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I feel compelled to remind you, and other celibates out there, not to have an overly romantic view of marriage and intimacy. Frankly, marriage does not guarantee intimacy, and there as many lonely people with spouses as without. Loneliness is experienced as a negative emotion when one is in a state of discomfort any time one is forced to spend time alone, with only oneself for company.
An individual is not a good candidate for marriage until he or she is self-reliant, has arrived at a state of self-love, self-knowledge and self-acceptance (as in Jesus’ command to love your neighbor as yourself, implying we must love ourselves because God loves us). If you can’t be totally you alone, you cannot be present fully in sacrificial love to another person.
If a person is trapped in a negative melancholic state because of being alone, the problem is within you, and has its root in self-knowledge and your relationship with God. Hooking up is not going to help you until you deal with root causes. A true Ignatian 30 day retreat with the Spiritual Exercises is strongly recommended to achieve that level of self-knowledge. Daily prayer before the Eucharist leads to proper relationship with God.
Although these comments are meant to be general, not personal to Mis, I would not speak so frankly if I did not know you are mature enough to evaluate my comments and see if they apply to you personally.
An individual is not a good candidate for marriage until he or she is self-reliant, has arrived at a state of self-love, self-knowledge and self-acceptance (as in Jesus’ command to love your neighbor as yourself, implying we must love ourselves because God loves us). If you can’t be totally you alone, you cannot be present fully in sacrificial love to another person.
If a person is trapped in a negative melancholic state because of being alone, the problem is within you, and has its root in self-knowledge and your relationship with God. Hooking up is not going to help you until you deal with root causes. A true Ignatian 30 day retreat with the Spiritual Exercises is strongly recommended to achieve that level of self-knowledge. Daily prayer before the Eucharist leads to proper relationship with God.
Although these comments are meant to be general, not personal to Mis, I would not speak so frankly if I did not know you are mature enough to evaluate my comments and see if they apply to you personally.