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How should one handle these type of situations? When an openly gay relative brings along his boyfriend?
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Macbook_Fun
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It should be handled with love, kindness, and respect.
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Nickkname
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With charity and truth.
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rossum
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In exactly the same way as you would handle it if he was bringing his girlfriend, with whom he was sleeping.
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onmywayagain
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Just follow the golden rule and everything will be just fine.
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S_V7
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Great answers
the only thing I’m worried about is that my actions might seem as though I approve of homosexual behavior.
Any advice with how to be charitable without approving this behavior?
also, should we politely ask them to stop if they are showing publice displays of affection? what should one say?
a bit more specific with my situation, i am 17 and my relative is in his 20’s, does my age affect any responsibility i have to talk to him about this or should the adults take care of any uncomfortable situation?
thanks again for the replies!
the only thing I’m worried about is that my actions might seem as though I approve of homosexual behavior.Any advice with how to be charitable without approving this behavior?
also, should we politely ask them to stop if they are showing publice displays of affection? what should one say?
a bit more specific with my situation, i am 17 and my relative is in his 20’s, does my age affect any responsibility i have to talk to him about this or should the adults take care of any uncomfortable situation?
thanks again for the replies!
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Corki
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I think it is easier since you are not a parent. If there were children, it would be trickier.Great answers
Any advice with how to be charitable without approving this behavior?
also, should we politely ask them to stop if they are showing publice displays of affection? what should one say?
a bit more specific with my situation, i am 17 and my relative is in his 20’s, does my age affect any responsibility i have to talk to him about this or should the adults take care of any uncomfortable situation?
thanks again for the replies!
I don’t think you need to engage them about their behavior or lifestyle. If they are Catholic, they know their situation. Even if they aren’t but they know that you are a serious Catholic, there isn’t anything to be gained by even starting a conversation. If they try to bring up the subject with you, stick to your convictions (don’t minimize or condone) but be charitable and polite.
As for PDAs, just remove yourself from the immediate area. If they are sincere, they will not want anyone to be uncomfortable. If not, they are looking for confrontation and you don’t need to rise to the bait.
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Robbinson
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You have received many great replies here. I also have an openly gay relative (first cousin) who has brought his partner to family functions.
I’ve followed the love, charity and respect approach. However, I struggle over whether, and how, to have a respectful and loving discussion about the spiritual problems of this lifestyle in God’s plan for our lives and salvation. I really do think that we have a responsibility to do this - but in love.
I admit, however, I haven’t done this myself yet - I want so much to be accepting and loving - yet when I really think about it, I know that out of love should come a sharing of the truth - stated in love, but without judgement.
Good luck with your family situtation - I will pray for you - please pray for me as well - for the strength, courage and wisdom to do the right thing.
Blessings,
Brian
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pauliris
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not sure about this one? Bringing home the girlfriend might lead to you should not be sleeping with your girlfriend till you are both married?
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AndyF
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Kindness, love, respect… THEN… fraternal correction (an obligation for Catholics.).
Privately. Give him the good news. He will be relieved to know that he is simply being subjected to a special form of subtle temptation. He will be told that he must extend trust like he never has before, and that is a BLIND trust. Suggest confession, the dedicated Rosary,Mass and his removing himself from occasions of sin starting with his friend and you can prepare him for an eventual recovery. Suggest counsellings at many Catholic approved centers and to get with groups of opposite sex for social contact. Go out and date opposites with moral standards. Never should he advertise his state because it is never permanent and you should be discreet with him for his sake even though he doesn’t care about it.
He is “not” GAY, or any other label that assigns a permanent state to him. He can sever himself from the identity that this subtle demon is master of transferring. He has not become “the” sin, which this label implies, he is still an employee of God, a servant owned by God, with a task to fulfill in this world, which could be marriage to a person of the opposite sex. He does not belong to another created being. It is not his option to give himself to any other being other than to his Maker.(same basic principle for suicides.)
For the most part, he will get no moral persuasion to change from secular society, but can count on the Church for help.
If he assigns himself the label “Gay”, the world will agree to whatever he says as it is destined to end up with this demon and his accomplices, but those who care will correct him.
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Love and pray for them. Respect the person, not the lifestyle.
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Newbie2
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Both fornication and homosexual behavior are sinful behaviors I think is the point here.
About PDA, I’d agree that removing yourself from the immediate area is a good idea. A parent or other adult could take them aside privately and suggest that such PDA might be making others uncomfortable, or directly if it’s a relative who one feels that they could speak with directly and privately.
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