oral sex

[sarahkkristen]

For unmarried catholics is oral sex considered a mortal or venial sin? are you still a virgin if you perform oral sex?

 

[st_felicity]

For unmarried catholics is oral sex considered a mortal or venial sin? are you still a virgin if you perform oral sex?

Q1: Yes --and the degree depends on many factors that the individual and God alone are privy to.

Q2: If engaging in premarital oral sex, you’ve got bigger issues to deal with than the “technicalities” of virginity. I’d say, no–you’re no longer a virgin.

Just my .02:thumbsup:

 

[PerfectTiming]

I would say you’re still a virgin after having oral sex only because it’s not true penetrative sex but it’s still unchaste.

 

[Corki]

For unmarried catholics is oral sex considered a mortal or venial sin? are you still a virgin if you perform oral sex?

For unmarried people, all forms of sex are mortal sins if entered into willingly.

 

[slywakka250]

I would say you’re still a virgin after having oral sex only because it’s not true penetrative sex …

Yes I agree.

And This is equivalent to all other kinds of sex. its mortal sin if you are not married. the Church says sexual pleasure is for marriage only. all other willed sexual pleasure = mortal sin.

 

[st_felicity]

For unmarried people, all forms of sex are mortal sins if entered into willingly.

Willingness is only one component–and that willingness can be compromised by many things. One also has to understand the gravity of the sin.

 

[Corki]

Willingness is only one component–and that willingness can be compromised by many things. One also has to understand the gravity of the sin.

Not exactly.

It has to BE grave matter.

You have to know it is wrong.

You have to act with full consent.

You don’t have to know how grave it is for the sin to be mortal. Also, if you don’t know but should know, your ignorance does not necessarily equate to diminished culpability.

 

[st_felicity]

Not exactly.

It has to BE grave matter.

Agreed.

You have to know it is wrong.

You have to act with full consent.

You don’t have to know how grave it is for the sin to be mortal.

I understand the distinction–one doesn’t need to know the exact degree of offensiveness that it is against God, but to simply know it’s wrong does not necessarily make it mortal (in every case) simply because it is objectively a serious sin. Much can compromise our ability so see the true nature of sin.

Also, if you don’t know but should know, your ignorance does not necessarily equate to diminished culpability.

I agree with that also–but willful ignorance is a sin in and of itself!

 

[Nelka]

For unmarried catholics is oral sex considered a mortal or venial sin? are you still a virgin if you perform oral sex?

This question arises so many times.
Do you not search for it first?

 

[markomalley]

For unmarried catholics is oral sex considered a mortal or venial sin? are you still a virgin if you perform oral sex?

Any sexual activity outside the context of marriage is considered grave matter. Whether or not it is mortal sin or venial sin involves your understanding that it is grave matter and whether or not you freely consented despite the fact that you understood it was grave matter.

Typically a person asking such a question already knows full well and is attempting to rationalize either past behavior or is being pushed into some type of behavior by his/her girlfriend/boyfriend. Obviously, I don’t know if that is the case with you or if this is strictly an academic question.

As far as you being a virgin, there are a couple of different ways to look at it. Medically, you are “virgo intacta” if your hymen is unbroken.

Morally, I will provide the definition of virginity from the inestimable Father Hardon:

VIRGINITY. The state of bodily integrity in either sex. This integrity may be physical or moral, and either factual or intentional. Physical virginity is sometimes defined as the absence of any sinfully experienced lustful sensation. But, strictly speaking, a person is physically a virgin unless he or she has had sexual intercourse with a person of the opposite sex. Moral virginity means the absence of any willful consent to venereal pleasure; again, strictly speaking, with a person of the opposite sex. Virginity is factual when, de facto, a person has not in the past sought or indulged in sexual pleasure; it is intentional when a person intends never to experience such pleasure, according to the previous distinctions made. (Etym. Latin virgo, maiden, virgin.)

(Note: for those who would say that this gives an opening to same-sex relationships, see “sodomy”)

 

[markomalley]

This question arises so many times.
Do you not search for it first?

Note that this is the OP’s first post. She may not understand that.

 

[Nelka]

Note that this is the OP’s first post. She may not understand that.

 

[puzzleannie]

For unmarried catholics is oral sex considered a mortal or venial sin? are you still a virgin if you perform oral sex?

yes it is a mortal sin, yes you are medically a virgin, but one who is now in a state of mortal sin. Whether or not you lose your viginity in the medical sense is not a barometer of how serious a sin is genital sexual activity outside marriage. It is all mortal sin against the 6th commandment. It is also sinful inside marriage if used as a means other than foreplay which leads eventually to proper ejaculation within the proper orifice, and doubly sinful if done in order to prevent conception. I am using “you” the way OP does, in the editorial not personal sense.

 

[Seatuck]

For unmarried catholics is oral sex considered a mortal or venial sin? are you still a virgin if you perform oral sex?

It is a grave matter and a sin agains marriage. While technically a person could still be a virgin there is damage to purity and chastity.

Definitely should be confessed and discontinued.

 

[ladyvenus]

Any sexual activity outside the context of marriage is considered grave matter. Whether or not it is mortal sin or venial sin involves your understanding that it is grave matter and whether or not you freely consented despite the fact that you understood it was grave matter.

Typically a person asking such a question already knows full well and is attempting to rationalize either past behavior or is being pushed into some type of behavior by his/her girlfriend/boyfriend. Obviously, I don’t know if that is the case with you or if this is strictly an academic question.

As far as you being a virgin, there are a couple of different ways to look at it. Medically, you are “virgo intacta” if your hymen is unbroken.

Morally, I will provide the definition of virginity from the inestimable Father Hardon:

VIRGINITY. The state of bodily integrity in either sex. This integrity may be physical or moral, and either factual or intentional. Physical virginity is sometimes defined as the absence of any sinfully experienced lustful sensation. But, strictly speaking, a person is physically a virgin unless he or she has had sexual intercourse with a person of the opposite sex. Moral virginity means the absence of any willful consent to venereal pleasure; again, strictly speaking, with a person of the opposite sex. Virginity is factual when, de facto, a person has not in the past sought or indulged in sexual pleasure; it is intentional when a person intends never to experience such pleasure, according to the previous distinctions made. (Etym. Latin virgo, maiden, virgin.)

(Note: for those who would say that this gives an opening to same-sex relationships, see “sodomy”)

I agree with this opinion