Out from Under: The Impact of Homosexual Parenting

[AveSantaMaria]

Out from Under: The Impact of Homosexual Parenting
secularheretic-st.blogspot.com/2009/01/out-from-under-impact-of-homosexual.html
Here is an extract from Dawn’s web site. Dawn Stefanowicz

My name is Dawn Stefanowicz, I grew up in a homosexual household during the 60s and 70s in Toronto, exposed to many different people in the GLBT (Gay, Lesbian, bisexual, Transsexual) subcultures, and explicit sexual practices.

I have considered some of the potential physical and psychological health risks for children raised in this situation. I was at high risk of exposure to contagious STDs due to sexual molestation, my father’s high-risk sexual behaviors, and multiple partners. Even when my father was in what looked like monogamous relationships, he continued cruising for anonymous sex.

I came to deeply care for, love and compassionately understand my dad. He shared his life regrets with me. Unfortunately, my father, as a child, was sexually and physically abused by older males. Due to this, he lived with depression, control issues, anger outbursts, suicidal tendencies, and sexual compulsions. He tried to fulfill his legitimate needs for his father’s affirmation, affection and attention with transient and promiscuous relationships. He and his partners were exposed to various contagious STD’s as they traveled across North America. My father’s (ex)partners, whom I had deep caring feelings for and associated with, had drastically shortened lives due to suicide, contracting HIV or Aids. Sadly, my father died of AIDS in 1991.

According to a growing number of personal testimonies, experts, and organizations, there is mounting evidence of strong commonalities to my personal experiences. Not only do children do best with both a mother and a father in a lifelong marriage bond, children need responsible monogamous parents who have no extramarital sexual partners. Parental promiscuity, abuse and divorce are not good for children.

From a young age, I was exposed to explicit sexual speech, self-indulgent lifestyles, varied GLBT subcultures and gay vacation spots. Sex looked gratuitous to me as a child. I was exposed to all inclusive manifestations of sexuality including bathhouse sex, cross-dressing, sodomy, pornography, gay nudity, lesbianism, bisexuality, minor recruitment, voyeurism and exhbitionism. Sado-masochism was allued to and aspects demonstrated. Alcohol and drugs were often contributing factors to lower inhibitions in my father’s relationships.

My father prized unisex dressing, gender-neutral aspects and a famous cross-dressing icon when I was eight years old. I did not see the value of biological complementing differences of male and female or think about marriage. I made vows to never have children since I had not gorwn up in a safe, sacrificial, child-centered home environment. I can tell you that I suffered long term in this situation, and this has been professionally documented.

Over two decades of direct exposure to these stressful experiences caused me insecurity, depression, suicidal thoughts, dread, anxiousness, low self-esteem, sleeplessness and sexuality confusion. My conscience and innocence were seriously damaged. I witnessed that every other family member suffered severely as well.

Marriage needs to remain a societal foundation that constitutes, represents, and defends inherently procreative relationship between the husband and the wife for the welfare of their biological children. Children need consistent appropriate boundaries and secure expressions of emotional intimacy that are not sexualized in the home and community.

Why is such a small, unrepresentative clique within the GLBT subcultures wanting same-sex marriage? Mr. John McKellar, Executive Director of H.O.P.E. (Homosexuals Opposed to Pride Extremism) has stated, and I quote:

“It is selfish and rude for the gay community to push same-sex marriage legislation and redefine society’s traditions and conventions for our own self-indulgence… Federal and provincial laws are being changed and the traditional values are being compromised just to appease a tiny, self anointed clique.”

In my opnion, same-sex marriage will put the human rights of the individual in a higher place than what is best for society, families and especially children. Human rights were meant to protect the individual and not groups. In this crucial debate, children’s human rights have become secondary, ignored and denied.

Already this is happening under the banner of anti-bullying, safe schools’ policies and through Gay-Straight Alliances. In reality, these policies provide a direct legal entranceway of indoctrination, desensitization, personal and political recruitment of our vulnerable children by some gay activists within our schools while silencing all students who oppose the gay agenda.

