Panhandlers and indifference

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How do you say no to panhandlers without hardening your heart?

I’ve been thinking about about asking this for a while, and was inspired to do it now after reading “fast from indifference”.
 
From my view, that’s a tough call. Many are legit, and deserve some level of sympathy. Some aren’t, and deciding which is which ain’t easy.

We have “professional” panhandlers out here. You get used to them. That’s the ones that have a different set of freshly laundered rags on every day. The best -actually quite funny- one was panhandling in LA just off the Beverly Hills exit on I-5. In front of a Tesla Car showroom. His sign read “saving up for a new Tesla”. How can one harden their heart with that?

Blessings,
Stephie
 
Really look at the people asking for your help. Pray as you see them, that you will see Jesus in their faces, whether they approach you or not. Speak to them with kindness.

The same things that keep us from dehumanizing others works for the homeless.
 
From my view, that’s a tough call. Many are legit, and deserve some level of sympathy. Some aren’t, and deciding which is which ain’t easy.

We have “professional” panhandlers out here. You get used to them. That’s the ones that have a different set of freshly laundered rags on every day. The best -actually quite funny- one was panhandling in LA just off the Beverly Hills exit on I-5. In front of a Tesla Car showroom. His sign read “saving up for a new Tesla”. How can one harden their heart with that?

Blessings,
Stephie
Wonder if he gets donations for sheer chutzpah. :rolleyes:
 
Tough question. Here in Md. we have had an influx of people called zingari, sometimes romani and if they are Irish, travelers. These people will accept alms with one hand and steal from you with the other. They amass more wealth than working folk. You want to stay away and let the police handle these.

Sometimes I’ll see people of every race, creed and ethnicity on the road begging. As I approach I either smell the alcohol from six feet away or their crack pipe didn’t make it all the way into their pocket. These people are more at risk because when they are homeless and it freezes like it is now, many homeless shelters will refuse to admit people who can’t pass the pee test for drugs and alcohol. But if you give them money, it will go to drugs and booze. I usually give them food. Sometimes the army surplus store will have fantastic sales on outerwear, thermal blankets, hats and gloves. I’ll buy what I can and give them out as needed.

The hard ones to identify get up, leave the shelter, take their kids to daycare, work their job as if they don’t go back to a shelter that night. This problem’s above my pay grade.

Another difficult group to find is elderly people in private homes and independent living apartments who don’t have enough food to last through the month. The solution is more complex because the person may need something as simple at a ride to the store, help with budgeting or some have needed some cooking done for them.

Figuring out how to help is an art and you should expect some trial and error. Everybody has an opinion on the subject. I have found that the people who do the least for the poor are the loudest when criticizing your efforts. With trial and error you’ll filter their noise out.
 
From my view, that’s a tough call. Many are legit, and deserve some level of sympathy. Some aren’t, and deciding which is which ain’t easy.

We have “professional” panhandlers out here. You get used to them. That’s the ones that have a different set of freshly laundered rags on every day. The best -actually quite funny- one was panhandling in LA just off the Beverly Hills exit on I-5. In front of a Tesla Car showroom. His sign read “saving up for a new Tesla”. How can one harden their heart with that?

Blessings,
Stephie
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At least he’s honest about it. If people still want to give him money, why not? They know what they are donating to.
 
It’s a case by case thing.
I am 5’ only. Recently, 5 guys walked past me; one walked up to me quickly as if a last minute decision asking for change. “i’m sorry, i don’t.” I didn’t. If I did, it’s still 5 biguns vs 1 littleun. I will not get within arm grabbable length. I will direct them to a food pantry if it’s food they need.
Someone got $5 from me once. By putting a gun on my chest
It’s a case by cautious case thing.
 
How do you say no to panhandlers without hardening your heart?

