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You are absolutely right. But donât forget that mercy isnât only just about forgiveness but also understanding. You understand the personâs situation and try to help that person grow from there. The fact is, there are people out there who has good, loving and honest second marriages. Sometimes the first marriage was something done in jest, because of emotions that werenât mature enough or just something not really thought out of. That is why this is something that is a case-to-case basis. Some people just canât live without a partner. That is true, I know someone like that.I hope I did not consign Orthodox marriage and divorce to the level of the secular world. Obviously the Orthodox is church.
I think you all have done a good job in explaining the economia. However, I cannot see it is as theologically right.
Here is my reason. Economia, as I see it, is basically about mercy â to prevent a person from greater sin. But its usage is so very wrong. Mercy is about forgiveness of sin committed but never thereafter to justify a person from committing it again. âYour sin is forgiven.â âGo and sin no more,â so says Jesus.
And yes, the goal is to âsin no moreâ. But you canât just make people do something cold turkey. More often than not it does not work. For those who can, then they wonât be granted remarriage. I know this is easier said than done, but being easier said than done works both ways. Itâs not easy to tell someone just to remain single the rest of their lives, as it is not easy to say this rule is never abused.
Well, according to the Catholic Church, the Sacrament is undone at death. And by the way, and some people do disagree on this part, but Chrismation is redone if one leaves the Church. The early councils decided as such on how to treat those who left the Church and decided they want to come back. Since Sacraments are graces perhaps it is possible for someone to sin so much that they have rejected all the grace of that sacrament. Curious though that said heretics need not be re-ordained.I am afraid you have wrongly given example the reason for remarriage. But if this is the Orthodox Churchâs stance, it is with her that I disagree with. Marriage, most of all, is a Sacrament. One cannot âundoâ a Sacrament. One cannot undo Baptism and assign to a person a lesser form of Baptism, for example. Similarly for the Sacrament of Marriage (Matrimony).
I agree with this 100%. But again, ekonomia is about meeting the reality of a fallen world. How we wish that every marriage turns out well.So to say it is so that a person will not lose the faith does not apply here. If we believe marriage being a Sacrament is a grace, then surely God, is present there and he is the Lord of the marriage. When we believe and offer our marriage to God because it is his gift, everything will fall into place. Marriage couples have to be obedient to God and not to find solution outside of God.
That is why we meet them with love rather that judgement. God judges, we are asked to love. Also, there is a precedent, which is that Moses allowed divorces. That is why this is the most I would agree with, that it be taken on a case-by-case basis and evaluate on the needs of a person. We always say that the law is blind, but our lawgiver is a King who has eyes of compassion. Sometimes some people need a second chance. I have known people who do have successful second marriages, and they remain faithful and loving to their second marriage. So why would we not let them have that marriage in the Church?People who fall out of faith because their marriage has broken down shouldnât blame God for it but rather to look at themselves for the reason. It may be hard, but God says unequivocally that marriage couples have become âone fleshâ and âno man must put it apartâ. Thus divorce is not allowed. In any case, there are many Catholics for reasons they cannot help, separated from their spouses and yet faithfully remain Catholics. Yes, the road is narrow.
Yes, some stay and remain single. And for the same reason, those people who can stay single should. Those who canât, would we rather lose them than have them stay? The Church after all is a hospital for sinners, not a museum of saints.I have referred to earlier post (post #3) for reference. There is a disconnect here. A person is free to marry at the death of a spouse for marriage is only binding while they are still alive. There is no impediment for a living spouse to marry.
Yes, there may be Catholics who leave the church after divorce but there are also who stay. But this is not the reason to water down the Sacrament of Marriage. With Godâs help through her people in the church, many broken marriages have been saved. And this is truly by the grace of God. Those who leave therefore must be accountable to their own action.
The bottom line is, if one is still in a state of being married, to remarry must be equivalent to commit adultery. Scripture is unambiguous on this. And adultery is a sin, an abomination.