Dawn’s book, “Out from Under: The Impact of Homosexual Parenting.” is now available for book orders at Annotation Books or by calling 1-877-421-READ (7323) Toll-Free or calling 1-360-802-9758 if outside of the U.S.

 

[rpp]

Wow. Sounds like it would be an interesting book. Her experiences and observations should certainly not be ignored.

 

[mdgspencer]

I have heard of some of these other testimonies, which actually exist.

 

[Teen4Christ]

WOW! you mean a lady had a bad parent who was gay! gays shouldn’t be parents. I mean it’s not like straight parents are ever bad

 

[Annn]

Though it is sad that this woman had a bad childhood, there is no convincing evidence that gay parents are any less likely to be “good” parents. They are no more likely to raise gay children, either. Read any of the peer-reviewed studies for more information.

 

[Beau_Ouiville]

After working in the court system for over a decade and dealing with adoption and custody issues I can assure you that the surveys have shown that children adopted and/or raised by homosexuals do not become homosexual based on that fact. On the contrary, they are pretty normal.

And, after being around foster kids since the fifties, I can assure you that caring adoptive homes are much better than foster homes. These are facts which people who are colored by political viewpoints refuse to (name removed by moderator)ut.

 

[mdgspencer]

You ae right, from what I have heard, thechildren do not become homosexuals. But they do have other serious problems, that shows adoption by homosexuals is undesirable.

After working in the court system for over a decade and dealing with adoption and custody issues I can assure you that the surveys have shown that children adopted and/or raised by homosexuals do not become homosexual based on that fact. On the contrary, they are pretty normal.

And, after being around foster kids since the fifties, I can assure you that caring adoptive homes are much better than foster homes. These are facts which people who are colored by political viewpoints refuse to (name removed by moderator)ut.

 

[Teen4Christ]

You ae right, from what I have heard, thechildren do not become homosexuals. But they do have other serious problems, that shows adoption by homosexuals is undesirable.

Proof?

 

[rpp]

Proof?

Considerablyhigher rates of suicide and depression. Poorer grades in school. And, what is probably the worst thing of all, the overwhelming majority of them actually become, gasp, Democrats! The rate of these is similar to rate and type of problems children of divorced parents or children of non-widowed single mothers.

Despite precious posts, to claim otherwise is to ignore reality.

Here are some articles, including one form no less of an authority as the American College of Pediatricians.

From Dr. Paul Cameron

Family Research Council

and finally, the American College of Pediatricians

 

[Beau_Ouiville]

I guess those results are kind of reasonable when you are dealing with kids who probably were in difficult situations. My point is, have the studies controlled for other issues? Is it that fact of being raised by a same sex couple which caused the problem or did the kids have issues based on other factors?

I’ve known several foster children to attempt suicide and none of them were being raised in same-sex households.

 

[Mark77]

WOW! you mean a lady had a bad parent who was gay! gays shouldn’t be parents. I mean it’s not like straight parents are ever bad

No parent is perfect. That is not the argument here. The Church has always taught us, as Jesus did, to love everyone, despite their failings.
Read her testimony and the testimony of others exposed to the GLBT lifestyle.

Listen to the truth, not the lies that so many use to justify their selfish and incredibly harmful behavior.

Sancta Maria, Mater Dei, Ora Pro Nobis Pecatoribus!

Mark

 

[Teen4Christ]

No parent is perfect. That is not the argument here. The Church has always taught us, as Jesus did, to love everyone, despite their failings.
Read her testimony and the testimony of** others exposed to the GLBT lifestyle. **

Listen to the truth, not the lies that so many use to justify their selfish and incredibly harmful behavior.

Sancta Maria, Mater Dei, Ora Pro Nobis Pecatoribus!

