Parents on Strike?

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When I first saw this article I thought “how novel” and got a chuckle from it but after some contemplation it occured to me that these are not very good parents. Please!!! How could this be their last resort? Has it really come to this? Parents who can’t parent and get their children to do simple chores. This is a failure in parenting not bad children. Children do as they are taught. Maybe these parents need a good parenting class.

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I believe in natural consequences, but at the same time they had all this time to teach that some things just have to be done.

We all have our own level of comfort when it comes to clutter, but some things like health codes realted issues is something we just have to teach.

That is why I don’t believe in allowances for chores. Chores have to be done, paid or not.
 
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renee1258:
I believe in natural consequences, but at the same time they had all this time to teach that some things just have to be done.

We all have our own level of comfort when it comes to clutter, but some things like health codes realted issues is something we just have to teach.

That is why I don’t believe in allowances for chores. Chores have to be done, paid or not.
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I agree. I don’t get paid for mowing my lawn, or cooking, or running clothes out to the dry cleaners. No one gives me a dime for keeping up the maintenance on my cars, or shining my shoes, or unplugging the toilet. Kids need to be taught that there are things in life that need to get done, without pay. My kids know that if they don’t pick up their toys after playing with them, they go into my closet for a week. If it happens again with the same toy, it goes in the garbage. If they don’t make their bed, I strip the sheets off and they have to sleep on the bed that night without covers.
 
Well did you see in the article that the parents said that they were tired of “begging and pleading” with their children for help??? What kind of parenting is that? Isn’t it the kids who are supposed to “beg and plead” for what they want. We now have a very clear picture of who is running the house - the people occupying it currently!

F.S. Casey
 
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Well did you see in the article that the parents said that they were tired of “begging and pleading” with their children for help??? What kind of parenting is that? Isn’t it the kids who are supposed to “beg and plead” for what they want. We now have a very clear picture of who is running the house - the people occupying it currently!

F.S. Casey
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Yes, what weenie parents. I know people like that, who treat their kids as if they were just and sloppy roommates. Why won’t they help out? How lazy can you be? As if they had nothing to do with them ending up this way.
 
These people need some serious help from Dr. Ray, LOL. Seriously, this is so silly. Just don’t do the stuff for the kids. And don’t let them watch TV, play the computer, do anything but go to school. Remove the TV and computer if need be. Clearly they should have started parenting a bit earlier in the game.
 
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These people need some serious help from Dr. Ray, LOL. Seriously, this is so silly. Just don’t do the stuff for the kids. And don’t let them watch TV, play the computer, do anything but go to school. Remove the TV and computer if need be. Clearly they should have started parenting a bit earlier in the game.
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I just watched the Mom on Fox’s Dayside. She seems wrapped tight. I suspect the 17 year old is the worst offender from her interview. A Typical Modern Day Teenager trying his best to let everyone know, he thinks he is his own man and knows it all.

Typical garbage some teens try. I found her idea, a bit bizarre, but then again at least it is a statement of authority. 🙂

As to the above…they have tried all that…Both are working fulltime jobs. That is where the problem lies now days, in many cases. Children, through necessity, have way too much freedom and little supervision.
 
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I just watched the Mom on Fox’s Dayside. She seems wrapped tight. I suspect the 17 year old is the worst offender from her interview. A Typical Modern Day Teenager trying his best to let everyone know, he thinks he is his own man and knows it all.

Typical garbage some teens try. I found her idea, a bit bizarre, but then again at least it is a statement of authority. 🙂

As to the above…they have tried all that…Both are working fulltime jobs. That is where the problem lies now days, in many cases. Children, through necessity, have way too much freedom and little supervision.
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True, however, I would argue that in many cases it is not through necessity.
 
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Shoot, I’d keep the house and put the kids outside.
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LOL! I would too. They would not be taking over my home. As a matter of fact, we did something just about like that with our youngest. When he was 16, it was a traumatic year. My DH was sick and in and out of the hospital. I was working to try and keep us afloat (yes, working Mom’s are sometimes a necessity.) Our youngest was naturally upset with the prognosis of his Dad’s health, but like many young people took to brooding what he could not understand.

