Pastor sent email asking why attendance is dropping

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I am planning to prayerfully respond to the email below which came to me from my former Methodist church. Even though I have been attending Mass at a Catholic Church for the past year, I am still technically a member of this Methodist Church. The rest of my family are members of the Catholic Church, but I am waiting for an annulment.

Anyway, one thing that pleasantly surprised me about all of the different Catholic churches I have attended in the area is that they are full to overflowing. I don’t have a problem being blunt, but I don’t know how blunt to be with the pastor of my former church. He knows that I haven’t been attending, because I am in the process of joining the Catholic Church. What really started me in that direction were the following trends in our Methodist church:

–Increasing secularization of the Sunday School curriculum (focusing on environmentalism, “fun and games”, etc. and little use of the Bible.)
–little or no activities for teens.
–no childcare for the young children
–increased use of pop Christian songs, decreased use of hymns
–the former pastor teaching in membership class that it was necessary to ordain homosexuals and that the church took no position on abortion
–purchase of “multi-media” equipment and putting song lyrics on the screen have led to almost no one singing the hymns, because they no longer look at the notes in the hymnal (I used to play the piano for the church until this became unbearable)
–the service become less and less like worship and more and more like a self-help meeting.

Anyway, I don’t want to send him a laundry list, but I guess that is what he is asking for. I haven’t told him any of these things.
I have come to believe that the Catholic Church is the one true Church. I don’t know if I am also called to evangelize in some way. All of the items on my list are just symptoms of the problem. I would appreciate any thoughts from Catholics or Protestants. Anyway, here is the letter I received:

"Dear Church
I have noticed church attendance has dropped off considerably this year at [name of church]. If there is something I am doing wrong, please feel free to come to me or talk to someone from the council.
I know a family with children does have activities that involve weekend participation. I can understand this and I don’t feel bad about it. [Name of church] is a beautiful church and I love being there. I pray that attendance will bounce back soon now that summer is over. I have sent cards to those on the membership list asking them to consider worshiping with us again.
If the reason is me than I must be willing to make changes. If I don’t ask then I’ll never know. One person can make a difference and one person can kill the church. I pray I am never that person. "
 
I am planning to prayerfully respond to the email below which came to me from my former Methodist church. Even though I have been attending Mass at a Catholic Church for the past year, I am still technically a member of this Methodist Church. The rest of my family are members of the Catholic Church, but I am waiting for an annulment.

Anyway, one thing that pleasantly surprised me about all of the different Catholic churches I have attended in the area is that they are full to overflowing. I don’t have a problem being blunt, but I don’t know how blunt to be with the pastor of my former church. He knows that I haven’t been attending, because I am in the process of joining the Catholic Church. What really started me in that direction were the following trends in our Methodist church:

–Increasing secularization of the Sunday School curriculum (focusing on environmentalism, “fun and games”, etc. and little use of the Bible.)
–little or no activities for teens.
–no childcare for the young children
–increased use of pop Christian songs, decreased use of hymns
–the former pastor teaching in membership class that it was necessary to ordain homosexuals and that the church took no position on abortion
–purchase of “multi-media” equipment and putting song lyrics on the screen have led to almost no one singing the hymns, because they no longer look at the notes in the hymnal (I used to play the piano for the church until this became unbearable)
–the service become less and less like worship and more and more like a self-help meeting.

Anyway, I don’t want to send him a laundry list, but I guess that is what he is asking for. I haven’t told him any of these things.
I have come to believe that the Catholic Church is the one true Church. I don’t know if I am also called to evangelize in some way. All of the items on my list are just symptoms of the problem. I would appreciate any thoughts from Catholics or Protestants. Anyway, here is the letter I received:

"Dear Church
I have noticed church attendance has dropped off considerably this year at [name of church]. If there is something I am doing wrong, please feel free to come to me or talk to someone from the council.
I know a family with children does have activities that involve weekend participation. I can understand this and I don’t feel bad about it. [Name of church] is a beautiful church and I love being there. I pray that attendance will bounce back soon now that summer is over. I have sent cards to those on the membership list asking them to consider worshiping with us again.
If the reason is me than I must be willing to make changes. If I don’t ask then I’ll never know. One person can make a difference and one person can kill the church. I pray I am never that person. "
Why not send him everything you just said. It’s obvious you are extremely honest and genuine, so don’t stop being so now. Let him know. If he responds in an ill manner, so be it. It’s his loss. Congrats on taking a stand. More people should when they see things that don’t mirror the Gospel taking place.
 
I would tell him (politely, of course) EXACTLY what led you to becoming disenchanted with the Methodist church and why you were drawn to the Catholic church.
 
I agree, send him what you feel with true humility.

I will give the pastor credit though. At least he is trying to find out what is going on.
 
I agree. There are Methodist churches that are full of ex-Catholics. It is good for him to know that it’s a two-way street. Hopefully this will be a small signpost pointing him in a different direction (i.e., greater emphasis on liturgy, reverence, solid theology, clear moral stands).

Edwin
 
There are two Methodist Churches near my office. Well, one methodist one bathodist (you know, they are methodist but they sure do act baptist). Anyway, the more traditional one has poor attendance, the other has a much stronger showing. The traditional one has four services a sunday, the other has two in the morning and one Sunday night. The more traditional one does not want to reduce the services for fear of losing those who like “that time or that style.” It has gotten old in there.

Personally, I prefer the traditional. God said keep holy not be entertained. OUr Catholic church has a very orthodox, traditional priest (not as traditional as some posters on here though 😛 ), and we are growing.

I agree that you should e-mail him exactly what you said on here. Let him see the issue.
 
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