Mark

Most I know are perfectly fine

 

[Publisher]

No parent is perfect. That is not the argument here. The Church has always taught us, as Jesus did, to love everyone, despite their failings.
Read her testimony and the testimony of others exposed to the GLBT lifestyle.

Listen to the truth, not the lies that so many use to justify their selfish and incredibly harmful behavior.

Sancta Maria, Mater Dei, Ora Pro Nobis Pecatoribus!

Mark

There is no “GLBT lifestyle”…gay people live their lives in as diverse fashions as “straight people”. There is no “lifestyle” characteristic of a gay person unique to gay people. The only thing various gay people may have in common is the fact that they are attracted to the same sex…what is a “straight lifestyle”?

Based on the men and women I work with the “straight lifestyle”…consists of bar hopping…one night stands…alchoholism…some drug use…domestic violence…divorce…multiple sex partners…now…while I don’t identify with any of these…would I be considered living a "straight lifestyle’?

There is no homogenous “gay lifestyle”…gay people live as diverse lives as straight people.

If anecdotal stories are “proof” then the gay men and lesbian women in the Meeting I attend who have children and are exemplary parents should be ‘proof’ of such.

“Bad parenting” roles…aren’t an issue of gay or straight…but simple…people in general.

 

[dkdempsey]

You have a thing about those homosexuals, don’t you? When you go to the closet to hang up your coat, look out for those pink skeletons with feather boas that are lurking in the depths of your closet my dear.

 

[Teen4Christ]

You have a thing about those homosexuals, don’t you? When you go to the closet to hang up your coat, look out for those pink skeletons with feather boas that are lurking in the depths of your closet my dear.

Lol…maybe. The ones who hate homos the most are often ones who are just ashamed of something


Or maybe she just really really believes homosexuals are evil, I don’t know. Either way, we shouldn’t judge her.

 

[dkdempsey]

Yes, true. When we judge others we also hurt oursleves.

 

[Teen4Christ]

Yes, true. When we judge others we also hurt oursleves.

Yes, but more importantly we hurt other people.

 

[Publisher]

You have a thing about those homosexuals, don’t you? When you go to the closet to hang up your coat, look out for those pink skeletons with feather boas that are lurking in the depths of your closet my dear.

Yes I do have “a thing about those homosexuals”…I have many wonderful friends who happen to be gay. I have had the distinct privelege of serving with a wonderful lesbian who was Clerk of the Meeting. I have had the honor of praying with beloved Friends who happened to be gay.

I have sought to comfort parents who lost a child to suicide because they and their ‘other’ faith tradition couldn’t offer compassion and hope to this gentle young man other than condemn him to the point where he felt condemned by his church and family and faced utter despair and chose instead to end his life and face God now instead of having to face Him at the end of his life where he was told his punishment would know no bounds…such despair his faith taught him. I was asked to speak the Parting Prayers at his graveside by his parents.

I am not aware of any but there may be some “pink skeletons” in my closet way in the back…but I don’t think they would have boas…that would be very un-Quakerly, we believe in plainess and simplicity.

 

[Teen4Christ]

Yes I do have “a thing about those homosexuals”…I have many wonderful friends who happen to be gay. I have had the distinct privelege of serving with a wonderful lesbian who was Clerk of the Meeting. I have had the honor of praying with beloved Friends who happened to be gay.

I have sought to comfort parents who lost a child to suicide because they and their ‘other’ faith tradition couldn’t offer compassion and hope to this gentle young man other than condemn him to the point where he felt condemned by his church and family and faced utter despair and chose instead to end his life and face God now instead of having to face Him at the end of his life where he was told his punishment would know no bounds…such despair his faith taught him. I was asked to speak the Parting Prayers at his graveside by his parents.

There may be some “pink skeletons” in my closet…but I don’t think they would have boas…that would be very un-Quakerly, we believe in plainess and simplicity.

I think he was talking about the OP

 

[Publisher]

I think he was talking about the OP

Ahhh…since he posted after my initial post I made assumptions…