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About three weeks ago I joyfully recalled how I had been broken free from an addiction to pornography and self-impurity by God’s grace. I returned to the Sacrament of Penance after a prolonged absence and after about three confessions I was no longer addicted. But over the past 3 weeks or so these urges have come back and now I am really frightened that I will be in a state of mortal sin on Christmas Day. I hope the Lord will forgive me again in Confession this coming Saturday but then I really need to stay out of trouble for as long as possible. Have you any ideas and suggestions on how to do so?

I get this urge that builds up like pressure and the best way to relieve the pressure is to masturbate but I know that the pressure will naturally go way if I leave it alone but that seems to take ages and is very tiring. Even if I go to morning Mass I know that this pressure will accumulate in the evening and I’ll succumb to it. A bad and hellish habit that I thought was gone has now reared its ugly face and as I haven’t been battling for over a year like before I have no desire to give up I want to masturbate, view pornography and lust.

Would anyone be so kind as to provide some advice and support?
 
Keep getting up and going to Confession!

Proverbs 24:16 For a just mall shall fall seven times and shall rise again: but the wicked shall fall down into evil.
 
I would recommend praying at regular intervals during the day.

For example, you might try the St. Andrew Christmas Novena. Traditionally, one prays this prayer 15 times a day from St. Andrew’s feast day (November 30th) through Christmas Day. But of course you can pray it any time. Perhaps you could start now and pray through the end of the Christmas season (the Feast of the Presentation on February 2nd, by some standards).

To pray it 15 times a day, you basically have to pray it every waking hour on the hour. So, for example, you stop and pray from 8am-10pm every hour.

I think it can be helpful because it forces us to bring our mind to God with greater frequency than we sometimes are accustomed to. It’s easier to resist temptation when God is never that far from our heart. Perhaps knowing that in 20 minutes you will have to again pause to pray will give you that extra bit of help to avoid giving in to temptation.

I will pray for you.
 
Pray the Rosary every day. That’s what helped me with this problem – and continues to help me! I pray a few decades during my morning and evening commute, instead of listening to the car radio, and at night when I go to bed. Remember that the longer you persevere, the easier it becomes to resist temptation.

I will include you in my prayer intentions as well.
 
Here is some important info about the Miraculous Medal, one of Mother Theresa’s
favorites.

“Have a medal struck… All who wear it will receive GREAT graces; they should wear it
around the neck. GRACES will ABOUND for persons who wear it with CONFIDENCE.”
From the mother of Jesus spoken to sister Catherine Laboure 1830.

“Great graces are often attached to what seems trifling.” St. Margaret Mary Alacoque

“The devotions we practice in honor of the glorious Virgin Mary, however trifling they be,
are very pleasing to her divine Son, …” St. Teresa of Jesus

During this apparition, Mary’s hands had 3 rings on each finger. Each ring gave off
rays of colored light. A few rings did not. Mary said that the lights radiating from
the rings are graces that people ASK for. The rings that didn’t radiate she said
were graces not given because they were NOT asked for.

Have it blessed. The devil hates blessed objects. Keep it on all all times.
Wear her medal in her honor because the devil can’t stand her either.

Then hold the medal and say, “Mary I am asking now for great graces which
you promised to those who ask and believe in what you said.”
Trust her, it works. She is the mother of God. Would she lie?
Your mother wants to help you. It is her gift to you. She promised and she will diliver.
“Great graces are often attached to what seems trifling.” St. Margaret Mary Alacoque
Code: 
 legionofmary.org/miracmedal.html
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“Yes, blessed is she who BELIEVED that the PROMISE made her by the Lord would be FULFILLED.” (Lk. 1;45) St. Elizabeth
 
I recommend getting a Brown Scapular and being enrolled by a priest. Not just blessed, but enrolled. If you need help with the enrollment let me know. The Brown Scapular of The Blessed Virgin Mary stopped me of all those flesh vices. Kind of hard to wackoff with your Mama watching. What’s Satan going to do with Mary protecting you? That’s right, he’s gone! So what are you going to do? Take the Brown Scapular off to watch pornography and masturbate? How can you explain that to Mary? That’s right! You can’t.

All aside, The Brown Scapular of The Blessed Virgin Mary has put a stop to the very same actions you are having problems with.
 
