Overwhelming sadness for someone I never knew

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I have two stepsisters & one stepbrother. Their mom is married to my dad.

Anyway their grandfather (on their dad’s side) was on his death bed a few weeks ago, so they went to see him. I’ve never met him, or their grandmother, but they’ve told me stories about their grandparents & they seemed like wonderful people.

While they were there in the hospital Grandpa needed to tell his family things that happened in his life, etc. that I guess no one ever knew.

He told them that their grandmother was Catholic. Just to fill you in the three of them were never raised in church, so this was kind of shocking to them.

Well it turns out when their grandma was a teenager (I’m guessing this was in the 1920’s or so) she was raped, became pregnant, & had an abortion. I don’t if this was her decision or her parents. Anyway she went to confession after the abortion, and the priest told her she was damned & that she could never step foot into the church again. I just could never imagine what it was like for this young girl to hear these words.

For the rest of her life she never did step foot into church. Instead she would go up to the front doors & listen to Mass through the doors.

When grandma was dying (late 1980’s) she requested a priest & told him about her past & about that particular confession. He apologized to her b/c what that priest told her was wrong. And he also apologized because she went the rest of her life with unnecessary suffering because she felt she could not live her faith.

When my sister told me this story this overwhelming sadness came over me & is still with me three days later. I’ve been praying for her family (grandpa died last week), but especially for her grandma.

I feel that I need to do more, but what more can I do besides pray?

God Bless
 
Promise to “invite” her by name to every mass you attend from here on out. Make her soul a private intention at each mass. In her memory, make up for all the masses she missed in life.

She paid a terrible price for a terrible sin. Because we have a forgiving God, it was a price she did not have to pay.

Some will see this as one of those “awful Catholic rules” stories. But, by the grace of our Holy Mother Church, here you are – generations and random family links later-- able to do something concrete for this woman, long since gone.

How loving of you; and how gracious of our Faith to give you this means of expressing your love.

:blessyou:
 
I feel that I need to do more, but what more can I do besides pray?

God Bless
What is her first name? I would like to include her in my Mass remembrances as well. What a sad, yet wonderful story. Sad that she had to live this life of suffering, but so wonderful that, decades after her death, she will receive some of the Grace she may have missed along the way.

Thank you so much for telling this - now even more prayers and Masses can come her way! 😃

~Liza
 
What an amazing faith she had, to be so rejected, but to return and go still to the doors to listen. What a sense of obedience she must have had, to listen to the priest for her whole life.

That’s the story of a saint.
 
The most helpful thing you can do for someone who has passed away is have Masses said for them and pray the Rosary and Chaplet of Divine Mercy for their souls. God BLess you for your kind heart towards them.
 
Wow, I don’t know her either and just reading your post made me feel so sad for her.

I can just imagine the poor girl listening to Mass through the doors…😦 Definitely have Masses said for her and for the grandfather - and like other posters have said, invite her by name to Mass with you.

I will absolutely remember her in my prayers and at Mass. I will remember YOU too. God Bless you for being so caring. :signofcross:
 
I want to thank you all for your advice. I’m feeling better knowing that I won’t be the only one praying for them.

Forgive my ignorance (I’m a recent revert after 25 years) but how do I have their names said at Mass? Is it the book I’ve seen people writing in before Mass begins? And if so do I write their names in there every Mass I attend? I feel this is the least I can do for them.

BTW their names are Freeman & Margaret Johnson for those of you that are wanting to add them to your prayers.

Once again, thank you.

God Bless
 
Ya know - it would be so nice to have blank holy cards with an image on the front but no prayers on the back so I could write things like this on them and keep them in my Bible for Mass. Hmmm - someone needs to come up with such a thing. 😉

~Liza
 
I want to thank you all for your advice. I’m feeling better knowing that I won’t be the only one praying for them.

Forgive my ignorance (I’m a recent revert after 25 years) but how do I have their names said at Mass? Is it the book I’ve seen people writing in before Mass begins? And if so do I write their names in there every Mass I attend? I feel this is the least I can do for them.

BTW their names are Freeman & Margaret Johnson for those of you that are wanting to add them to your prayers.

Once again, thank you.

God Bless
To have a mass said for someone, call the church office. It is customary to pay a small fee, usually $5.00. Some churches have envelopes in the foyer. You can fill in the information, put in the money, and drop it in the collection basket.

As for the book in the church, you only need to put that in once. During the General Intercessions they will mention the intercession in the book, but not list them by name.
 
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