I’ve been thinking about about asking this for a while, and was inspired to do it now after reading “fast from indifference”.
I do not think that it is possible to do that.
Or Lord’s Teaching specifically commands us to give to anyone who asks.
And He also warns us not to judge others.
So I give to every panhandler, no matter how undeserving that they may appear to be. If they are going to spend that money on drugs or alcohol, I don’t see it as my problem.
My problem in this sad world is my failure to follow my Lord’s sacred teachings in so many ways.
 
I do not think that it is possible to do that.
Or Lord’s Teaching specifically commands us to give to anyone who asks.
And He also warns us not to judge others.
So I give to every panhandler, no matter how undeserving that they may appear to be. If they are going to spend that money on drugs or alcohol, I don’t see it as my problem.
My problem in this sad world is my failure to follow my Lord’s sacred teachings in so many ways.
Which is why I feel badly every time…
we have encouraged many to come to our church coffee hour. It’s going well…
They even have their own on Thursday mornings…
 
The Salvation Army in my city
has a “Friendship Room” where
one can get a free coffee and donut.
There is familiar company and it’s
out of the cold!!
 
How do you say no to panhandlers without hardening your heart?

I’ve been thinking about about asking this for a while, and was inspired to do it now after reading “fast from indifference”.
Charity involves showing compassion and providing what is needed, not what is wanted. Panhandling can enable alcoholism and addiction, and various other vices. It can be abused by swindlers for lucrative gain, while diverting funds from those truly in need.

Jesus call us to invest our resources and talents wisely. Giving directly to beggars without some verification of their story is not necessarily the best way.
 
How do you say no to panhandlers without hardening your heart?

I’ve been thinking about about asking this for a while, and was inspired to do it now after reading “fast from indifference”.
Twenty-five years ago I was homeless and lived out of my car. I got an evening meal at a homeless shelter nightly. I found out that those people that beg for money are using the money to buy alcohol and drugs. You should give to a Catholic charity that helps the poor and homeless in your area. Life Pro Tip.
 
Our Teacher’s words are simple and direct:

“Give to anyone who asks, and if anyone wants to borrow, do not turn him away.”

“Give to everyone who asks you and do not ask for your property back from the man who robs you.”

I see no qualifications here in our Lord’s words.
 
“Give to anyone who asks, and if anyone wants to borrow, do not turn him away.”

I can’t help but think yes, of course to the above. One can still use sense and caution.

“Behold I send you as sheep in the midst of wolves. Be ye therefore wise as serpents and simple as doves.”
 
Our Teacher’s words are simple and direct:

“Give to anyone who asks, and if anyone wants to borrow, do not turn him away.”

“Give to everyone who asks you and do not ask for your property back from the man who robs you.”

I see no qualifications here in our Lord’s words.
I do not think that you quite understand the subtle quality of hyperbole.

The Lord is speaking here in the same manner when He tells us that if our eyes cause us to sin, then pluck them out.

If a multimillionaire asks money from us, are we to not “turn him away?” Sounds kind of silly, doesn’t it?
 
I do not think that you quite understand the subtle quality of hyperbole.

The Lord is speaking here in the same manner when He tells us that if our eyes cause us to sin, then pluck them out.
OK. But how do you know that your quote was “hyperbole?”
 
“Give to anyone who asks, and if anyone wants to borrow, do not turn him away.”
I can’t help but think yes, of course to the above. One can still use sense and caution.
“Behold I send you as sheep in the midst of wolves. Be ye therefore wise as serpents and simple as doves.”
A good point. I limit myself to a twenty for the obvious winos and addicts.
 
OK. But how do you know that your quote was “hyperbole?”
Because the Church has never taught that we are to butcher our bodies in order to reach heaven. In fact, it is regarded as being immoral to do things to our bodies that takes away from the dignity that God instilled in mankind.
 
Keeping a few Burger King gift cards if you work around panhandlers is a good idea. If they smell bad, chances are good they are not “faking it.”

I used to give money to this downtown mission and they would give you wooden nickels that said they were redeemable for a meal and a cot at their mission. I wish they still did that.
 
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