Overwhelming situations

[jess7396]

Oh Sonja, HUGS. I know how this kind of situation can overwhelm someone like yourself, you are not a direct participant, yet involved enough to feel like you should be able to fix it.

Can you visit your brother in the CF? Would he be willing to see a priest? He needs a miracle. He needs confession and Communion, maybe a Healing of a good conservative priest’s hands laid upon him to wash him with the power of the Holy Spirit.

I love it that a previous poster said that her mother’s prayers brought her back, you can do this for your brother too, in God’s time (that’s the hard part). Be a support to the girlfriend as your mother is doing and pray unceassingly for your brother, try to get him to recieve the sacraments.

Prayers for you in dealing with all of this, for your brother to be brought back to the faith, for the girlfriend to love her baby enough to give him life and to love herself enough to get her own act together. May God Bless you all!

 

[Sonya]

Yes I can visit him in the correctional facility, but I usually visit him when he takes a pass to my mom’s house.

Thanks for all the prayers and kind words. I will be talking to him tomorrow and I will definitely let him know how I feel.

I would like to distance myself from this situation, however I am constantly being asked by my brother or his girlfriend to give them rides here and there. They do give me gas money. I would feel quite guilty if I wasn’t able to help them in any way I could, as long as it is for a ride to work or to take a pass to visit his child, etc. If I didn’t feel so guilty then I would love to just take a break from them for a time. I would even like to move to another state to get away, but this is definitely not a realistic idea.

Anyhow I will try to talk to a priest about this soon. I have read all your posts and I am glad to get so many wise responses. I do feel a whole lot better. I think that things are definitely looking brigther. I guess I just needed to talk to someone about this mess. Thanks for listening. I do feel like you care about my family and I. I wish I could thank you more, but I am not sure how to thank people for their time, sufficiently. You really put alot of thought and love into the advice you gave me and now I will try to utilize each post. God bless you all.

 

[Cupofkindness]

Sonya:

You are such a generous soul. I have no doubt that God is using you to show your brother and girlfriend His mercy and kindness. Thank you for being a sign of hope in their lives.

 

[StratusRose]

Anna's Mom:

This is one of those times why I don’t understand why catholics don’t believe in birth control. Is it like the same as an abortion? Please explain, for I have been out of the church since I was a child. Now 28 trying to find my way back to GOD. wouldn’t birth control be better than abortions???

But it is the CONTRACEPTIVE mentality that causes abortions! Unmarried men and women use contraceptives because they want to have all the fun with out the consequences. When the device fails, they are in complete shock because they thought that by having sex they could NEVER get pregnant. Taking the procreative aspect from sex and making it purely recreational is when people get themselves into trouble.

 

[LSK]

Sonya:

Yes I can visit him in the correctional facility, but I usually visit him when he takes a pass to my mom’s house.

Thanks for all the prayers and kind words. I will be talking to him tomorrow and I will definitely let him know how I feel.

I would like to distance myself from this situation, however I am constantly being asked by my brother or his girlfriend to give them rides here and there. They do give me gas money. I would feel quite guilty if I wasn’t able to help them in any way I could, as long as it is for a ride to work or to take a pass to visit his child, etc. If I didn’t feel so guilty then I would love to just take a break from them for a time. I would even like to move to another state to get away, but this is definitely not a realistic idea.

Anyhow I will try to talk to a priest about this soon. I have read all your posts and I am glad to get so many wise responses. I do feel a whole lot better. I think that things are definitely looking brigther. I guess I just needed to talk to someone about this mess. Thanks for listening. I do feel like you care about my family and I. I wish I could thank you more, but I am not sure how to thank people for their time, sufficiently. You really put alot of thought and love into the advice you gave me and now I will try to utilize each post. God bless you all.

You are a real example of St. Francis’ instructions: go out and preach the Gospel, and if necessary, use words.

 

[captaincatholic]

Your story makes me think of St. Monica praying all those years for her apostate son, Augustine (you know, the one who became a saint!). She was comforted in that “a son of tears shall not be lost forever”. Keep this in mind, and don’t give up hope on the brother you love, or on his children and girlfriend. It sounds like you have made a breakthrough with the girlfriend already, so now, you might just need to give her the support she needs to stand up to your brother-- or to protect her from more of his lies-- and to keep praying for everyone.

I thought the Jesus box was a good idea. I used to write letters to God and burn them as I prayed. It was a good and private way to release some of the hurt I was feeling, and the smoke reminds us, like incense, of our prayers traveling up to God in Heaven.

God bless your generous soul, and may He comfort your heart with His own Sacred Heart, and may you be wrapt in the protective cloak of Mary, His mother and ours!

 

[Sonya]

The Jesus box is an excellent idea and I think as soon as I get finished making a saint costume for my daughter, I will start one of those and see how that goes.

I talked to my brother today and it turns out that he was sort of ignorant in a few things, like the possible excommunication that came with someone aiding in abortion. He listened to me and he didn’t say a word about being against what I said afterwards. I didn’t tell him that I knew what he had told my mom, but I did say congratulations on the baby. He ended up telling me that his girlfriend had been thinking about an abortion. Then I told him how wrong it was to think of or aid in an abortion and I gave him examples. I even told him that those who do so must go to confession because their souls are in danger. He listened, but did not admit to anything. So I hope he got the point, and I hope that I warned him in the right way. I did this so I could get the whole story from him, and not just from a second hand. I just don’t know if I should have done it that way or directly. But hey, I think that is a start to distancing myself, yet being open to helping my brother out at the same time.