MIRACULOUS MEDAL NINE DAY NOVENA

Opening Prayer

In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen
Come, O Holy Spirit, fill the hearts of Your faithful, and kindle in them the fire of Your love.
Send forth Your Spirit, and they shall be created. And You shall renew the face of the earth.

Let Us Pray
O God who did instruct the hearts of the faithful by the light of the Holy Spirit, grant us
in the same Spirit to be truly wise and ever to rejoice in His consolation, through Jesus Christ Our Lord. Amen.

O Mary, conceived without sin. Pray for us who have recourse to thee. (3 times)

O Lord Jesus Christ, who have vouchsafed to glorify by numberless miracles the Blessed Virgin Mary, immaculate from the first moment of her conception, grant that all who devoutly implore her protection on earth, may eternally enjoy Your presence in heaven, who, with the Father and Holy Spirit, live and reign, God, for ever and ever.
Amen.

O Lord Jesus Christ, who for the accomplishment of Your greatest works, has chosen the weak things of the world, that no flesh may glory in Your sight; and who for a better and more widely diffused belief in the Immaculate Conception of Your Mother, has wished that the Miraculous Medal be manifested to Saint Catherine Labouré, grant, I beseech You, that filled with like humility, I may glorify this mystery by word and work.
Amen.

Memorare
Remember, O most compassionate Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to thy protection, implored thy assistance, or sought thy intercession, was left unaided. Inspired with this confidence, I fly unto thee, O Virgin of Virgins, my Mother. To thee I come; before thee I kneel, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in thy mercy, hear and answer them.
Amen.

Novena Prayer
O Immaculate Virgin Mary, Mother of Our Lord Jesus and my Mother, penetrated with the most lively confidence in your all-powerful and never-failing intercession, manifested so often through the Miraculous Medal. I, your loving and trustful child, implore you to obtain for me the graces and favors I ask during this Novena, if they be beneficial to my immortal soul, and the souls for whom I pray. (here privately form your prayer requests) You know, O Mary, how often my soul has been the sanctuary of your Son who hates iniquity. Obtain for me then a deep hatred of sin and that purity of heart which will attach me to God alone so that my every thought, word and deed may tend to His greater glory. Obtain for me also a spirit of prayer and self-denial that I may recover by penance what I have lost by sin and at length attain to that blessed abode where you are the Queen of angels and of all people.
Amen.

An Act of Consecration to Our Lady of the Miraculous Medal.
O Virgin Mother of God, Mary Immaculate, I dedicate and consecrate myself to you under the title of Our Lady of the Miraculous Medal. May this Medal be for me a sure sign of your affection for me and a constant reminder of my duties toward you. Ever while wearing it, may I be blessed by your loving protection and preserved in the grace of your Son. O most powerful Virgin, Mother of my Savior, keep me close to you every moment of my life. Obtain for me, your child, the grace of a happy death; so that, in union with you, I may enjoy the bliss of heaven forever.
Amen.

O Mary, conceived without sin. Pray for us who have recourse to thee. (3 times)
 
MS_SURVEYOR said:
I recommend getting a Brown Scapular and being enrolled by a priest. Not just blessed, but enrolled. If you need help with the enrollment let me know. The Brown Scapular of The Blessed Virgin Mary stopped me of all those flesh vices. Kind of hard to wackoff with your Mama watching. What’s Satan going to do with Mary protecting you? That’s right, he’s gone! So what are you going to do? Take the Brown Scapular off to watch pornography and masturbate? How can you explain that to Mary? That’s right! You can’t.

All aside, The Brown Scapular of The Blessed Virgin Mary has put a stop to the very same actions you are having problems with.
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I’m going to call the parish tomorrow and see if they stock Scapulars in the repository and I’ll ask a very holy Priest I am blessed to know to bless it.

Thank you for the idea of the St. Andrew Novena I’m already praying it for the conversion of a family member. Though I really should intersperse the prayer throughout the day instead of clumping them altogether.

Thank you for the prayers and support. Any other ideas are appreciated.
 
fred_conty said:
Here is some important info about the Miraculous Medal, one of Mother Theresa’s
favorites.

“Have a medal struck… All who wear it will receive GREAT graces; they should wear it
around the neck. GRACES will ABOUND for persons who wear it with CONFIDENCE.”
From the mother of Jesus spoken to sister Catherine Laboure 1830.

