Parents Oppose Ash Wednesday

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He can do as he likes at 18 … if they don’t like it they can ask him to move out … he doesn’t have to move out to do something he feels compelled to do …he is not committing a crime.
 
How was he offending the Catholic Church by praising his true Father in heaven?
 
When I visit my parents, I am very much an adult, they do not allow smoking in the house, so my husband never once smoked in their house. I would want to go visit with old friends and stay and talk into the wee hours, however, when you enter the house the dogs go CRAZY and it wakes my parents, so, I came home at a reasonable hour, even as an adult.

Respect for our parents is so important that it was one of the 10 Commandments.

We are called to charity, even when we are a 60 year old adult staying with 80 year old parents. The sort of defiant “I am 18 so I can do whatever I want” is the mark of a rude person.
 
He is 18 … he is not a minor … hence his parents no longer control what he does … they allow him to live there … if they don’t like what he does they can ask him to leave … he is breaking no law of the church by keeping the ashes on.
 
I do the same with my parents … but keeping ashes on one’s head is not something I would take off just so that it didn’t bother my parents … we are talking apples and oranges here … I don’t think your points are a fair comparison.
 
Like I said… I’d have an open discussion with parents and Baptist pastor.

Keep it real simple, not a debate. Just make sure parents and pastor are on same page. They may be, but perhaps not.

And I’d look for my own place.

But if I am staying at their home, I’d ask them to wipe off the ashes when entering. And I would try to not have any attitude.
 
Well that is what you would have done … that is not what the thread opener chose to do … it is a moot point at this time, so I will agree to disagree with you and move on from this subject … it has been talked out as much as it can be from what I can see.

I do think your remedy would have been a suitable way to go.

I do not however agree about asking them to wipe the ashes off … that I do not agree with at all.
 
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all of this is over tradition of the Church. Christ mentioned that putting tradition over the Church nullifies the Word of God and is a sin. He specifically mentions honor your father and mother.
 
We are talking about an 18 year old here … he has a right to keep ashes on his head if he wants to … he is honoring his true Father … his parents were being disrespectful of his right at his age to do what he felt was right for his religion.

As I said before, I am finished with this discussion.
 
if you believe your rights outweigh the word of God i don’t know what to say at this point.
 
God never said that we had to honor our parents instead of honoring Him.
 
When I was 19 a priest told me that I could enter the convent even though my mother was going insane about it and telling me not to … he did not tell me to honor my mother … he told me to honor God’s will.
 
I left the convent one year later … and married afterwards … but the point is that the priest told me at the time not to honor my mother, but to honor God.
 
Katherine438 said:
He can do as he likes at 18
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Sure, but not in a domicile they don’t pay for.
Katherine438 said:
if they don’t like it they can ask him to move out
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And they might, but first they asked he not wear the ashes.
Katherine438 said:
he doesn’t have to move out to do something he feels compelled to do
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It doesn’t matter, it’s not his call.
Katherine438 said:
he is not committing a crime.
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Doesn’t matter…
 
You can disagree with me a million times, it doesn’t matter to me … I have my opinion on this and it is set in stone as far as I am concerned … I have tried to leave this conversation several times, but keep getting written to, so I have to reply. We should just agree to disagree.
 
claiming that I was acting entitled, seemingly just because I am a young person with questions. for the record, I followed the advice and wiped them off about an hour after my dad asked me to, and before he saw me again. so it’s not the opinion itself that bothered me, but the fact that the poster was being quite rude to me from my perspective. perhaps the poster didn’t mean it this way, but that’s how I understood it.
 
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