone else for your own good. This could be seen as you being “controlling”. This would not be helpful to your relationship with your brother.

In your situation I think the best solution would be to ask God for the courage to confront your brother with your problem. You might find that he needs to hear why you believe that porn is wrong, and the problems that it is causing you. It could be the start of HIS conversion. It might help him understand how harmful it really is. And if he doesn’t listen, buy him a safe for his birthday and ask him to keep the stuff out of your reach.

 

[FRATER_PAVLVS]

It is possible and morally acceptable to get rid of these films. But it is unwise. Because then he will go and download new films. Teach him how bad porn is.

 

[Scottgun]

There is a huge difference between a parent enforcing rules in their home, and ditching your brother’s porn because you can’t keep your hands off of it and don’t want to admit it that fact your family.

Anyone giving a fair reading would recognize that I was merely dismantling the property-rights-are-absolute canard. Like one of the original posters suggests, get the parents involved. Sheesh.

 

[Catholic90]

I think that it is okay. My Mom destroyed some magazines and records of my brothers. I had found the magazines at one time, but, anyway, things like this should not be in a Christian home. They are disrespectful to women, and, bad for one’s sisters. Go ahead and get rid of them! Who cares! Take the flack too, for that matter, but there will likely be none.

Age: Profile says he’s 20 - an adult.

There is a HUGE difference between what a parent can do with a minor child living in the home and what one adult can do to/with another adult!

I have every right to go into one of my son’s rooms and take something I as a parent do not feel is appropriate. However, I would be quite upset if one of my minor sons decided to take one his brother’s items.

Talk to him, but do not just take it and destroy it. Not OK.