Pat Robertson says Alzheimers makes divorce OK.

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My spouse has very advanced alzheimer’s, much like a 1 month baby, and lives in a care facility (very expensive). I met with an elder law attorney who advised me to
get a financial separation so that our net worth after being divided in half for each
of us would protect at least half of our estate from having to be used for care and then the state would take over care after the other half is depleted.
Unfortunately, New York is one of the few states, I’m told, that permits a financial separation without going through a divorce and I do not live there. My state, however, only
permits a financial separation as part of a divorce. I am considering this approach since divorce is only a civil act and has no effect on the sacrament of matrimony.
What a sad commentary on a society that forces couples in our situation to have to go
through a divorce to protect their assets. I could move to NY but we’d have to live there 5 years first. Until alzheimer’s becomes as prevalent as heart disease, I doubt that neither the state nor the church become more compassionate.
 
I am truly sorry for your loss because of the situation with your spouse. I do understand, but recommend you speak to your pastor before undergoing such a task. Seek advice before doing this. We set an example for others and if we do not set the right example, the observers take it a step further or use it against us. This is a peace and justice issue. Your spouse will need you in the end. I hope our relationship is more than financial.

If it is that difficult, I’d recommend that you consult an attorney, that may tell you to start transferring assets to a future caretaker that you trust - a child. We tried to get my mother-in-law to do this, but she insisted on not following through with it. So an adviser told her to take care of herself first before filing for aid to take care of her spouse, my father-in-law, an elder (bishop) of our faith, previous for my wife and me. She bought a new car, repaired or replaced all her appliances, etc. Then she ended up turning over a huge part of what little money she had left to the state. Before we knew it, he passed away.

And this has nothing to do with a lack of compassion from the Church, as so many cradle Catholics love to tote that ill begotten manner. There is a much more important reason - God - that we must obey.
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My spouse has very advanced alzheimer’s, much like a 1 month baby, and lives in a care facility (very expensive). I met with an elder law attorney who advised me to
get a financial separation so that our net worth after being divided in half for each
of us would protect at least half of our estate from having to be used for care and then the state would take over care after the other half is depleted.
Unfortunately, New York is one of the few states, I’m told, that permits a financial separation without going through a divorce and I do not live there. My state, however, only
permits a financial separation as part of a divorce. I am considering this approach since divorce is only a civil act and has no effect on the sacrament of matrimony.
What a sad commentary on a society that forces couples in our situation to have to go
through a divorce to protect their assets. I could move to NY but we’d have to live there 5 years first. Until alzheimer’s becomes as prevalent as heart disease, I doubt that neither the state nor the church become more compassionate.
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I standby my spouse until the end of my life. Our relationship is more than financial. Divorce is merely a civil issue whereas we would continue as a married couple in the eyes of the church as only death or an annulment dissolves a marriage. Everyone knows that divorce does not dissolve a marriage for Catholics. They remain married in the eyes of the church and therefore are not free to marry again.
 
shows what a jerk he is and that he has any credibility with anyone. I knew people that would follow him as if her were the Pope. Make one grateful for our Bishops and Popes and that they do not say such stupidity.
 
Maybe some of our Eastern Orthodox brethren are reading this thread. There are some EO Churches (the Russian Orthodox Church is one) that permit divorce and remarriage for long-term mental illness.

I wonder what thelr take is on this?

Is there a clause in the EO Rite of Matrimony about remaining faithful “in sickness and in health?”

I think it is hard for many people to see anything Christian about leaving your spouse who is ill. My beloved grandmother (bless her soul) had Alzheimer’s and the whole family flocked around her to take care of her for 15 years before she died. I can’t imagine one spouse leaving the other because of long-term illness.

Blessings,
Marduk
 
ir1shguy said:
I standby my spouse until the end of my life. Our relationship is more than financial. Divorce is merely a civil issue whereas we would continue as a married couple in the eyes of the church as only death or an annulment dissolves a marriage. Everyone knows that divorce does not dissolve a marriage for Catholics. They remain married in the eyes of the church and therefore are not free to marry again.
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Now THAT’S integrity! 👍
 
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