I’m really glad for the people who have no problems with the liturgy in their parish.
I know that there will always be those who will justify ‘small’ changes.
I know that some customs, even if I really don’t like them --or even if I really DO like them–don’t really matter and don’t cause real problems.
But (you knew there would be a but–) there are places, there are people, for whom the liturgy has, through ‘custom’ over years or decades, become not ‘the liturgy’, but ‘St So-and-So’s liturgy, or "Father X’s liturgy’. Because St So and So 30 years ago for example had a large population of extroverts and guitar players, St So and So embraced all kinds of ‘extrovert’ things, some good, some bad… Now, even with the GIRM, St. So and So routinely starts off Mass with Father going ‘off the cuff’, wandering the floors, calling for ‘audience participation’, ad libbing the Mass, because, “That’s the way we DO it here, that’s what the people asked for, it’s more important to give them what they want than to stick to ‘hide bound old rules’ and Jesus was a rebel too”. . .
the attitude from St So and So is just as putatively ‘intolerant’ and resistant to change and reluctant to ‘turn back the clock’ to any other liturgy than theirs. Because they have already ‘changed’, they think it is unnecessary to do any further change, even though some of their changes might be illicit or invalid.
I have to say in my neck of the woods I see many more deviant customs than most. I would WELCOME a Mass said in English, done with hand-holding at the Our Father, with everybody dressed in jeans and sweats, applause for the musicians, priests in tie dye, etc., provided the Mass was said without ad libs and ‘add-ons’ and liturgical dance etc.