Open to life when advised no more children

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Hello. My husband and I have 2 beautiful daughters. My oldest will be 3 in March and our youngest will be 8 months on the 17th.
I have a congenital heart condition and my obgyns all recommend I have no more children. With my first I ended up hemorrhaging and needed multiple blood transfusions. With my second I had to be induced because she stopped growing and I had very low amniotic fluid. How do we morally respond to doctors telling us not to have anymore?
 
Talk to your priest. The best we can offer is opinion. God bless you as you seek His will.
 
You consider that your first obligation is to be there for the two beautiful children you have. Then you avoid pregnancy at all costs. Hint: part of being there for your kids is making sure your marriage stays happy and healthy. Follow your conscience. God knows your heart.
 
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How do we morally respond to doctors telling us not to have anymore?
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By not having any more.

Use conservative natural family planning-- by conservative I mean post ovulatory times of intimacy. The other choice would be complete abstinence.Consult your NFP instructor.

I have a friend with a congenital heart condition and she’s been married 15 years. Her doctor has not given her the “OK” to have children for the entirety of her marriage, so they have used NFP all these years to avoid pregnancy.

The Church’s teaching is regarding the marital act itself. Each act must be ordered to procreation. Meaning, we may not alter the act. You can use the naturally infertile times of your cycle.
 
In answer, just my family’s tragedy.
My mother died because she resisted the doctors advice that if she didn’t have a hysterectomy another pregnancy would kill her. She died during another pregnancy leaving nine children, teens ranging down to four years old,.
The impact on all our lives has been lifelong. It was in so many ways a disaster, to have not followed her doctors advice . I cannot express enough how mich harm her death caused. Some if not all will ever fully recover.
Being open to life when her life was at risk, killed our mother. She was only 43, In those days there was only unreliable Rhythm permitted by the Church. It didn’t work for her.

I shall not enumerate ways it negatively affected my siblings and myself, Mum’s loss changed our lives lastingly.

Rather than asking people on the internet what course to take, I hope you will speak to your priest.
God bless you and your family
May God bless you with better health 💐
 
Prayers!

Learn the most conservative method of NFP that will work for you.

While my warning was not my life, I risked losing the ability to walk if I had more children (congenital spinal issue). We used the most conservative rules for Creighton https://fertilitycare.org/ If we were back to that age group now, we’d likely add an electronic device to the mix, just for the extra information.
 
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