Well, Phil, when trying to figure out whether one should marry a man who lives in a country that is not friendly to women or to Christians, and a country that gives the woman no rights when it comes to any future children, one had BETTER be logical and make some cool calculations.It seems everyone came down pretty hard on this lady, and they usually do when anyone brings up marriage on this forum. But people seem to forget about love. They just dismiss love automatically, as if people marry based solely on logic and cool calculations.
I believe a lot of what you’re saying here, but in general it seems a lot of people are focusing on what happens if the marriage “fails”. Why are you assuming it will? That could be used to advised anyone against any marriage. “If your marriage fails, you may not have custody of your children, and you may not be able to see them”. Sometimes a parent in the United States will never see their child following a divorce, given the terms of the divorce. And the divorce rate in the US is probably much much higher than Egypt. It just strikes me as funny that everyone is focusing on that.I know with Egypt that there have been a number of cases of Egyptian men bringing their children from a failed American marriage back to Egypt against US court orders with Egypt refusing to repatriate the children back to the United States. If the marriage fails, Egypt will deport you and you will likely never see your children again.
In Egypt, there have been a series of attacks by Muslims on Christians. Officially, this is illegal but the Egyptian authorities turn a blind eye to it. Christians are frequently blamed for the problems of the country. Persecution of Christians in Egypt is a real problem and you have to be willing to put up with random violence targeted at Christians.
Also, Egyptian (and Middle Eastern families in general) families are VERY big. Meaning that if the family insists that you immigrate to the USA, it will entail bringing extended cousins and uncles with you with the obligation culturally to house them until they get their own house and even beyond. The cultures are completely different with regards to family customs.
Politically Egypt is a dictatorship. The ruler of the country allows elections but the choices is basically for him or against him with him winning no matter what. It is a phony election. The police are known to be brutal and torture criminals. Sometimes, the police are anti-Christian and bring Christians in on trumped up charges and mistreat them. Egypt is not the most stable or appealing country for a Christian to go live. Many Egyptian Christians are trying to leave Egypt because of the persecution that goes on there. Be very, very careful before going to Egypt as a Christian because you will have almost no rights compared to this country. As a woman, you would have even less rights than a man.
Before moving to a third world country under a dictator, you need to take into account these things. If you go to a third world country and life is intolerable and he refuses to move back to the USA or if she finds she doesnt want to be in a marriage, she needs to know before hand what her plan is and what she would do. Unlike the USA, even after age 18 (most American divorce agreements end at age 18 for contact/visitation) it could be very impossible for her to ever see her children like in this country. The culture is not the same as the USA and they do not have the same laws as this country. This is why she really needs to consider these questions beforehand so she realizes how much of a pain it will likely be for her if this does not work out for her.I believe a lot of what you’re saying here, but in general it seems a lot of people are focusing on what happens if the marriage “fails”. Why are you assuming it will? That could be used to advised anyone against any marriage. “If your marriage fails, you may not have custody of your children, and you may not be able to see them”. Sometimes a parent in the United States will never see their child following a divorce, given the terms of the divorce. And the divorce rate in the US is probably much much higher than Egypt. It just strikes me as funny that everyone is focusing on that.
Just seems a little odd to consider life after a possible marriage failure. I can’t imagine anyone who would think there’s a “good” failure. But I see somewhat where you’re coming from.Before moving to a third world country under a dictator, you need to take into account these things. If you go to a third world country and life is intolerable and he refuses to move back to the USA or if she finds she doesnt want to be in a marriage, she needs to know before hand what her plan is and what she would do. Unlike the USA, even after age 18 (most American divorce agreements end at age 18 for contact/visitation) it could be very impossible for her to ever see her children like in this country. The culture is not the same as the USA and they do not have the same laws as this country. This is why she really needs to consider these questions beforehand so she realizes how much of a pain it will likely be for her if this does not work out for her.
Nobody wants failure but the world she wants to enter is different than her American world. In Egypt, woman do not have the same freedoms that they do here. As a tourist, they want your money and dress things up well for you but the actual daily life is different. She will not have the ability to wear and buy whatever clothes she wants like here and culturally her job will be wife and mother who is completely submissive to her husband. The police there do not do much if a man beats his wife and it is a big no-no in that culture to tell her man “Im too tired”.Just seems a little odd to consider life after a possible marriage failure. I can’t imagine anyone who would think there’s a “good” failure. But I see somewhat where you’re coming from.