Our Pastor is now a Monsignor

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Do we still call him “Father” when we address him, or “Monsignor” ?
 
It is proper to use the title “Monsignor” for those who have been given that honor.
 
Ask what he prefers. When the now Cardinal Burke was made a monsignor, he told me that he preferred to be called father. There may be others.
 
Georgia said:
Ask what he prefers. When the now Cardinal Burke was made a monsignor, he told me that he preferred to be called father. There may be others.
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True. We have 2 locally and both prefer “Father”.
 
I was very close to my elderly former Pastor and he used to call me by my first name and I would call him Father. When he was made Monsignor (against his will) I asked him if I now had
to address him as Monsignor_____. He replied “Not unless you want me to start calling you
Mrs. _____”

In formal situations he was Monsignor, the rest of the time he remained Father.
 
Georgia said:
Ask what he prefers. When the now Cardinal Burke was made a monsignor, he told me that he preferred to be called father. There may be others.
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You know, I asked Archbishop Vlazny about this years ago too in regards to bishops. He told me he doesn’t mind if people call him “father” because, in his words, “I am a priest.” 🙂
 
Rand_Al_Thor said:
You know, I asked Archbishop Vlazny about this years ago too in regards to bishops. He told me he doesn’t mind if people call him “father” because, in his words, “I am a priest.” 🙂
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In the Eastern Catholic Churches, all clergy (and most monks, ordained or not) are addressed as “Father”

A Deacon would be “Father Deacon”

A bishop is “Father Bishop”
 
It’s really down to how he likes to be addressed. Monsignor is an honorary title given to prelates - usually priests who have given long service in a particular role. Some prelates relish the title and get it put on everything from their Drivers Licence to their golf club membership card. Others are mildly embarrassed by it.

A good way to tell is how your priest used to like to be addressed. If he expected you to call him Father Smith, then he’ll probably want to be called Monsignor. If he preferred to be called Father Mike, he’ll probably want you to continue calling him that. [edited] Monsignor Mike just doesn’t work at all.
 
I would call him Monsignor unless he requests otherwise. When you address someone by his proper, delegated title, in most cases you aren’t addressing his person, you are addressing the office he holds. It’s like calling the Archbishop of New York the Archbishop of New York. You call him that not because he is intrinsically the Archbishop of New York, but because he holds that office. So I find it a bit thick when people don’t want to be called by their proper title.
 
Our pastor is vicar general of the diocese, which means he has the ex-officio title of monsignor. Does he lose the title if he steps down as vicar general. (I might be wrong on that. He may have been made a monsignor in his own right sometime after that. Just assume arguendo that he is a monsignor because he is vicar general.)
 
Our Parish Priest is a Monsignor - the way I have come to understand it is when I talk to him, I call him Father, when I mention him in conversation to someone I refer to him as Monsignor.
 
PacoG said:
Our pastor is vicar general of the diocese, which means he has the ex-officio title of monsignor. Does he lose the title if he steps down as vicar general. (I might be wrong on that. He may have been made a monsignor in his own right sometime after that. Just assume arguendo that he is a monsignor because he is vicar general.)
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No, if he has the title of Monsignor, he will continue to be one.

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