Participation In Church by Wife (Who has committed Adultery/Proceeding w/Divorce)

[4ourMyKids]

I don’t have a problem if there isn’t one, just trying to get more of an understanding of it. The physical affair stopped in Late December/Early January when the other man’s wife put a stop to it by forcing him to choose. She was completely blindsided as she thought there marriage was great.

What I was trying to get clarification on was that she would not be able to participate in Communion and serving in the Church unless she reconciled or attempted reconciliation, which by her own admission, she did nothing to even try to reconcile the marriage once the affair began. If there’s not issue from the church, I will just let it be. I was also told that if she chose divorce she would not be able to participate either, which she did and the divorce proceedings have begun.

 

[angel12]

I was also told that if she chose divorce she would not be able to participate either, which she did and the divorce proceedings have begun.

You really should ask your priest, but I don’t believe that’s correct.

 

[4ourMyKids]

Ah, you are right, I read the response wrong.

The first part though is what I had the big question about. This was the exact phrasing from someone in the organization.

“I do know that in the case of infidelity, Reconciliation is required”

 

[BlackFriar]

The first is clear cut, she cannot receive if in a state of mortal sin.

I think what you really mean is that the priest may not admit to communion anyone publicly known to be engaging in acts of grave matter. This is no longer the case.

 

[angel12]

The first part though is what I had the big question about. This was the exact phrasing from someone in the organization.

“I do know that in the case of infidelity, Reconciliation is required”

“Someone in the organization” makes it sound like it was not a priest.

Really, whether she can receive communion is between her and the priest. It is not anyone else’s business. Including yours. I understand you’re wanting to make her face some consequences, but receiving communion is not your jurisdiction.

 

[hoping4more]

As others have said, her taking communion is none of your business, in fact until you have an annulment you shouldn’t pursue other relationships either.

However, once the divorce is a little more public, her volunteering will drop of immediately as she will be a distraction to others for her current duties.

 

[4ourMyKids]

I don’t plan on pursuing any relationships in the foreseeable future other than the two that matter the most right now in my kids. Even though she has acted as if the marriage has been over since her affair started, I still wear my ring and continue to honor my commitment to marriage that I made in front of God.

As far as the affair, it looks as if she either paused the relationship, took it deeper underground or has actually moved on to another guy but that’s just a hunch, no definitive proof and I really don’t want to go searching for more hurt at this time anyway.