He decided to stay out past curfew one night. I took his car keys and grounded him. DH, too sick to help there either. Son decided to move out and stay with a friend. Every few days he would have his friend call to see if we had found him yet. (They of course thought we did not know where he was.) ROFLOL! His Mom was in on my game plan…

I promptly packed up his posters and tapes etc. Placed it all in the dumpster. Cleaned his room, bought new drapes, and painted and wallpapered it to a very nice clean and somewhat hotel like decor. His room made a fantastic guest room.

A week later, he called and asked if we were ready to allow him to be his own person. He was willing to return on his terms. I told him I sure was ready. He was welcome to VIST anytime. I explained that since he moved out, I had redone his old room for company. LOL! He showed up real quick and meekly, asked forgiveness. That was the first and last time he ever gave us any problems. He is now 34 years old and one heck of a well rounded young man.
 
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LOL! I would too. They would not be taking over my home. As a matter of fact, we did something just about like that with our youngest. When he was 16, it was a traumatic year. My DH was sick and in and out of the hospital. I was working to try and keep us afloat (yes, working Mom’s are sometimes a necessity.) Our youngest was naturally upset with the prognosis of his Dad’s health, but like many young people took to brooding what he could not understand.

He decided to stay out past curfew one night. I took his car keys and grounded him. DH, too sick to help there either. Son decided to move out and stay with a friend. Every few days he would have his friend call to see if we had found him yet. (They of course thought we did not know where he was.) ROFLOL! His Mom was in on my game plan…

I promptly packed up his posters and tapes etc. Placed it all in the dumpster. Cleaned his room, bought new drapes, and painted and wallpapered it to a very nice clean and somewhat hotel like decor. His room made a fantastic guest room.

A week later, he called and asked if we were ready to allow him to be his own person. He was willing to return on his terms. I told him I sure was ready. He was welcome to VIST anytime. I explained that since he moved out, I had redone his old room for company. LOL! He showed up real quick and meekly, asked forgiveness. That was the first and last time he ever gave us any problems. He is now 34 years old and one heck of a well rounded young man.
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HAHAHAHA!!! You are awesome!

My mom did something like that, but not quite that extreme.

During the summers, Mom would take us to a friend’s pool. Well one day she came home and my brother and I kept bickering and arguing. So she said, if you guys don’t stop then you’re not going to the pool. We didn’t believe her, so we kept on going. She didn’t say a word. So we all got ready to go to the pool. And just as we were about to leave, the babysitter showed up. My brother and I were wondering why she was there. So Mom said, “I’M going to the pool, you guys are staying home today.” Naturally, we were mad about that. But the best part was when Mom got home, she told us that WE had to pay for the babysitter. We had to count pennies, nickels, and dimes in order to pay her. I’m sure she wasn’t too happy about that!

My mom’s friends and family still bring that up from time to time. They thought it was a great way to punish us for not listening. I have to admit, it was pretty effective.
 
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My mom’s friends and family still bring that up from time to time. They thought it was a great way to punish us for not listening. I have to admit, it was pretty effective.
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You have a pretty wise Mother there Kevin. I’ll bet your a great person and will be a wonderful parent too. 👍
 
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Marie:
As to the above…they have tried all that…Both are working fulltime jobs. That is where the problem lies now days, in many cases. Children, through necessity, have way too much freedom and little supervision.
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Parents working when kids are teenagers isn’t a problem. Why should mom have to stay home and clean up after them when they are no longer in need of the constant supervision that a toddler needs? Kids need to know that bills need to get paid and in order to do that, people need to work. I don’t think that these kids grasp responsibility for whatever reason, and I don’t think that it’s simply because mom was working.

My parents both worked, and we all had responsiblities that we had to do. My parents understood that school was a full time job for us, too, and therefore, things were done fairly, and age accordingly. Obviously when I was six and my sister was sixteen they weren’t going to ask me to go bring the dry cleaning or to go pick up hamburger meat, that was something my sister could do. I would set the table or clear it. Our rooms were our own responsibility. My mother raised five neurotically neat kids. To this day I can’t go to bed with dishes in the sink. Sometimes, if I’m running late in the morning, I don’t make my bed, but I will make it when I get home, only to get in it 2 hours later.
 
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