Other people's stuff: HELP!

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Did we marry brothers?

Not only does my DH collect nonsense (I have BULL HORNS in my bedroom, not the loud, voice amplifiers: REAL bull’s horns! :eek: ) he can’t put anything away – so he buys things to replace things he’s lost. Well he’s better about it once I explained we wont have money for thing’s he wants if he’s just buying things he already has – and if he actually cleaned UP he could find what he needed! LOL

So here’s what I do: throw **** out when he’s not looking. Girlfriend - he does not even know it’s GONE.

I also made him join flylady with me. He ROCKS at booging. In fact when I said I wanted to keep something he said “just let go of it already honey.” WHO are YOU??? Where is MY DH?

So do the flylady thing. Give him a trash bag and tell him throw out 27 items. Then tell him to collect 27 items in a box to go to the thrift store. Make him put it in YOUR car and YOU deliver it. Weekle. Saturdays or something. Meanwhile you just keep chucking the junk when’s he’s not home.

Good luck! Oh and start with the hideous potions and long-bad liqeuor.

Here’s to a clutter-free living enviroment for you…sigh, I am soon off to sort record albums myself. Really, is my husband going to listen to POLKA? I think not.

Thanks for the laugh…
 
KCtheMommy said:
Did we marry brothers?

Not only does my DH collect nonsense (I have BULL HORNS in my bedroom, not the loud, voice amplifiers: REAL bull’s horns! :eek: ) he can’t put anything away – so he buys things to replace things he’s lost. Well he’s better about it once I explained we wont have money for thing’s he wants if he’s just buying things he already has – and if he actually cleaned UP he could find what he needed! LOL

So here’s what I do: throw **** out when he’s not looking. Girlfriend - he does not even know it’s GONE.
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See above. My guy is a little sharper than that (but not much). I can throw away SOME of the stuff, as long as I leave behind enough for him to think I have only MOVED it!
I also made him join flylady with me. He ROCKS at booging. In fact when I said I wanted to keep something he said “just let go of it already honey.” WHO are YOU??? Where is MY DH?
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Sigh. I can only dream.
So do the flylady thing. Give him a trash bag and tell him throw out 27 items. Then tell him to collect 27 items in a box to go to the thrift store. Make him put it in YOUR car and YOU deliver it. Weekle. Saturdays or something. Meanwhile you just keep chucking the junk when’s he’s not home.
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You can be sure that anything that goes into my car goes immediately to the charity dump box. How’s this for luck: When my employer closed the corporate garage, I was moved to a lot with a charity dump box right next door. Heh, heh, heh. So far, only my stuff has gone into it. But I can dream.
Good luck! Oh and start with the hideous potions and long-bad liqeuor.
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To his credit, he put me up to dumping them. Of course, he couldn’t watch. And he asked me if I had got rid of anything he would have kept. Yeah. I probably did. But I reminded him that he would keep dryer lint.
Here’s to a clutter-free living enviroment for you…sigh, I am soon off to sort record albums myself. Really, is my husband going to listen to POLKA? I think not.

Thanks for the laugh…
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Let’s have a polka party together. Are your albums LPs? We still have stacks of inherited 78s moulding in the garage.

One good thing about this is that we definitely don’t have mice in the garage. There’s no ROOM for them!
 
Here’s a new one, I’ll bet. My hubby has a small pile of sand on our patio, up against the foundation. It has been there for about 10-15 years. Cats use it. It has weeds growing from it. I suggested getting rid of it before our son’s rehearsal dinner, and he became VERY alarmed and defensive. 😦 There are, of course, piles all over everywhere he has charge of.
 
katy said:
Here’s a new one, I’ll bet. My hubby has a small pile of sand on our patio, up against the foundation. It has been there for about 10-15 years. Cats use it. It has weeds growing from it. I suggested getting rid of it before our son’s rehearsal dinner, and he became VERY alarmed and defensive. 😦 There are, of course, piles all over everywhere he has charge of.
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:rotfl:
 
Albums:

78’s, 45’s, LP’s. HUNDREDS of them. We inherited my grandparent’s collection. We also inherited some very valuable albums, such as one Frank Sinatra number that is worth over $100. Oh and we have the original Sun Records Johnny Cash album. The original US release of the Beatles. Elvis Albums worth MAJOR MONEY. So if we sell them…hmmm…we could afford that homebirth I was asking about starting a fundraiser for on the “Parenting” page of “Family Life” here. LOL Yes, it’s time to purge the albums.

