Part time stay at home Dad

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I do not care to debate deliberate strawmen, so I will simply quote the Church’s teaching on this matter again:

“Mothers, concentrating on household duties, should work primarily in the home or in its immediate vicinity.” - Quadragisimo Anno #71
 
Do what’s best for your family. I will say, though, that I’ve heard stay at home dads say they’ve encountered a lot of obstacles when they tried to resume their careers after the kids are in school. “I took time off because I had small children” is an answer employers are more used to hearing from women, not that women don’t also have a tough time rejoining the work force.
 
Yeah, we had discussed it. She is in agreement that it may make life easier for us both.
 
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Very true and it’s utter 🐂
 
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Economics have completely changed. Theory of relativity hasn’t. Silly argument.

OP I had five years parenting leave. Then I went back to my good earning wage and my husband took 4 years flexible time to be the stay at home dad.

It was the best thing we could have done for our financial situation and fantastic for our marriage. We have such a better mutual respect for each other now.
 
ewohdrol said:
Economics have completely changed. Theory of relativity hasn’t. Silly argument.
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The Church’s teaching has not changed either.

It is, unfortunately, true, that more people with economic power today reject the Church’s teaching on the matter than in 1931.
 
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But not all businesses these days don’t pay men enough to support there families
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I don’t mean to make this about career counseling but if you’re not making enough to support your family, are you taking steps to increase your earning potential? Do you have marketable, in demand skills?

If the only skill you’ve ever bothered to acquire is manning a cash register or pushing a mop, then it seems kind of unfair to complain companies aren’t paying a fair wage.

(This may not apply to you at all, so don’t be offended. Just speaking generally. I’ve just seen more than a few young, traditional Catholic men who want to have big traditional Catholic families but don’t seem super interested in actually building the kind of career that would make that possible.)
 
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BoomBoomMancini said:
“I took time off because I had small children” is an answer employers are more used to hearing from women, not that women don’t also have a tough time rejoining the work force.
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Unfortunately, it doesn’t work any better for women. The work force doesn’t generally look kindly on it for anyone, unless you are applying for traditionally female position such as nurse, teacher, etc. We really need to change that, but I think it is going to take at least another generation before it is accepted by those who hire as legitimate use of ones “career” years. It is a shame.
 
With all due respect women face that reality constantly.

That really shouldn’t factor into their decision. It could happen to her also so is a mute reason.
 
ewohdrol said:
With all due respect women face that reality constantly.
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I acknowledged women deal with it too. My point was that based on the limited anecdotal evidence I have, stay at home dads report even more resistance than women face. I’ve never been a stay at home dad, so I’m just reporting what I’ve heard.
 
Arkansan said:
The Church’s teaching has not changed either
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Yes that is my exact point.

The church’s teachings reflect a time where a single wage can adequately support a family.

This is simply not a reality in most cities nowdays. Thus people have to adapt to their new financial reality.
 
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St. Louis Martin sold his business to support his wife, St Zelie Martin’s, business. He seemed to do quite well raising their girls, including St Therese of Lisieux.
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Yes, St Louis Martin sold his business to growing the one of his wife.
Yes, St Zelie was a very busy entrepeneur and a mother of large family too.
Yes, it is uncommom.
But it is wrong that St Louis "raised "his children. They were cared by wet-nursed, employers at home, and religious institutions (when they were olders).
Louis Martin was in charge of the marketing and selling of his wife and her workers’s point laces.
 
A certain well known priest often quoted on this forum implies its sinful. That may be why the question came up.
 
ewohdrol said:
The church’s teachings reflect a time where a single wage can adequately support a family.
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Pius XI addressed, in condemnation, an era where the two-income household was just beginning to be a reality. As always, the excuse that the Church’s teaching are out-of-date or not modern enough fails to pass the smell test.
This is simply not a reality in most cities nowdays.
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Right, because employers for the most part reject the Church’s teaching.
 
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Wet nurses?! Yet we have certain traditionalists telling us that daycares are mortally sinful unless 100% required… seems to be a disconnect here.
 
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Wet nurses?! Yet we have certain traditionalists telling us that daycares are mortally sinful unless 100% required… seems to be a disconnect here.
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Because there is a disconnect.

The Pope spoke about a time and a place. There have been Popes who spoke out against co-sleeping because babies were being “accidentally” smothered. We know scientifically that co-sleeping is generally the safest for mother and baby and if someone told me it was a mortal sin I would honestly still do it.

Pius XI addressed a time when society was changing. For most of history, both parents worked in or near the home. Working outside the home was very, very new. We’re more aware of it now. Given that among the recently sainted woman a large number worked outside the home the idea that Pius’ words define modern times is a bit off.
 
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Right, because employers for the most part reject the Church’s teaching.
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Maybe the just wage teaching, but not this.

Had I earned my master’s before I did, I could make more than my husband and he’d be the one at home. If you look at the whole Pius quote he’s talking about respecting the dignity of the family and the child through woman, not just declaring women should work at home.
 
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