it appears that the orans was recommended by some bishops as a substitute for hand-holding, (i.e.–do the orans, not the hand-holding) But this recommendation was never put into the rubrics.
Hi JimG
Well I must admit, that’s certainly why
I started doing it! (not due to someone’s recommendation though)
Let me tell you, my Dad (of blessed memory, gone now over 20 years) had a terrible time with, of all things, shaking hands at the sign of peace! It was too much for him. I think all of the hand-holding had started before he fell asleep, I am pretty sure he was aware of it, but he hated that handshaking. Anyway I struggled with the hand-holding for years, and every once in a while I would visit a parish that had it in full force. “
No way out” I would think to myself, and I would remember to cross that parish off of my list. Some parishes even had the people cross the aisles and link up, this went on for a long time around Chicago.
I finally got used to it, but I never did like to grab some kid’s hand, especially if the parent’s didn’t seem to go for it. Then some parents are very protective and make sure the children are between them,
away from strangers, then you have to grab someones wife’s hand. Sometimes it would be some single adult individual and you’d think “what if they pull their hand away?” I’d be mortified. And two adult males who don’t know each other holding hands is just too weird! Why should a person have to go through all of that angst to worship God?
These Roman Catholic parishes are huge, I have never sat next to the same person two times in a row. Inevitably, I would be encircled by people I don’t know, and some of them can be awful cold.
So I started to just lift up my hands on my own and if anyone wanted to grab one they could,
no one did.
Some have posted recommendations for the orans posture based on antiquity. I’m not sure that antiquity is the norm for all our liturgical actions. In our parish, some do it, some don’t. When it first started happening, I was surprised, as it just seemed to appear out of the blue. Some still hold hands. Some don’t. The net result is that everyone is doing their own thing.