Oopsie marriage question

[EasterJoy]

I should have invested in a catechism by now.

The Catechism of the Catholic Church is posted online in its entirety by the Vatican:
vatican.va/archive/ENG0015/_INDEX.HTM

The Compendium of the Catechism of the Catholic Church is also available online:
vatican.va/archive/compendium_ccc/documents/archive_2005_compendium-ccc_en.html
It is a particularly good resource because it treats the absolute essentials in a very basic manner, and cites the pertinent references in the Catechism.

As for the Catechism itself, don’t neglect to read the footnotes. Many of them are posted online by the Vatican, as well. It is easiest to use a search engine to look for them directly, rather than searching with the Vatican search engine. You’re less likely to turn up recent documents that refer to them, and more likely to turn up the original document itself.

Having said that, the Catechism covers general principles, not particular situations like this. In that case, well…I’d ask somebody here, starting with a search of whether the question has been covered by the apologists or in a piece published in the library. Catholic Answers’ experts are an even better resource than these forums. If you can’t find the answer from them, by the time you’ve looked, you’ll be educated for the discussion you get started on one of the forums.

 

[TheLastProfit]

I believe your family is correct. Better talk to a second priest. Its my understanding that your marriage needs to be Blessed in church by a priest. I have a daughter that did something similar and her and her husband had to attend several sessions with a priest to make sure they understood what they were doing before he blessed their marriage. Both of them were raised Catholic. Guess they didn’t listen much to “mom & dad” or their catechism teachers.

In fact, the whole episode was a disaster as neither one of them was very faithful and the whole thing wound up in a divorce court. But by then they had three kids. So they filed for an annullment. Guess what; they were granted the thing. Now both are in their 40’s and still single and just plain miserable.

I pray that you have a better time of it.

The Catholic Church and the Protastant Church are not the same thing. Your Protastant preist was right about his view towards marriage within his church. A Catholic will not take such a light hearted approach when concerning life long obligations.

 

[TheLastProfit]

I was married outside of the Church in 2007 by the Justice of the Peace when my husband and I were total atheists. Now I am going through RCIA and cannot wait for Easter Vigil I am a candidate because I was baptized in 2009 in a protestant church. My priest said simply that at Easter Vigil when I took communion my marriage would be at that moment sacramental. That nothing else had to be done just simply take communion and it was a done deal.

However, another Catholic who had to have her marriage blessed said she’s never heard of this and in fact was told if her marriage was done outside of the church she had to specifically have that fact remedied before she could even take communion.

So I am being given mixed messages. The priest says no special blessing has to take place just put jesus in my mouth.

My Catholic friend says that’s not true at all that before a married person can take communion their marriage HAS to be blessed which consists of some meetings with the priest before its blessed.

What do I do? Consult with a second priest or take this priest’s word for it? I should have invested in a catechism by now.

The above quote is the tread that I was actually answering. Sorry.

 

[remjsmom76]

Well first you didnt mention if your husband is becoming a catholic himself. If you both are, then yes, you both would need to take Pre-Cana classes and have a “second” ceremony. My husband and I, who were both catholic from the start, got married by the JP first. He was leaving to the Army and we didnt have time to get things done the "right"way. Military life is so hecitc and besides the date we originally wanted to get married on was not possible. He ended up leaving to Kuwait. So 3 yrs later, we wanted to be married through the church. He did his pre-cana overseas where he was stationed at and I did my pre-cana here. Living like brother and sister (no sex, no same bed) was not a problem, cause well he was in another country all together. He came home for a month and we got married during his vacation time.

NOW…if your the only one to become the catholic and your husband is still an aatheist…then your priest is right. You can not make your husband catholic and you are already taking the first steps to becoming and living the life of a catholic. You will be able to take eucharist. The catholic church does not punish anyone for being married to a non catholic. It is advised to not marry a non catholic for this reason, HOWEVER yours is a very different circumstance. You became a catholic after the matter. It will only change when and IF your husband decided to become a catholic too.