Hey and guess what? There is a great guide out there with current worth of any and all records called “Rockin Records” and it’s a good guide in order to get worth from your albums. However, the STATE the records are in determines the value.
 
KCtheMommy said:
Albums:

78’s, 45’s, LP’s. HUNDREDS of them. We inherited my grandparent’s collection. We also inherited some very valuable albums, such as one Frank Sinatra number that is worth over $100. Oh and we have the original Sun Records Johnny Cash album. The original US release of the Beatles. Elvis Albums worth MAJOR MONEY. So if we sell them…hmmm…we could afford that homebirth I was asking about starting a fundraiser for on the “Parenting” page of “Family Life” here. LOL Yes, it’s time to purge the albums.

Hey and guess what? There is a great guide out there with current worth of any and all records called “Rockin Records” and it’s a good guide in order to get worth from your albums. However, the STATE the records are in determines the value.
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Yeah. If I want to BUY it, it’s worth a fortune. If I’m lookin’ to SELL, it’s worthless!

We inherited the grandparents’ collections, too. Dating back to “Toot-toot-Tootsie”. One step removed from wax cylinders.
 
Sailor_Kenshin said:
The Collyer Brothers scur me. :eek:

Here’s another one:

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Grey_Gardens

It depressed me for weeks after seeing the film.

By the way, how do you make your linkies SAY something?
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Click on the word that you want to make a link from. Then go to the menu at the top of the message pane. There’s a little globe up there to the left of the “increase indent” icon. Click on the globe. A pane pops up and you type in the URL of the link (or copy it from the page you want to link to) in the window. Voila!
Your link is ready to go.
 
some packratty-ness is an illness.
we jokingly call it the family curse.

last week my aunt saw some “free” zuccini
she took all of it :eek:
i asked her why she didn’t share any of it.
she said she gave some to her kids.
i said no, leave some for other people
it never even crossed her mind 🤷
 
Sailor_Kenshin said:
I’m already doing that—the globe thingie with the paperclip under the white smilie. It doesn’t give an option for replacing the URL with text, unless I’m missing something.

npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=10235358&ft=1&f=5

See?

Can’t do it.
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You have to select some type in your message in order to create a link.

If I want to link to Grey Gardens, first I have to type Grey Gardens into the message and highlight it. THEN Click on the globe thingy. Type or paste the URL into the lower window and click OK.
 
mercygate said:
You have to select some type in your message in order to create a link.

If I want to link to Grey Gardens, first I have to type Grey Gardens into the message and highlight it. THEN Click on the globe thingy. Type or paste the URL into the lower window and click OK.
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Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh…!

College pack rats!
 
I told my grown sons we’re moving and it’s time to clear out their stuff stored in our basement.
They took boxes of comic books from the 80s to Half Price Books and made $175 so far. . . I still can’t see much of a dent in the piles though.
 
Viki59 said:
I told my grown sons we’re moving and it’s time to clear out their stuff stored in our basement.
They took boxes of comic books from the 80s to Half Price Books and made $175 so far. . . I still can’t see much of a dent in the piles though.
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Yeah. It’s amazing how much effort results in how little show! I’ve resigned myself to one shopping bag at a time. That way the DH won’t notice it leaving the building.

I’m not going after “his” stuff. But I’m going after anything I can reasonably define as being in the “ours” category. I took my old 1960 high school graduation present – an Olympia manual typewriter that drives like a truck and sneaked it out of the house this a.m. at 5:45. Walked it 3 houses up the block and put it with the neighbor’s trash. If DH saw it with our stuff, he would bring it back in the house.