“Great graces are often attached to what seems trifling.” St. Margaret Mary Alacoque

“The devotions we practice in honor of the glorious Virgin Mary, however trifling they be,
are very pleasing to her divine Son, …” St. Teresa of Jesus

During this apparition, Mary’s hands had 3 rings on each finger. Each ring gave off
rays of colored light. A few rings did not. Mary said that the lights radiating from
the rings are graces that people ASK for. The rings that didn’t radiate she said
were graces not given because they were NOT asked for.

Have it blessed. The devil hates blessed objects. Keep it on all all times.
Wear her medal in her honor because the devil can’t stand her either.

Then hold the medal and say, “Mary I am asking now for great graces which
you promised to those who ask and believe in what you said.”
Trust her, it works. She is the mother of God. Would she lie?
Your mother wants to help you. It is her gift to you. She promised and she will diliver.
“Great graces are often attached to what seems trifling.” St. Margaret Mary Alacoque
Code: 
 legionofmary.org/miracmedal.html
=============================================
“Yes, blessed is she who BELIEVED that the PROMISE made her by the Lord would be FULFILLED.” (Lk. 1;45) St. Elizabeth
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I have a Miraculous Medal also. The big picture is I live with and through Mary to Jesus 24/7/365! I need both, along with the Holy Spirit to see me get to Heaven.
 
A couple of suggestions

1)Try and get hold of a very good friend or Godly man and confess your struggles. Not necessarily a priest(whom you should confesss to) but more of a ‘peer’

2)Are you single?Try not to be alone for extended periods of time.

3)Find out what your ‘trigger’ points are- What makes you want to ‘releive’ the pressure. Is it because you are angry, tired, bored , hurt etc?

4)Install a porn filter and make knowing the password very difficult. This is extremely important, you should try and cut the source.

5)Realize this is a process, it takes time, you will die to yourself continually and each time you fall(confess and rise again) you will learn something new about yourself. The Lord Jesus will see you through- have faith…it takes time…God just doesn’t want to fix the problem…but fix you completely and is using this struggle as a way to do it

And above all…just don’t give into despair…

The above has helped me…hope it does for you
 
Antonio5 said:
I’m going to call the parish tomorrow and see if they stock Scapulars in the repository and I’ll ask a very holy Priest I am blessed to know to bless it.

Thank you for the idea of the St. Andrew Novena I’m already praying it for the conversion of a family member. Though I really should intersperse the prayer throughout the day instead of clumping them altogether.

Thank you for the prayers and support. Any other ideas are appreciated.
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*Procedure for the Blessing and Investiture
Of the Scapular of
Our Lady of Mount Carmel

Priest - Show us, O Lord, Thy mercy.

Respondent- And grant us Thy salvation.

Priest - Lord, hear my prayer.

Respondent - And let my cry come unto Thee.

Priest - The Lord be with you.

Respondent - And also with you.

Priest - Lord Jesus Christ, Savior of the human race, sanctify by Thy power these scapulars, which for love of Thee and for love of Our lady of Mount Carmel, Thy servants will wear devoutly, so that through the intercession of the same Virgin Mary, Mother of God, and protected against the evil spirit, they persevere until death in Thy grace. Thou who lives and reigns world without end. Amen.

THE PRIEST SPRINKLES HOLY WATER AND INVESTS PERSON(S) WHILE SAYING:

Receive this blessed Scapular and beseech the Blessed Virgin that through Her merits, you may wear it without stain. May it defend you against all adversity and accompany you to eternal life. Amen.

AFTER THE INVESTITURE THE PRIEST CONTINUES WITH THE PRAYERS:

I, by the power vested in me, admit you to participate in all the spiritual benefits obtained through the mercy of Jesus Christ by the Religious Order of Mount Carmel.

In the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit. Amen.

May God Almighty, the Creator of Heaven and earth, bless you, He who has deigned to join you to the confraternity of the Blessed Virgin Of Mount Carmel; we beseech Her to crush the head of the ancient serpent so that you my enter into possession of your eternal heritage, through Christ our Lord.

Respondent - Amen.
 
Pray the rosary whenever you feel temptation, or just imagine Our Lady in front of you.
 
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