Parents Oppose Ash Wednesday

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claiming that I was acting entitled, seemingly just because I am a young person with questions. for the record, I followed the advice and wiped them off about an hour after my dad asked me to, and before he saw me again. so it’s not the opinion itself that bothered me, but the fact that the poster was being quite rude to me from my perspective. perhaps the poster didn’t mean it this way, but that’s how I understood it.
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My intention wasn’t to be rude at all. It was just to state the obvious. When you don’t pay your own way, you don’t get to make the calls about how life is conducted under someone else’s roof. It doesn’t matter if it is regarding religion, or the stinky cheese you may like for your 4 PM snack each day. They own the air you breathe while in their house.

I encourage people to be grateful for what they have, and to treat others in a way that shows their gratefulness. You can’t go wrong when you do that.
 
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I was taught in Catholic School to get the ashes and leave them on all day … you aren’t going to change the feelings of a 59 year old woman at this point in my life. I was also taught to go to Church on Ash Wednesday … again you aren’t going to change how a 59 year old handles Ash Wednesday and feels about the day.
 
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I would appreciate my adult child discussing faith based beliefs with my pastor.
 
Katherine438 said:
I was taught in Catholic School to get the ashes and leave them on all day … you aren’t going to change the feelings of a 59 year old woman at this point in my life. I was also taught to go to Church on Ash Wednesday … again you aren’t going to change how a 59 year old handles Ash Wednesday and feels about the day.
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I sincerely hope you were not taught that Ash Wednesday is a Holy Day of Obligation, because that is simply not true.
 
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would appreciate my adult child discussing faith based beliefs with my pastor.
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You are unique. Most people would consider that stirring the pot and causing trouble where their doesn’t need to be.
 
No one ever said it was a Holy Day of Obligation … but the nuns taught us that it is a very important day for Catholics and that we should honor the day in order to honor our Lord … same goes for when I was in the convent … it was considered an important day.
 
Most people get offended at something that they shouldnt be. Too proud and hypersensitive.

A Christian should not impose things that their Church does not support.

I doubt you would impose such a rule, and I’m not convinced the Baptist Church would either.

They still have their legal freedom, sure. And I have encouraged allowing them to wipe off the ashes. I wouldnt want to do it myself. If they want it off, they can take it off.
 
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Ash Wednesday is important because it marks the start of the Lenten period leading up to Easter, when Christians believe Jesus was resurrected. The ashes symbolize both death and repentance. During this period, Christians show repentance and mourning for their sins, because Christ died for them.
 
I’m starting to get very upset at the way some people are acting as if Ash Wednesday were not an important day for Catholics to show their respect and love for our Lord … I have always felt that it was the beginning of Lent … a very important time in our religion … and that the day should be respected and observed … we are Catholics are we not!
 
Ashes are not just one day … they are the beginning of the 40 days of Lent … and of our Lord’s Resurrection … of our Lord saving us all.
 
My own opinion is that displaying the ashes can cause one to fall into the trap of being proud of one’s humility.

Also, courtesy of the late Desmond Dekker:

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I was taught at a very young age by the nuns to display the ashes all day … I don’t think they were trying to instill pride of humility … I think they were trying to make sure we showed our love and respect for our Lord.
 
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same as the priest told me I was not dishonoring my mother to enter a convent and listen to God.
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Parents are specifically instructed in the Catechism about meddling with their adult children’s choice of a career. The priest was correct, you were an adult and you did very much have a right to choose your future path.

The OPs situation is quite different.
 
I see a similarity … of course not exactly … but choosing God ahead of your parents is something that everyone should be allowed to do … the first and most important commandment tells us that God is supposed to be the most important being in our lives …God and all the religious rituals that accompany being Catholic should come first and foremost in our lives.

My apologies to those that do not believe as I do … I know I have gone overboard in this thread with my own feelings … I will stop now … I realize that we were all not raised in the same way or as we grew older do not have the same opinions about our faith … I’m sorry if I offended anyone … God Bless you all.
 
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I have always felt that it was the beginning of Lent
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Ash Wednesday is the first day of the Lenten season.
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I’m starting to get very upset at the way some people are acting as if Ash Wednesday were not an important day for Catholics to show their respect and love for our Lord
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It important that we show our love and respect every day.

It can be odd as we are past age 50 and hear that something we were taught is not precisely accurate. When I was a kid, I was taught that when Jesus came back the moon would turn to blood. Every single time I saw a big red harvest moon, I thought that meant He was coming.

As an adult, I now understand that some of my respected and loved Christian teachers taught me opinion as if it were doctrine.

Do not be upset, maybe do some reading of the Rubrics and find out for yourself.

It is always amazing to those of us who work for the Church that Sunday Masses are not standing room only, however, Ash Wednesday people are coming out of the woodwork to go to Mass. Father kindly invites them to come to Mass again on Sunday.
 
I was in a convent at 19 and was taught what I believe to this day.

Also, I will live for the remainder of my life with the beliefs that I was instilled with during a year in the convent … nothing on an internet message board is going to change that.

Also when I say show our love and respect for God on Ash Wednesday … I am referring to the fact that we are showing an outward symbol of our love and respect by wearing the ashes … it goes without saying that we show our love and respect for God each and every day of our lives.
 
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The OP is an adult, though. Time for parents to respect that.

Never the less, it’s their home. They are entitled to unjust rules.
 
Wasnt sacloth and ashes a form of public penance in the Old Testament?

I dont think it should be an expression of pride, but humility. It’s like public Confession. That we profess the need for Gods mercy and forgiveness.
 
OP, did you know the Ashes used come from the palm branches used to celebrate Palm Sunday?
 
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