Parents

[Joe_Brown]

Today, my father was yelling about my brother behind his back. He eventually started to get personal so I raised my voice and told him to stop. I kind of yelled, but it was really offending me. Was this a sin of disrecpecting my parents?

 

[TLM08]

Today, my father was yelling about my brother behind his back. He eventually started to get personal so I raised my voice and told him to stop. I kind of yelled, but it was really offending me. Was this a sin of disrecpecting my parents?

I doubt it. Your father should sit down and discuss the problem with your brother instead of broadcasting his gripes for the world to hear.

The problem with yelling is that people get used to it and eventually tune it out if it’s done it too much and for the wrong reasons. In that case, it can make for a lousy home atmosphere.

Yelling comes in very handy during times of crisis,like when a tree is about to fall on someone… or they are about to get hit by a speeding car.

 

[promethius]

Today, my father was yelling about my brother behind his back. He eventually started to get personal so I raised my voice and told him to stop. I kind of yelled, but it was really offending me. Was this a sin of disrecpecting my parents?

Something you should understand: your father has a right to discuss both your and your brother’s formation behind your backs, especially if he’s frustrated and trying to work out a solution or venting so that he doesn’t take it out on your brother. Routinely in my job I discuss people’s performance or lack thereof without them present as a means to arriving at solutions for issues or rewarding good behavior to promote positive growth. The problem, IMO, is that our society has conceived of this silly idea that parents should be like friends to their children, and therefore shouldn’t ever discuss or even really push formative experience on them. It is from this concept that you arrive at the idea that your father doesn’t have a supervisory responsiblity over you and therefore doesn’t have right to discuss your situations.

I mean, there are situations where what was being said could have been inappropriate, but I would need to know more details. You should have taken a more calm and respectful approach, however, rather than "kinda yell"ing back at him. Ultimately I would say this is something you should bring up in reconciliation and let your confessor decide. I hope, as well, that you remember that if you have not presented the story entirely honestly here and that if that is making your father out to look bad in a public forum that that likewise violates the commandment that you should honor your parents. I trust you’re telling us the whole story truthfully, but just wanted to remind of that fact.