On the sin of pride

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Could you please recommend any very good books ,YouTube’s addressing thoroughly the sin of pride that have helped you ?
 
This is a prayer I picked up along the way - Prayer for Humility. I do not know the author.

O Jesus! meek and humble of heart, Hear me.
From the desire of being esteemed,
Deliver me, Jesus.

From the desire of being loved…
From the desire of being extolled …
From the desire of being honored …
From the desire of being praised …
From the desire of being preferred to others…
From the desire of being consulted …
From the desire of being approved …
From the fear of being humiliated …
From the fear of being despised…
From the fear of suffering rebukes …
From the fear of being calumniated …
From the fear of being forgotten …
From the fear of being ridiculed …
From the fear of being wronged …
From the fear of being suspected …

That others may be loved more than I,
Jesus, grant me the grace to desire it.

That others may be esteemed more than I …
That, in the opinion of the world,
others may increase and I may decrease …
That others may be chosen and I set aside …
That others may be praised and I unnoticed …
That others may be preferred to me in everything…
That others may become holier than I, provided that I may become as holy as I should…
 
This helped me (I have it copy pasted in my notes but it’s from the SpiritualDirection.com originally). It is just part of an article text:
St. Teresa of Avila says that,
“Self knowledge is so important that, even if you were raised right up to the heavens, I should like you never to relax your cultivation of it; so long as we are on this earth, nothing matters more to us than humility.”
(St. Teresa of Avila, Interior Castle)
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Self knowledge can be cultivated through our own realization of God’s goodness and our own baseness; by looking at his purity we shall see our foulness; by meditating upon his humility, we shall see how far we are from being humble. (St. Teresa of Avila, Interior Castle)
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COMMON MANIFESTATIONS OF PRIDE:
too high an opinion of myself
annoyance with those who contradict me, brooking no contradictions
anger if I don’t get my way or am not taken into account
easily judgmental, putting others down, gossiping about them
slow to recognize my own mistakes, or to see when I hurt others, and inability to seek and give forgiveness
rage when others don’t thank me for favors
unwillingness to serve, rebellion against what I don’t like
impatience, distance, brusqueness in my daily contact with others
thinking I am the only one who knows how to do things right, unwillingness to let others help
inflated idea of my own intelligence and understanding, dismissing what I do not understand or what others see differently
not feeling a need for God, even though I do say prayers
nursing grudges, even in small matters
never taking orders
inflexible in preferences
always putting myself and my things first, indifference towards others and their needs, never putting myself out for them
centering everything (conversation, choices…) on myself and my likes
calculating in my relations with God and with others
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I read this is great book

https://www.amazon.com/Humility-Heart-Cajetan-Mary-Bergamo/dp/0895557665

I didn’t listen too many podcasts or videos on that topic in English so cannot recommend from youtube.
 
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 I have a general question for anyone who may know the answers to this: Is there a difference between pride and confidence? I agree absolutely that pride is a sin, but what exactly defines pride as a sin? If a person has low self-esteem, and I don't mean humility, which is a great attribute, but having such a low opinion of oneself that can be detrimental to one's mental, spiritual, and physical health and well-being, would having some pride in oneself be a great thing? And yhe low self-esteem can and does include depression.
And if one is good or even great at something, has genuine skills and talent, is taking pride in those help to boost one's confidence and self-esteem and help to reduce depression and low or no self-esteem? 
And do you think that it is possible to have both pride in one's work and genuine humility simultaneously? And being an introvert and extrovert simultaneously?
I ask this for genuine opinions and to confess that I have and do experience all of the above and more. And certainly if I do feel that I am drifting toward the sin of Pride, I do try to steer away from it and then feel remorse and regret and ask for God’s forgiveness.
 
The Steps of Humility and Pride by St Bernard of Clairvaux
 
Thanks ! I’m compiling a reading list for when CAF ends .God bless.
 
The Imitation of Christ - Thomas á Kempis.
The Practice of the Presence of God - Brother Lawrence.
 
Regarding so-called acceptance of humiliation - keep in mind that death is the wages of sin, and the wages of pride is humiliation.

Humiliation is like the hatred and bitterness of envy - neither are a medicine or a practice for humility, but the bitter thorns of vice. Being humble means being immune to embarrassment and humiliation - I know one person who said that the more he killed his own pride the less embarrassed he was and the more peace he had. And that when he saw how much he was loved by God being offended by insults and embarrassments ceased to matter as they melted away.

I know of another person who says that many people are puffed up with pride without even knowing it - instead of laughing at themselves and not taking themselves so seriously they get embarrassed at their failures. If they had more humility they would actually enjoy life more and be free! Humility isn’t being pained with reality or hurt by it, but living peacefully with it.

So one way to pray to God about this is to have more peace in life, to be more grounded in reality, and to thus enjoy life more by being more humble - getting rid of those pesky thorns of embarrassment and humiliation and living life to the fullest as God intended it in the beginning for us, His precious children.
 
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Some psychological books on narcissism can provide a good understanding of pride.
 
Can I just say, I have struggled all my life with social anxiety and fear of being in the spotlight. Until this day I shy away from all situations were I may be looked at, may embarrass myself or may be humiliated.
I have tried all sorts of techniques to try to change this, but have never found anything to change my outlook.
Until I read your post.
It’s a wonderful way to look at things, and you are completely right.
I have too much pride in caring for how others see me, and that is not what God wants. I am going to screenshot your post and read it every day (if you don’t mind).
Thank you.
 
You’re welcome! And speaking of humility - to God be all the glory for using my post to help someone!

And never forget that God loves you and doesn’t like to see you embarrassed or humiliated! He wants to see you happy and free - knowing that you are so valued, loved and wonderful to Him, and knowing how to laugh at yourself and enjoy reality, is what He ultimately wants for you!

He mostly allows embarrassments and humiliations to make us know where we are still lacking and where we should be healed, all for our own benefit.
 
Thank you, that was good. I often think that shame is the offspring of pride, or the other side of the same coin. Shame, and not healthy guilt, was the immediate result of Adam & Eve’s first sin. Pride sets excessively high standards for us (it could be said that the ultimate standard was Adam’s desire to be like God while on his own, apart from Him). In any case when we fail to live up to the unnatural standard, we feel shame. The world sets many standards for us, and expects or demands that we live up to them, and in many cases the standards can be evil/sinful. And we may struggle to decide where our allegiance lies. I appreciate John 12:42-43, somewhat related here:

“Yet at the same time many even among the leaders believed in him. But because of the Pharisees they would not openly acknowledge their faith for fear they would be put out of the synagogue; for they loved human praise more than praise from God.”
 
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