Instead of just saying Yes outright, say this is complicated as God is infinitely merciful so give me a minute to explain as this before I offend you as many people misunderstand this.
Then explain…
We cannot water it down to just make people feel good but we can explain it to prove that truth actually matters to God and that He is merciful.
SpaceGirl, I don’t believe all outside people will go to Hell either, but very, very few will be saved. For this reason.
Even inside the Church there is many people who are damned, by their own choices. They prefer to go to Hell than Heaven and they are Catholic!
We all choose where we will be going and God in his love allows us to reject His will and choose ours.
Now if it matters what we believe, then we should believe what God defined to honestly follow Him. Not what I prefer to believe but what God says. So we need to follow Jesus.
God has the power to let everyone have a chance in any way to choose Jesus even if it is at the moment of death, yet we are commanded to share the love and salvation of Jesus with everyone.
Most people will choose the easy route, their personal preferences, pleasure, a god of their own invention, etc…
True humility is seeking God and submitting to what He is, not what you feel like submitting to.
So God allows those who seem to be many, to choose to reject Him as they prefer not to be with a real God.
So what the doctrine really affirms is that truth matters, God loves us enough to give us the opportunity to choose Him and we either choose God or we don’t.
In Christ
Scylla