Making headway getting rid of the old office chair. I moved it out of the library and exchanged it for an attractive chair that was superfluous in the dining room. Now the ugly chair sits in the dining room and I’m announcing 3 times a day: I want to get rid of the chair! He wants to use it for paper grading. I’m hoping he won’t use it and I can make good on my threats.
 
Dacinom said:
Mercygate, you are a witty person with a good sense of humor!

I do, however, sincerely hope that you will re-read my post and prayerfully consider the spiritual side of this. Perhaps you just came here to “vent” about your husband and his pack-rat-ness…I am not sure…

If you do really want to help him make this change then I hope you will consider making a visit to a Priest or Deacon. This is not just a housekeeping matter. Having an emotional attachment to belongings to the point where you are hoarding and it is painful to give things away is a joke for a lot of people but I can tell you it can be a serious spiritual matter. Anyway, just thought I would post again in case it helped. Take care.
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Your point is very well taken, and we are both aware of the spiritual implications to a certain extent. I am keenly aware of the ingredient of power play that can enter this on both sides.

Checking around about OCD & hoarding (not only on the 'net but with psychiatrists I work with – I’m in a hotbed of depression & OCD research where I work – It seems we do not have a problem that has reached proportions that require medical intervention. I’m pretty sure that the management in my parish would also be an unlikely source of help. The Pastor collects Precious Moments figurines!

We’ll work through this. It’s just that I have never seized the ground before in relation to my own “needs” for being able to KNOW what we have and being able to GET TO IT when I want it. We’ll work through this: one shopping bag at a time.
 
mercygate said:
The main rooms of the house have always been within striking distance of presentable …(Don’t even talk about the garage, attic and cellar! …, but almost none of it is mine. …

I rarely get to use my beautiful Tiffany sterling flatware because DH has 4 sets of flatware (all lovely, mind you) that he prefers to mine.

Anybody know how I can find someone who would put stuff up on e-Bay for us on commission?
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Yes, I think on ebay you can find someone in your area to sell your stuff for a cut. Check it out. I am going to learn to ebay sell later this fall after I get some other things in order. Otherwise I could advise you now. Often people advertise locally that they will ebay sell for you. It is definately worth it if you have beautiful things. Because you won’t get as much at an antique shop or a yard sale of course. But people are looking for specific beautiful things on ebay. Check out more than one person i your area that will sell for you before you select one. They need to have sold a lot, and have a high rating from buyers (that means they are efficient and honest and fair). You can read their buyer feeedback. It is worth it becaue the buyer pays the shipping. An experienced seller buys all the packaging supplies in bulk and has an efficeint system to stay on top of the details, thats why they are happy to incorporate your stuff into their system for a cut.

But first you have to get his cooperation.
 
Eliza10 said:
Yes, I think on ebay you can find someone in your area to sell your stuff for a cut. Check it out. I am going to learn to ebay sell later this fall after I get some other things in order. Otherwise I could advise you now. Often people advertise locally that they will ebay sell for you. It is definately worth it if you have beautiful things. Because you won’t get as much at an antique shop or a yard sale of course. But people are looking for specific beautiful things on ebay. Check out more than one person i your area that will sell for you before you select one. They need to have sold a lot, and have a high rating from buyers (that means they are efficient and honest and fair). You can read their buyer feeedback. It is worth it becaue the buyer pays the shipping. An experienced seller buys all the packaging supplies in bulk and has an efficeint system to stay on top of the details, thats why they are happy to incorporate your stuff into their system for a cut.

But first you have to get his cooperation.
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Well, that’s a different angle from the prior poster who thought this would be clumsy. I think I WILL look into it. We have some fine 19th Century pieces that should NOT go in a garage sale!
 
Dunno about where you live, but we have ebay storefronts around here. Just take your stuff in and they do the rest.
 
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